The Manual of Marriage: Biblical Guides to Building an Exemplary Marriage
()
About this ebook
Read more from Faith I. Adede
Cuddle Your Spouse: Simple Rules to Capturing His Heart Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThis Relationship Must Work!: 21 Keys to Building a Successful Relationship Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSingles, Stop the Fun!: How to Package Yourself for an Honourable Marriage Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEmbrace Yourself and Be Your Best: Setting the Pace for a Successful Living Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Race of Marriage: How to Run and Obtain Results Despite the Hurdles Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Related to The Manual of Marriage
Related ebooks
Getting the Best out of Your Marriage: (Principles and Patterns) Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsDivorce Is Self-Defeat Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMarriage, a Miracle of Completion: Learn, Practice & Pray Your Ways to a Successful Marital Lifestyle Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Channels of Grace: How to Seamlessly Connect & Stay Connected with God Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLet There Be Love Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsBirthing Your Destiny Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMarriage 911 First Response Support Partner Handbook Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLiving Life in the Zone: A 40-Day Spiritual Gameplan for Men Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Love is Not Enough: But with God Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFinancial Principles & Promises: Personal Training for Financial Fitness Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAdventures and Experiences with God: A true inspirational life story Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWaiting with a Purpose: A Guide to Finding Your Boaz Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSpiritual Entrepreneurs: 6 Principles for Risking Renewal (Innovators in Ministry Series) Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5What You Didn't Learn in Sunday School: Women Who Didn't Shut Up and Sit Down Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEntitlement Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYou Are the King's Daughter - Your True Kingdom Position Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Privilege of Waiting: Finding Hope, Strength, and Renewal in God during the Difficult Moments of Life Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsUncommon Destiny Uncommon Partner ( Purposeful Life Purposeful Relationships) 2016 edition Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLooking Beyond What You See Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsKnowing Your Enemy Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWomen at Halftime: A Guide to Reigniting Dreams and Finding Renewed Joy and Purpose in Your Next Season Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsToo Blessed to Be Cursed Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWords of Encouragement Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsChurch Family Governance: Seven Values to Build Lasting Health Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMarriage Without Stress: How to Build an Enviable Marriage in an Unsettled World Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsA Well-Rounded Love Affair: More Than Between the Sheets Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Believer's Basics Handbook: Building Blocks for a Solid Foundation in Christ and Kingdom Living Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGod's Principles: How to Live Debt Free and Gain Financial Freedom Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWomen of Holiness Women of Beauty Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings
Relationships For You
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5All About Love: New Visions Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Big Book of 30-Day Challenges: 60 Habit-Forming Programs to Live an Infinitely Better Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Codependence and the Power of Detachment: How to Set Boundaries and Make Your Life Your Own Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Dumbing Us Down - 25th Anniversary Edition: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I'm Glad My Mom Died Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/58 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: The Narcissism Series, #1 Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Art of Loving Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for The Manual of Marriage
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
The Manual of Marriage - Faith I. Adede
Exciting!
Introduction
This book of the law shall not depart from your mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
Joshua 1:8
After a long stretch of writing all that the Holy Spirit led me to pen down in one of my books, "The Race of Marriage," I thought I was through with this topic until the Lord spoke to me very clearly while on a retreat in December 2011. He said: "Now, it’s time to write on The Manual of Marriage." Even though I did not know what next to write on this title, I simply yielded to the voice of the Holy Spirit as usual and He took over!
Just like every product of value comes with an Operational Manual, God in His wisdom has also provided an Operational Manual for His most treasured institution called marriage.
Many marriages today have lost savor and color because couples have kept aside the Manufacturer’s Manual and have decided to operate it their own way. Some have been molested and cheated for following their own tradition in building their marriages. Other couples have lost the enthusiasm in marriage because they do not see the need to adhere to the Operational Manual so the consequences are biting hard on them.
Some time ago, I bought a household gadget and attempted using it without reading through the Manual. I assumed that I should know how to operate it, but I ended up frustrated in the process. Some people approach marriage like household gadgets. They assume a lot and feel everything should work as they wish instead of following the principles that God has outlined in the Manual for us.
