Crickets Are Chirping but No One Can Hear Them: When Loved Ones Develop Dementia and Loss of Hearing
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Inge Logenburg Kyler
Inge Logenburg Kyler grew up in the Pennsylvania Alleghany Mountains and attended school in Clearfield, Pennsylvania before moving to Lansing, Michigan in her senior year, graduating from J. W. Sexton High School. Inge married Arthur J. Kyler October 30, 1954 and has three children, three grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. Inge has been writing since fourth grade and has published over twenty plus books and hundreds of poems, many of which have been published here and there. Her career was mostly in township government which included graduating from Spring Arbor College in 1991 with a Batchelor of Arts Degree in 1991. In 2014 she received the Ingham County Historical Commission Heritage Award for her book “Holt and Delhi Township” published by Arcadia Publishing Company.
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Crickets Are Chirping but No One Can Hear Them - Inge Logenburg Kyler
Crickets Are Chirping
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No One Can Hear Them
When Loved Ones Develop Dementia and Loss of Hearing
Inge Logenburg Kyler
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CONTENTS
PRELUDE
CHAPTER 1
CHAPTER 2
CHAPTER 3
CHAPTER 4
CHAPTER 5
CHAPTER 6
CHAPTER 7
CHAPTER 8
CHAPTER 9
CHAPTER 10
CHAPTER 11
CHAPTER 12
CHAPTER 13
CHAPTER 14
POSTSCRIPT
PRELUDE
When my mother was in her late eighties, my sister and I realized we were suddenly faced with problems we didn’t know how to handle. We both searched for books to read on what to do. We couldn’t find the support we needed. I began keeping a journal and vowed to write my own story.
Watching parents have health problems while they age is a wrenching time. Decisions that must be made with them or for them is not easy. Some people manage to keep their parents at home and care for them, but that’s not possible for everyone to do. Each person has to weigh the pros and cons of each decision.
It’s not honors and certificates or degrees that make people famous or important. Rather, it’s how a life is lived, how it is shared, and who that life touches. Mom touched a lot of lives. In our eyes, she was a great lady. May the story of her later years give encouragement to others who are faced with similar concerns. Most of all, we found that keeping a sense of humor throughout the crises we were all enduring, was important. It wasn’t easy, especially when we saw the effects of Mom’s declining health. But we tried.
This story would not have been possible without the loving care of Maplewood Home, Inc. staff under the leadership of Betty Breakey. Nor would it have been possible without the care of Mom’s primary physician, Dr. Edward Ball, who was so patient and understanding. Nor would it have been possible without support of our own family members, such as my patient husband who helped throughout the many years of concern and care; and my loving sister and her husband, who shared with the care and love, as well. We did things together.
We may not have always agreed with each other in our decision-making, but we cooperated in a spirit of love that Mom would have appreciated. Also, our families need to be thanked for their understanding while we spent so much time with gramma and grandpa. We hope that when our time comes, someone will care about us as much as we cared about those two precious souls, Mom and Sam.
Wintering
It is a subtle thing, this wintering.
One day the fields are lush and green
and edged in hepatica along the fence row
with blossoms that sometimes are lost
to storm clouds and heavy rains.
But then we awaken one morning
to snow cresting on freshly plowed cornrows
and trees that tower stark and lonely
devoid of leaves, and we wonder,
what happened in between?
How did this transaction occur, and when?
We know only that migrating birds,
the cedar waxwing, the longspur, the sandhill crane
visit but momentarily as they rest
and swoop over our dwelling on their journey south
to leave us standing in the doorway watching,
an ache in our hearts and a longing in our souls.
We suddenly feel very alone.
We are suddenly like those migrating birds,
here for a summer, and then
it is fall and we must move on.
We store memories away like dried roses
to reflect upon.
Leaves bloom and fall. Doors open and close
and another chapter in our life is finished.
CHAPTER 1
It was 11 a.m. before I got through on the telephone. Mom,
I asked, would you like to come over today?
My sister and I had mother on alternate weekends. This was my weekend.
No,
Mom said. It’s too cold to go out.
Well then, I thought, perhaps we could have a tea party at her place. I heated a pot full of tea and poured it carefully in the big thermos and packed two small teacups with saucers, a spoon and napkins, along with a little cloth, into a satchel.
Earlier in the day I had baked some spice cupcakes. I selected half a dozen and placed them in a tin, grabbed my crewel needlework, and decided I was ready to go. I was prepared to spend the whole afternoon if she wanted me to.
Your mother really misses you girls,
said Frances, the bedridden resident in Room I, and I felt a tinge of guilt because I came only every other weekend. Since I worked during the day and often had to attend meetings in the evening, as well, every other weekend was the best I could do. If I lived