MILLENNIALS' GUIDE TO RELATIONSHIPS: Happy and Healthy Relationships Are Not a Myth!
By Jennifer Wisdom and Kristina Hallett
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Happy And Healthy Relationships Are Not a Myth!
Despite what you may see on social media and on the Internet, Millennials are already having good relationships. These relationships include friendships, work colleagues, romantic partnerships, and the all-important relationship with ourselves. Millennia
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MILLENNIALS' GUIDE TO RELATIONSHIPS - Jennifer Wisdom
Advance Praise for
Millennials’ Guide to Relationships
"Millennials’ Guide to Relationships provides a one-stop actionable workbook for the minefields of the myriad relationships a generation juggling outsize expectations, a difficult world, and re-defined paradigms about love, family, and work are managing. The beauty of this book is that it can be tailored to the relationship needs of the reader — whether it’s dating, family issues, or roommates. Drs. Hallett and Wisdom do a great job of consistently revisiting the pillars of healthy relationships such as self-reflection, self-awareness, respect, and empathy, qualities that can often get lost in the shuffle."
— Ramani Durvasula,
PhD, Clinical Psychologist, Professor of Psychology, and Author
"Millennials’ Guide to Relationships is full of down-to-earth tips for people at any stage in life. If you are a person who sometimes speaks to other people, this lists reasonable, objective advice based on your situation and what you want for yourself—not what society or the authors think you should be doing."
— Caroline Mays,
English Professor and admitted Millennial
"Millennials’ Guide to Relationships is another must-have Millennials’ guide for your bookshelf, providing clear and action-oriented guidance for people in their 20’s and 30’s who are looking to build and strengthen existing relationships. The book is easy to navigate and offers quick yet thorough considerations, tips, and tricks that can be applied to romantic, professional, familial and other relationships. Millennials’ Guide to Relationships will be a helpful resource for Millennials to use in their own lives and for them to share with friends, family, and other loved ones of all ages."
— Jennifer Felner,
PhD, San Diego, CA
Dr. Hallett and Dr. Wisdom’s guide to relationships is extremely helpful for anyone, but especially a Millennial such as myself — it’s like having a therapist and a best friend in your back pocket! I will be recommending this incredible resource to all Millennial clients I work with as an occupational therapist as well as to all my friends!
— Laura Stursberg,
Occupational Therapy Doctoral Student
"Millennials’ Guide to Relationships is a wonderful breakdown of how to look at your feelings, figure out your intentions, and interact with other humans to have a successful relationship with yourself, your friends, your family, and even romantically. I really enjoyed the road map-style reading and feel like I gained a lot of knowledge and tools on how to have healthier relationships. This book has so much useful information and it is written in a manner which is easy to digest and fun to read."
— Leah Gallagher-Hull,
Real Life Millennial
"Millennials’ Guide to Relationships is one of the most powerful guides to navigating any relationship. The candid and direct support given by Dr. Kristina Hallett and Dr. Jennifer Wisdom is gold. If and when you ever struggle no matter what kind of relationship it may be, this book will guide you to the other side with care and honesty."
— Tricia Brouk,
Director, Writer, Producer, Curator, Coach
© 2021 Kristina Hallett and Jennifer P. Wisdom
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Published by Winding Pathway Books
ISBN (print): 978-1-954374-00-3
ISBN (e-book): 978-1-954374-01-0
Book design by: Deana Riddle at Bookstarter
Cover design by Brian Sisco at 115 Studios and Diego G. Diaz
Photo credit: Diego G. Diaz
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Printed in the United States of America
Table of Contents
Praise For
Title Page
Acknowledgements
How to Use this Book
Part 1. Who are you? Getting to Know Yourself
Challenge 1. Knowing What You Like
Challenge 2. Identifying Your Inner Voice
Challenge 3. Identifying Your Core Values
Challenge 4. When Fear is in Charge (or Anxiety by Another Name)
Challenge 5. Engaging in Self-Care
Challenge 6. When You Can’t Say No
: Creating Healthy Boundaries
Challenge 7. When the Brave Front isn’t Enough: How to Know when you Need Therapy
Challenge 8. Setting Realistic Goals and Crushing Them!
