In Control!: Everything You Need to Know About Worry-Free, Joyful Sex
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In Control!: Everything You Need to Know about Worry-Free, Joyful Sex is the light-hearted, relatable book you need to become fully informed and empowered about your reproductive health. In this book, Dr. Madeline Sutton provides you with the information, tools,
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In Control! - Dr. Madeline Y. Sutton
INTRODUCTION
For many women, freedom is directly tied to their reproductive choices and options, yet many women don’t feel fully informed about those options and which ones are safest and most effective for them. I wrote this book to honor as many women as possible by helping them get in control and have more freedom, as much freedom as possible. Once women are empowered with their knowledge of choices, they alone control their bodies, their reproductive choices, and ultimately their sexuality and sexual pleasure. I’ve watched so many patients, friends, and colleagues, women who are often so busy moving around and putting others’ needs ahead of their own, forget about what they themselves need, what brings them joy, and what control looks like for them. I know because I’ve been there.
I was born and raised in New York City. Harlem is my home; it is there that I met and was nourished by an extended village of people who loved and supported me. I wanted to be a doctor starting at age eight when I had my ears pierced at a Black male pediatrician’s office in Harlem; that feeling was reaffirmed at age thirteen when a young surgical resident at Columbia-Presbyterian Hospital (who did my appendectomy) was kind enough to show me my appendix after it was removed. My mom and dad supported me however they could; we had a steep learning curve as I was their oldest child and the first in the family to attend college. I graduated from the Bronx High School of Science. I fell in love with Georgetown University the first time I visited the campus after being accepted to attend. I finished both Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons and the Mailman School of Public Health in four years with my joint MD, MPH degrees. After completing my OB/GYN residency, I joined the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, served as a Commissioned Corps Officer of the United States Public Health Service for twenty-one and a half years, and authored and co-authored a book and more than 150 peer-reviewed scientific articles about sexual health and women’s health. I’ve been a board-certified OB/GYN for over twenty years. I also maintained a clinical practice through a community health center and Morehouse School of Medicine, providing care for a diverse group of women and helping educate them regarding their obstetric and gynecologic concerns, birth control options, and overall health.
While all this was happening, I got married, gave birth to my three beautiful sons, held down several jobs, attended my sons’ sporting events, and covered household and educational expenses for our sons. I was holding it all down, but I was also exhausted. I didn’t have enough hours in the day. I started to feel like I needed more help as a busy, working mom. Who else can identify with that? Like many of you, I was taking care of my family and trying to maintain my health and my sexy. One day, after a really intense several months of work, I hit rock bottom. I had to stop because the reality was I was burning myself out, and I couldn’t do it all. I sought counseling, tried to fix the things that were wrong, and ultimately, I started to prioritize me. What could I control? How could I feel my freedom? How could I maintain my health and my sexy? I knew that I couldn’t continue in the same way.
So, I shifted. I took control of my life. As I became more confident, I found healing moments in self-care, in more deliberate mom-son time, in more traveling, in sister-friend time, and in freedom. I started my road to healing and rearranged some things and did things differently. It was not easy, but it was necessary, and I not only survived, I thrived.
I had more freedom, and I formulated what it would look like to help other women, whether partnered or not, access more freedom. And that became my purpose because freedom looks different for every woman, although some parts of women’s struggles are similar. And like the famous poet Audre Lorde said, I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are different from my own.
So, I do this work because I am passionate about helping every woman reach her own freedom. And I am passionate about helping as many women as possible be in control.
I wrote this book in three parts: Part One provides historical context for birth control in the US; it’s not a pretty history, so I address it straight on. Part Two updates women on what is currently available as birth control options for women in the US. Part Three starts the discussion of what control and freedom might look like for you. Each part opens with a quote from a powerful woman, and each quote is about women and control. In each chapter, I start with condensed quotes of things said to me by many patients over the years; they are not quotes specific to one person. I start that way, so that each person knows that no question or comment is silly
or stupid.
I’ve heard it all, and it’s important to talk about the questions and comments that folks have in order to dispel the myths head-on. I also included some fast facts at the start of every chapter for those who appreciate getting information in nuggets. I’ve written this book to be user-friendly with some science and data thrown in, so that you have what you need to make informed decisions about your worry-free, joyful sex lives. So, with all of that said, let’s go get in control.
PART I. HISTORICAL CONTEXT
img2.jpgContraceptive protection is something every woman must have access to, to control her own destiny.
—Ruth Bader Ginsberg
CHAPTER 1.
Real Talk: A Brief History of Birth Control in the United States, Impact on Women of Color, and Where We Are Today
FAST FACTS:
• History isn’t always pretty, but knowledge is always