Compatibility a Key to Success and Happiness: With a Guide for Lonely Seniors Looking for Spouse Number 2

By Eugene Swaney

Compatibility is the quintessential characteristic of positive, successful associations of varying kinds. Here it applies to lonely single seniors who, for varying reasons, lost their spouses.

Knowledge about how to attract a compatible second spouse is central to composing this book.

With realism and authenticity, the author recalls memories of the trauma caused by losing his own wife to cancer in 20-12

Knowledge about how to compose an effective, well-written profile is the key to successfully acquiring a spouse number 2.

Explaining the immense importance of compatibility and demonstrating how to write an effective personal profile are important goals of this writing.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jan 14, 2014
• ISBN: 9781483621210

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Copyright © 2014 by Eugene Swaney.

Library of Congress Control Number:          2013906275

ISBN:          Hardcover          978-1-4836-2120-3

                   Softcover            978-1-4836-2119-7

                   eBook                  978-1-4836-2121-0

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Rev. date: 06/27/2014

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Contents

Part 1     Preliminary and related stimulating thoughts

Part 1 The rhyming verses and the imaginary anecdote

The Question

Who Is Compatible?

The Other Room

Introduction

What’s in this book?

Part 2     Compatibility

Life cluster compatibility

Interim educational experiences with some incompatible ladies

Steps to a better understanding

Part 3     The Personal Profile

Personal profile guidelines

Whom should i write?

Part 4     A Copacetic Lifestyle

Fifteen quintessential features

Photographic features

Part 5     Problems

Compatible Sharing and Needs Satisfaction

Coping with Change

Adjustment: And Adaptation

Part 6     The challenge and the sources of happiness

Part 7     Glossary

Part 8     Evaluation

Red flag negatives

Gold flag qualities

Incompatible relationships

Miscellaneous

Book cover jacket information

A Brief Chronology of the Author

In Years of Old I Did

Compatibility in One Hundred Words

Effective Compatibility

DEDICATION

To the young at heart,

May you successfully persevere

In your pursuit of happiness

PART 1

Preliminary and related

stimulating thoughts

The following verses and an imaginary anecdote contain some related as well as stimulating thoughts and musings.

PART 1

THE RHYMING VERSES AND THE IMAGINARY ANECDOTE

The objective of introducing our subject with the rhyming verses and a brief sentimental imaginary anecdote is to treat and consider the more or less serious subjects in the book in a somewhat lighthearted, sentimental manner. I hope that by doing so, I will attract some interest in the book and spur him or her to read on. At the same time, hopefully, these brief literary insertions will all the while be directing the reader to the positive advantages reaped when, in his or her seniority, one shares his or her life with a compatible person.

THE QUESTION

Is it better to live one’s life alone,

or find someone to share it with?

Are we so attached to a freedom zone

that wedded cheer has become a myth?

Does a woman need to share with a man,

or can she be happier living by herself?

Is birthing a family the better plan

than stuck away lonely on a singles shelf?

Marriage is certainly a firm commitment;

it keeps us from beating around the bush,

it urges us on to keep our families content,

and for that family support, it gives us a push.

It’s true that life can be happy or sad,

but that’s what sharing’s all about.

We can commiserate when times are bad,

and celebrate the good with a festive shout.

Are two heads any better than one?

Well yes, when compatible—indeed.

Sharing the good side of life can be fun;

but sometimes, for assistance, we’re all in need.

Life is replete with difficult situations.

Many are important and need to be resolved.

Some concern difficult and thoughtful negotiations,

requiring both husband and wife to get involved.

Truly, it’s not fun just staring at a wall,

with no one to talk to, joke with, or share views.

Especially when lonely silence begins to pall

and distractions have withered to a precious few.

Cooking for one just doesn’t present the challenge.

As keeping house needs a partner’s appreciation.

With a friend it’s desirable the furniture to rearrange,

and alter one’s space for a more pleasing conformation.

In short, find a mate who likes to have fun.

Working all the time can make life dreary.

There are many things to do under the sun,

but in being too dedicated, let’s be quite leery.

A key to happiness is a compatible mate,

as most couples walking arm in arm will agree.

Two united can more aptly guide their fate,

as they fashion their lives in pleasant harmony.

So find for yourself that most compatible person.

Confidently seek a second self, your alter ego.

Pursue life within your heart’s desire, yet with reason,

as you enjoy the gift of life while moving with the flow.

To the essential question: is it better to share?

Some might thoughtlessly respond, I don’t think so.

But listen then to another more thoughtful pair

as they exclaim, Those unwitting singles, they just don’t know.

THE QUESTION

The rhyming verses under the title The Question pose several important questions for us. Indeed, they capsulate the heart and central thought in this writing, which is the value and significance of sharing one’s life with another compatible person. Although we are given a variety of negative directions, positive ones appear to be the most prominent and overpower the negative choices.

A firm commitment and a contented family tell us in concentrated form what marriage can involve. Living alone and staring at the wall while in the singles group is the possible negative result of nonmarriage, a reverse of marriage contentment constituted of sharing and celebrating the good things. The single life can get old, while marriage continues to present challenges that keep it interesting. Dreariness and pallor signify the lonely single life, while compatibility and family fun refer to possibilities of the married union.

WHO IS COMPATIBLE?

One usually quite agreeable.

A harmonious soul she or he

with life composed and stable,

a being unburdened and free.

One thankful for life, a great gift.

The good received with pleasure.

The bad, one resolves to uplift,

and thanks be to God for good measure.

One protective of physical health.

Nothing to deteriorate the body.

Good health is richer than wealth,

no abuses to make life shoddy.

One with a mind yet so active,

still to make so many decisions.

Continues to view life as so attractive,

and sees it through thoughtful visions.

One amazed at nature’s variety,

a multitude of forms and color.

A feeling of complete satiety,

while squelching any melancholy dolor.

One who enjoys new spaces

at home and in foreign lands.

Natural and man-made places,

oceans, cities, and desert sands.

One whose work is now through.

Retirement is a welcome repose.

Now’s time for fun things to do,

and enjoy the riches of life as it slows.

But life is not over as yet.

One needs a partner to share.

So connect with a person well met,

and see if true love is there.

WHO IS COMPATIBLE?

Here are some of the key words that can help us identify it compatibility. In short, those describe the ones who are agreeable, harmonious, composed, stable, unburdened, free, thankful, uplifting, resolving, protective, active, and have thoughtful visions, are amazed, enjoy, share, resolve and welcome repose.

It appears that according to this list, positive aspects of life tend to rule the day, as a wide range of compatible influences and conduct apply. Negative descriptions—such as shoddy, deteriorating, squelching, and melancholy—are fewer and further between, as such descriptions are forced into the backseat since compatibility is the driving force.

THE OTHER ROOM

I went into the other room and said, Good morning, dear, to the person there.

With a cheery smile, she looked up from what she was doing and said, Good morning to you, in return. It was comforting, her cheerful voice and joyful presence.

She made that room come alive, and I could feel the welcoming atmosphere. Even during the few hours when I was absent, out and about, doing my own thing, it felt good to know someone was there whom I cared for and who cared for me.

It might sound strange to