Raising the Balance: Single Parenting

By Bianca Archibald Minor

This book Raising the Balance: Single Parenting is a personal experience of a single mother, while balancing the multiple aspect of life. My Pastor, Dr. Ralph Douglas West, has taught us that any help or need we may have for balancing life, can be found in the Bible. The points made in this book deals with the many facets of life when raising children, while using a biblical point of view along with my experience to help in dealing with that particular situation.

I am presently in the process of fi nishing the study guide to this book. It will give a more detailed look for the studious Christian, who would like to dig deeper into what God has to say about parenting and balancing life as a whole.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Aug 31, 2007
• ISBN: 9781469122588

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Raising The Balance

Single Parenting

Bianca Archibald Minor

Copyright © 2007 by Bianca Archibald Minor.

ISBN :   Softcover      978-1-4257-5977-3

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Contents

CHAPTER ONE

CHAPTER TWO

CHAPTER THREE

CHAPTER FOUR

CHAPTER FIVE

CHAPTER SIX

CHAPTER SEVEN

CHAPTER EIGHT

CHAPTER NINE

CHAPTER TEN

CHAPTER ELEVEN

CHAPTER TWELEVE

CHAPTER THIRTEEN

CHAPTER FOURTEEN

CHAPTER FIFTEEN

CHAPTER SIXTEEN

THE NIGHT I FELL IN LOVE

Oh No, I can’t believe this has happened to me

How could it be?

When did it start?

At first, when we were apart

I began to miss and yearn for him

I thought it was all on a whim

And that I was only going through

A stage of loneliness and woe

But no!

It was more than just a whimsical feeling

For my soul was in for a healing

While my heart was to be broken into pieces

How did this happened

Again, I ask myself

How could it be?

When did it start?

When did my world fall apart?

By Bianca Archibald Minor

(THE RAMBLING OF A WOMAN IN LOVE)

I’ve got to hold on

For this I know is the one

Can’t get discouraged

And allow the pain to take over my soul

Need to grasp for leverage

Why can’t I fight?

It hits you like a bullet

Fast and clean

Your body’s in shock

The pain comes after

As the shock wears off

And your body takes in the pain

I must be insane

Please, if you’re looking down from up above

I hope you’re listening to the rambling of this woman in love

By Bianca Archibald Minor

CHAPTER ONE

Being left alone

Becoming a single parent is an obstacle we don’t ever think we will have to encounter. We marry with the idea that our marriages will last forever, therefore divorce is the furthest thing from our mind.

This book is not advocating divorce. I believe that marriage is a sacred bond that should not be dissolved, except under the most extreme circumstances. In Matthew 19:1-10, Jesus talks about divorce and marriage. When the Pharisees, yet again, tried to trap Jesus by asking Him should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for any reason, Jesus answered by telling them that God made man and woman and that the man leaves his father and mother to join his wife and they are united into one, and no one can separate them because God joined them together. The Pharisees proceeded to ask, Then why did Moses say that a man can write an official letter of divorce and send his wife away? Jesus replied in verse 8, Moses permitted divorce as a concession to your hard-hearted wickedness, but it was not what God had originally intended. In verse 9 He continues, And I tell you this, a man who divorces his wife and marries commits adultery—unless his wife had been unfaithful.

This does not mean that a person should automatically file for a divorce when adultery is the factor. I believe that sound Christian counseling can become a positive aspect of the solution.

Since our tolerance level may vary, these said circumstances might differ from one couple to the next. For example, an extramarital affair is not acceptable at all, but with the proper counseling, communication and forgiveness, the couple might be able to work it out. On the other hand, what if this same incident happened to another couple, and there is counseling involved; but the incident in question is so emotionally unbearable, that they are unable to handle living together? In this situation, we must remember that we are all sinners. Romans 3:23 says, For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, as God forgives us, He expects us to forgive each other. No one can live up to what God created us to be; we all fall short of his glory.

There are other mediating causes