Creating Well-Being for Couples and Families: Increasing Health, Spirituality, and Happiness
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Individual, couple, and family health and happiness give you energy, time, and well-being to build unity with friends and family, participate in excellent work, and engage in community service. You are kind to yourself and others. You show up. You make a positive contribution. When you are united in creating well-being, you are healthier as indi
Susanne M Alexander
Susanne M. Alexander is a Relationship and Marriage Educator and Coach, book author, and publisher with Marriage Transformation®. She is certified to offer couple's assessments through Prepare-Enrich® and for individuals with the Character Foundations Assessment™. Susanne is passionate about facilitating individuals and couples making good character, relationship, and marriage choices through building knowledge and skills. Couples who make excellent choices create happy, healthy relationships and marriages and prevent divorces. Susanne meets with individual and couple clients globally via the internet for character growth, relationship and marriage preparation, and couple relationship and marriage strengthening. Susanne writes articles and books about character, relationships, and marriage. She also develops online courses for healthy relationships, marriages, and families. She is a member of the National Alliance for Relationship and Marriage Education (NARME). Susanne shares: "I have had an adventurous time with relationships and marriages. My first marriage gave me a daughter-and now son-in-law and two granddaughters. However, it was very difficult, as he had many illnesses. The marriage ended in divorce when our daughter was 18. I married again, a very happy marriage, with three young adult stepchildren. We offered marriage preparation and marriage enrichment efforts together. This second husband died from brain cancer just before our 10th wedding anniversary. Matching websites, dating experiences, and moving led me to find a third husband with two adult stepchildren, and we are in a happy marriage. With all these adventures, along with professional education, I have had many opportunities to experience, observe, and learn about the importance of finding someone with many character strengths to marry and then building a good marriage partnership with them. It has not been easy, but when I have learned relationship skills and when marriage works well with love, friendship, and consultation, it's a great place to be." Susanne is originally from Canada and now lives with her husband Phil L. Donihe in Tennessee, in the United States. They often collaborate in working with individuals and couples. He is a coach and also certified with the Character Foundations Assessment™. Susanne's books can be purchased through her website www.marriagetransformation.com and many other online bookstores. Anyone wishing a discount on bulk purchases for group use or for re-selling should contact her directly. Susanne@marriagetransformation.com; www.marriagetransformation.com; www.transformationlearningcenter.com; https://www.instagram.com/marriagetransformation/; Twitter: marriage4ever; https://www.facebook.com/MarriageTransformation; https://www.linkedin.com/in/susannemalexander/; https://www.youtube.com/user/SusanneMAlexander
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Creating Well-Being for Couples and Families - Susanne M Alexander
GETTING STARTED
What is Well-Being?
Science shows that involvement in social relationships benefits health. When both of you are demonstrating self-respect and happiness, you are more likely to be healthy. Well-being includes your physical health but goes beyond to include mental, emotional, social, and spiritual aspects. The Bahá’í teachings say this:
… [M]an’s supreme honor and real happiness lie in self-respect, in high resolves and noble purposes, in integrity and moral quality, in immaculacy of mind.
⁴ ‘Abdu’l-Bahá
As a couple, the more you integrate and harmonize all aspects of health and create well-being, the happier you are likely to be. It works from the other direction too: The happier you are, the likelier you will both be healthy. With well-being, you feel more in balance,
and there is a flow
of positive energy between you as a couple and between your activities.
When the two of you are healthy and happy together, you have more energy and time to parent well, see friends and family, and participate in your work and community service. You are present. You show up. You make a positive difference.
As you collaborate, accompany, and encourage each other, health and happiness increase. When you are united in creating well-being, you are healthier as individuals and in your relationship. Science has discovered this insight:
Eating right and moving more—especially if we want to do these things on a regular basis and over a long span of time—are easier when we are inspired, cajoled, praised, and supported by the people who matter the most to us in our daily lives.
⁵ Thomas N. Bradbury, PhD, and Benjamin R. Karney, PhD
When you cooperate as a team, you are more likely to:
• Turn to each other to talk about your challenges
• Make and keep medical and dental appointments
• Eat healthier meals
• Reduce harmful habits
• Have stronger immune systems
• Seek help as needed
• Recover faster when you become ill
As equal partners, you look at the totality of your lives and choose the roles and responsibilities that are fair and respectful to both of you. You avoid the pitfalls of dominating each other, doing constant reminders, hiding behavior, or criticizing each other’ actions. Instead, you look for ways to share your experiences, and you are more likely to encourage and help each other. You contribute to one another physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Being Intentional with Your Focus
Creating couple well-being is an intentional choice and process. You:
• Consciously pause to assess what you are doing and why
• Envision the outcomes you want to achieve
• Make choices, decisions, and commitments as a couple about what is best for your individual and mutual health and happiness
• Choose the words and actions that create a good outcome
Your commitment to health and happiness is vital. Consider this wisdom:
Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.
⁶ W. H. Murray
Being intentional affects small and large choices in your life, such as for example:
• How often you pray
• How you manage household tasks
• How many hours a day you work and/or do service
• What major health and medical decisions you make
When you stop being conscious and intentional, you can ignore something that doesn’t function well in your home, and you can neglect symptoms of illness. However, when you deny what is happening or stop paying attention, you are more likely to become ill, unhappy, or fight with each other. Doing a check on your reality and addressing what’s happening in all areas of your lives, empowers you to be in action and reduces stress.
Considering Your Priorities
Couples have greater well-being when they are clear about their values, priorities, and purposes in life. These purposes are important drivers of your time and well-being priorities. Purposes could include striving for excellence with:
• Your relationship or marriage
• Parenting and family
• Spiritual activities
• Community service
• Profession
• Physical fitness
As you talk about what is important to both of you, consider in what ways you feel called to contribute to the lives of others, separately or together. When you know your purposes and priorities, being intentional empowers you to convert dreams into purposeful actions.
Start Small and Grow Your Goals
Translating your hopes and wishes into intentional action can seem daunting. It’s often best to begin in small ways. Throughout this guide are action suggestions. Small ones are good to start with, such as:
• Pack healthier lunches
• Go for a walk one evening a week together
• Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep at least once a week
• Spend 10 minutes meditating together one morning a week
You can grow your goals over time and with practical and successful experiences. In this way, you will be intentionally creating your well-being as a couple and from you as a couple out to your family.
1 - CHARACTER
Reflections:
The belief that we can rely on shortcuts to happiness, joy, rapture, comfort, and ecstasy, rather than be entitled to these feelings by the exercise of personal strengths and virtues, leads to legions of people who in the middle of great wealth are starving spiritually. Positive emotion alienated from the exercise of character leads to emptiness, to inauthenticity, to depression, and, as we age, to the gnawing realization that we are fidgeting until we die. The positive feeling that arises from the exercise of strengths and virtues, rather than from the shortcuts, is authentic.
⁷ Martin Seligman
The foundation-stone of a life lived in the way of God is the pursuit of moral excellence and the acquisition of a character endowed with qualities that are well-pleasing in His sight.
⁸ Shoghi Effendi
The power of God can entirely transmute our characters and make of us beings entirely unlike our previous selves. Through prayer and supplication, obedience to the divine laws Bahá’u’lláh has revealed, and ever-increasing service to His Faith, we can change ourselves.
⁹ On behalf of Shoghi Effendi
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