Mentoring for Life
By Carrie Daws
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Want to take your small group deeper, learn how to become mentors that build and expand the Church? I wrote this 14-week curriculum to do specifically that!
The reading each week is short and the questions designed to encourage prayer and contemplation about what God is asking of each individual. Additional reading and resources are listed at the end of the study for those who want to learn even more.
Carrie Daws
Over the years, God rewrote Carrie’s dreams from being a corporate accountant to being a writer. With a background writing online weekly devotions, a mentor at the Christian Writer’s Guild encouraged her to try fiction. The writing monster she now barely keeps contained was born. Since then, she’s completed several inspirational fiction books and encouraging nonfiction for military spouses and new believers. After almost ten years in the US Air Force, Carrie’s husband medically retired, and they settled in North Carolina. With their three children all figuring out what they want to do in life after school, Carrie stays busy keeping up with her family and friends, loving on women, and entering story worlds via books and movies as much as she can.
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Mentoring for Life - Carrie Daws
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What Is Mentoring?
Welcome to Session 1 of Mentoring for Life! You are taking your first steps into a learning program that will not end on this side of heaven. It’s a daunting journey filled with potholes, unexpected twists, and hairpin turns. If you proceed down this road, before long you will face heartache, disappointment, and tough conversations. You will want to ignore some problems you need to confront and get stumped on how to respond to deep heartbreak. Let’s be honest. Working with people is messy.
But digging into people’s lives, getting to know who they are and who they want to be, watching them succeed in areas where they never thought they could—it’s exhilarating. Inspiring. Amazing. Without doing any scientific calculations, I believe that for every moment of heartbreak, I’ve experienced ten moments of joy. For every tear, a dozen giggles. And when life crashed around me and I didn’t think I could go on, those people I’d been loving on showed up, surrounded me, and reminded me of the truths that they’d been learning, sometimes even from me.
Please don’t miss this journey. Grab your courage, pray for a dose of determination, and let’s get started.
What is Mentoring?
The word mentoring calls forth all sorts of images in people’s heads, so let’s ease some of the most common concerns. This isn’t as big a deal as we often make it.
Chuck Lawless, Vice President of the Spiritual Formation and Ministry Centers at Southwestern Seminary, says mentoring is a God-given relationship in which one growing Christian encourages and equips another believer to reach his or her potential as a disciple of Christ
(Lawless, 10). Encouraging someone doesn’t sound too difficult, but don’t stumble at the word equip. He isn’t suggesting you start formal classes or intensive seminars. Investing in others requires only that you’re one step ahead in some area—that you’ve learned something you can give to others
(Lawless, 18). One step ahead in some area. That’s it.
In Mentor Like Jesus, Regi Campbell echoes Mr. Lawless’s sentiment. Mentoring isn’t about coming to know something, that’s education. Mentoring isn’t about learning to do something, that’s training. Mentoring is about showing someone how to be something. It’s about becoming a learner and follower of Jesus Christ because that’s what makes our Father most pleased. It’s also what makes Jesus most famous because millions of us are running around the world emulating Jesus
(Campbell, ch. 1).
Perhaps C.S. Lewis, author of Mere Christianity and The Chronicles of Narnia, stated it best. Think of me as a fellow patient in the same hospital, who having been admitted a little earlier, could give some advice.
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Mentoring is nothing more than loving another person enough to point them to Jesus, encourage godly habits, and share what you’ve learned on your own path toward becoming more like Jesus. You don’t need a doctorate or the ability to argue the finer points of theology. A thorough grasp of apologetics is not required, and no one expects you to get up on stage and speak to the congregation on Sunday morning.
We want you to participate with God, praying that He opens your eyes to the person He most wants you to affect right now, who will also have the opportunity to affect you. Consider, if mentoring is an opportunity to stretch and grow with another person
(Edwards, 84) then it occurs as you’re doing life together
(Campbell, ch. 8).
But this is where it can get hard. If you desire to affect the world and enlarge the Kingdom, then you must be open and insist on openness from those you are mentoring. Referring to Romans 12:9 (ESV), the authors of Creature of the Word say, "Let love be genuine. True, gospel-saturated community is authentic. The original word translated genuine means love that is free of ‘pretending, simulating, or acting.’ In other words, the community is not surface-only or fake. It’s not filled with easy answers that justify the spiritual prowess of those involved. In essence, a sign hangs above the doorway that reads: No Masks Allowed." ²
No masks. That’s a tough standard, particularly when you first enter into a new relationship. When sharing your life with others, fight fear but never lose sight of wisdom. Weigh how much you share with the depth of the relationship, purposefully seeking and giving greater transparency as the relationship grows deeper.
This is an important distinction from casual small groups and friends having fun. As the authors of Organic Mentoring point out, Mentoring is a relationship with a purpose. Without purpose the relationship can meander aimlessly, becoming little more than friends ‘hanging out.’ Mentoring is more than friendship or giving advice. Our purpose is to help [others] follow Christ and be transformed into His image
(Edwards, 128).
And the best way to do that is