Living Within Yourself

By Bob Jack

This book is about the personal paradigms in our livesthe powerful underlying concepts and perceptions that shape our future life and how these mold our attitudes toward commitment. The book holds out the promise that these paradigms can be adjusted through personal experiences and work on ones self, including self-examination and the help of outsiders.

Important relationship ingredients are covered in the book, including personal agendas that each partner has for entering the relationship and the importance of honestly sharing these agendas in both the premarital and postmarital phases of ones relationship.

The book claims that letting go of the past so that both partners are free to grasp the present and future is important. And the author describes in good detail his own experiences in this area and the struggles that one can go through until he or she can finally let go of past relationships and childhood attachments that impair the ability to let go and accept the present and reach toward the future.

The book also deals with the matter of intimacy, its parameters, and why it is a vital bonding agent in relationships. It explains some of the common reasons why intimacy may not be fully achieved and what can be done about it in order to reach a fuller and richer relationship.

Finally and, ultimately, the most important behavior that the book encourages everyone to learn is to live within themselves; that is, within their physical, emotional, intellectual, and financial boundaries in order to reach and enjoy contentment.

If you are seeking answers to these questions and conditions for living more comfortably, this book is for you!

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Mar 30, 2015
• ISBN: 9781504902878

Bob Jack

Mr. Jack possesses a BA degree with high honors in Economics from California State University at Los Angeles, an MBA degree (Strategic Management) from Azusa Pacific University and a Master of Science degree in advanced management from Claremont Graduate University's Drucker School. Aside from this book, Bob Jack has authored five more books - one about his son Chris, titled a Night in Darkness: The Drug - addicted Child; A Journal on Contract Administration Pitfalls and Solutions on Architect - Engineering Projects; A View from the Eagles Nest - when justice failed, and Discovering Your Boundaries and Increasing Firm Competitive Advantage Through an Employee Stock Ownership Plan. Mr. Jack lives in Harrison, Tennessee.

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Living Within Yourself

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Published by AuthorHouse 03/27/2015

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Contents

Dedication

About the Author

Foreword

Childhood Days

Passion for Baseball

The Move to Sierra Madre

A New Start

College

Career

Behaviors

From Darkness to Light

Dreams have Power–A Baseball Story

Life Today

Youthful Perceptions

College, Salary and Corporate Life

The Search for Financial Security

The Myths

The Urge to Merge

Girls are Different than Guys

How We End Up Where We Are

Finding the Right One

The Marriage Trip

Girl-Guy Agendas

Growing Up-Moving On

Continuing to Grow

Intimacy

Summary

Dedication

This book is dedicated to every brave soul who is willing to enter a relationship and truly committed to make it work.

About the Author

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The author is William R.(Bob) Jack.

Bob is a native Californian, born January 4, 1941 in Santa Monica, California.

Bob is married and lives in North Las Vegas, Nevada with his wife Jane.

He has two surviving children by his first marriage. James, who lives in Southern California with his wife Nery, and two children Chris and Niki and his daughter, also Niki who lives in Wyoming with her husband Dave, with two children, Zach and Rick.

Bob grew up in Southern California in the San Gabriel Valley area not far from Los Angeles. Bob’s youngest son Chris was killed in a pedestrian accident in Bakersfield, California at age 23 in 1997.

Bob graduated from Citrus High School, and Citrus College in Glendora, California and received his BA Degree in Economics from California State University at Los Angeles. He later went on to earn an MBA Degree from Azusa Pacific University and a Master of Science Degree in Advanced Management from Claremont Graduate University’s Drucker School.

Bob’s career spanned 40 years in the various management postions in the aerospace, petroleum, academic research, nuclear energy and engineering fields. He spent the last 24 years of his career at a global engineering and construction company in Pasadena, California.

He is presently retired and spends his time traveling and writing. Bob’s political works are frequently published in The Washington Times and Las Vegas Sun, and are also published in the NY Times, Wall Street Journal and the LA Times.

Bob has authored two books. One about his son Chris named A life in Darkness, the Drug Addicted Child, and this book Living Within Yourself.

Foreword

This book will give the reader another set of data points in her or his adventure of life.

In part 1 Growing Up, Marriage and Career, I will acquaint the reader with my own story which will focus on the lessons that I have learned up to the present. This Part zeros in on one person’s life through his own lens. Romance and finance rank high on the lessons learned list and mine will be described in Part 1. So does lessons learned in growing up along with the realization that being successful later on in life only requires that we apply ourselves, and never give up, and realize when your breaks occur to be ready for them. Luck can play a significant part in our journey, but we can never depend on the exact time or place it will happen—just be ready to capitalize when it happens and try not to waste these times.

In Part 2-The Road to Financial Security, I will describe the habits and behaviors that I followed in creating financial security for myself after years of getting nowhere in this quest. In my case it took the exercise of inculcating the habit of saving and to a large degree a willingness to remain with one employer for over two decades (longer than I had ever been before)—to take advantage of an employee stock ownership benefit plan which in my case happened to result in a nice distribution at retirement age. Risk- taking opportunities will always present themselves, and this decision to remain in one place for such a long period was not without some risk. Always do the math in deciding whether to stay or leave, and realize when your cheese moves you have to go too.

In Part 3 I will explore one of the most challenging, albeit rewarding, journeys in life— romance. Ever wonder about that urge to merge? Do you remember the first time you felt it? Do you remember who it was and what you did about it?

The urge to merge is a powerful force. It has been a major motivator at some time in just about everyone’s life. How has it affected your life? Are you happy with the results or do you want that urge to produce better results and work out better?

What are the ingredients of the happy guy-girl merger? Do you have your finger on the answer and have you learned the secret of success?

Girls and guys are very different. Have you ever given any thought to how girl-guy agendas differ and how they have affected your relationships? What are these agendas anyway, and how can you distinguish them? Is your agenda realistic?

Has your past ever gotten in the way of your present urge to merge and subsequent relationships? Do you still hang on to past relationships and childhood attachments? Do you know how to get over them?

Also, continued personal growth requires self- examination which is vital to a lasting relationship. Do you know how to achieve it?

Intimacy vitalizes every romantic relationship. What exactly is intimacy? What is chemistry and how is it related to