Most individuals are in marriage but are just managing. Recently, I met a woman who told me that she had given up on her husband because of his character and reckless lifestyle. According to her, she married him in error. I encouraged her not to give up but to keep praying because the heart of the king is in the hands of the Lord.
She told me categorically that she had had better things to pray about than to pray for the restoration of her husband because he was already a total write off. When we got talking, I discovered that they had been trying to run marriage their own way without reference to the Manual, hence, pressures and crises began to rock the home.
Success in marriage begins with strict adherence to the principles
outlined in the Manual of Marriage.
The man, Joshua, did not derail in his walk with God because he gave heed to the Book of the Law. He also had a successful family because he served God with his household (Joshua 24:15). Contained in the Manual of Marriage are basic operational guidelines and information on how the institution of marriage operates. The Manual also provides the compass on how to respond to and resolve issues that come up in marriage. It is therefore dangerous to attempt to run or operate marriage without reference to the Manual.
Never accept any negative situation as your lot in marriage. Check through the Manufacturer’s Manual for a way out of every predicament in your marriage. Each time I am confronted in any area of my marriage, I quickly engage in a vigorous search to know and understand what provisions are there in the Manual. I keep searching until I find the answer because all the answers are there in the Manual. If you ignore the Manual, you might damage the product. Most marriages have been damaged for negligence. Some are not even aware of its existence and because they don’t know, the devil is capitalizing on their ignorance to torment their marriage.
As you open up to receive the instructions of wisdom that have been packaged in this book for you, your marriage will no longer witness crises. All you will need to break out of any circle of negative occurrences, fears and intimidation, shall be revealed as you go through this Manual! May the light of God’s word shine upon you as you read through this book. May God give you an encounter that will change the story of your marriage for better, in Jesus’ name!
Happy reading!
Chapter 1
Marriage in the Beginning
He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Matthew 19:8
Marriage is the oldest human institution on earth. In fact, it is as old as creation itself. After God had created the Heaven and the earth and all that were therein, He decided to make man. God put man in charge of everything He had created. Suddenly, God noticed that man (Adam) was lonely and decided to make for him a wife for his companionship. This He did and when Adam saw Eve, he accepted her and embraced her as his wife. Thus, the first marriage was born. This wasn’t Adam’s idea; it was purely God’s. He established it based on the need for a life-long relationship and not a short term arrangement. There was no provision for separation or putting away. Just like everything He created is still standing today, God intended that marriage would also last forever. He hates divorce or putting away. He abhors it! It is like trying to separate different fruits that have been blended together to produce fruit juice into their individual constituents. How possible could that be?
For the LORD, the God of Israel says, that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence, says the LORD of host. Therefore take heed to your spirit,
that you do not deal treacherously.
Malachi 2:16 (NKJV)
The rate of divorce today is alarming. My heart grieves each time I see Christian homes especially falling apart. Everyone tends to ask the question Why?
The failure of most marriages today is a major source of concern in the body of Christ. Individuals who should know better are also turning away from the truth to follow the popular routes. People are rushing into marriage and rushing out! But from the beginning, it was not so!
Adam never thought it wise to divorce Eve even when they had problems in the Garden of Eden. They faced the challenges together. If it were today, Adam might have divorced Eve after blaming her.
Sometime ago, a young lady ran to my husband and expressed her discomfort in her marriage of four years and announced how she wanted to walk away because, she could no longer cope with the oppressive attitude of her husband. She didn’t consider the destinies of the three children she had but was ready to call it off.
My husband told her that no matter what the challenge might be, it could be handled and settled amicably. He told her that it was not easier out there and quitting the marriage would not solve the matter. So, my husband and I scheduled a date and met with the couple and after a long discussion, it was obvious that there was absolutely nothing that warranted a divorce. What they had suffered was due