Challenge 9. The Dark Side of Social Media: It’s Not About the Likes
Challenge 10. Having Healthy Conversations
Challenge 11. Being Labeled a Millennial
Part 2. Relationship with Peers
Challenge 12. Making Friends as a Grown-up
Challenge 13. Reading Vibes Quickly
Challenge 14. Friendship Dealbreakers
Challenge 15. Colleagues, Friends or Both?
Challenge 16. Breaking up with a Friend — or When a Friend Breaks up with You
Challenge 17. Buds to Boo: Benefits and Risks
Challenge 18. Agreeing to Disagree
Part 3. Relationship with Romantic Partners
Challenge 19. Knowing What You’re Looking For
Challenge 20. Finding The One
Challenge 21. Why the Grass Always Seems Greener: How Not to Settle
Challenge 22. Making it Work: If They’re not Trying, What are you Doing?
Challenge 23. Staying Yourself when you’re with Someone Else
Challenge 24. When it’s Not Working
Challenge 25. Fighting Fair
Challenge 26. Taking a Break
Challenge 27. Calling it Quits
Challenge 28. Whose Is It: How to Divvy Up Property and Assets
Challenge 29. If Kids are Involved
Challenge 30. If Pets are Involved
Challenge 31. After the Breakup
Challenge 32. Dating Again After a Breakup
Challenge 33. Why Am I Not Dating?
Challenge 34. To I Do
or Not to I Do
Challenge 35. Options Beyond Monogamy
Challenge 36. Dating and Safe Sex During the Pandemic Era
Challenge 37. Navigating Social Media: Ego and Etiquette
Challenge 38. Talking, Hanging Out and Hooking Up
Challenge 39. Sexting
Challenge 40. Politics between Partners
Part 4. Relationship with Roommates
Challenge 41. Choosing Roommates
Challenge 42. Logistics of Agreements
Challenge 43. Being a Good Roommate
Challenge 44. Communicating about Cleanliness and Other Stuff
Challenge 45. Roommate Dealbreakers
Challenge 46. Moving Out/Ending Shared Living
Challenge 47. Traveling Together
Challenge 48. Politics in the House
Part 5. Relationships with Family
Challenge 49. Dealing with Family Expectations
Challenge 50. Living at Home as an Adult
Challenge 51. When Parents have Problems
Challenge 52. Processing Childhood Experiences
Challenge 53. Developing Adult Relationships with Family
Conclusion. You’ve Got This!
About the Authors
Acknowledgements
We wish to thank the following for their expert and insightful comments: Lindsay Harris, Jennifer Felner, Alison Feuer, Adam Hart, Maria Lawrence, Greg Muriello, Laura Stursberg, and Elizabeth Warren. We appreciate Diego G. Diaz for cover design and photography, Deana Riddle at Bookstarter for publishing support, and Cassandra Blake for exemplary administrative assistance.
How to Use this Book
This is not a book best read cover to cover. We encourage you to review the table of contents and identify a challenge you are currently having or recently experienced. Turn to those pages to start finding a solution!
This book is about relationships — all of the different types of relationships that we may have, including the relationship with yourself! Each challenge includes a brief description and a number of possible solutions that you may want to try. Many times, you can see success after trying just one option. You’ll see some solutions repeated across different challenges because they’re likely to be helpful for many problems. For complex challenges, you may want to attempt several interventions at the same time. We suggest using a little bit of the scientific method as you try this process: After you identify the challenge you’re having, visualize what it would look like for you once the issue is resolved. Then as you try out solutions, you have an ideal to measure progress against. It’s helpful if you take an approach of curiosity; pretend you’re Sherlock Holmes trying to figure out and solve the problem, or putting together a massive 3-D puzzle.
It’s important to have patience and give the solutions a little bit of time to work. Some ideas that you try won’t solve the problem but will make it a little better — that’s still success! If you don’t feel comfortable trying a solution or if it works partially or not at all, try something else. Some of the solutions are very low risk, such as changing your expectations of the other person. Others can appear more challenging, such as directly discussing a concern with a partner or asking your roommate to move out. Start with solutions that feel lower risk to you and work your way up to more challenging solutions.
It’s important to remember a few basic rules of relationships that will never steer you wrong:
Be honest and diplomatic with everyone, including yourself.
Listen to what others are saying before responding.
Be patient. Sometimes people are working on your behalf to make things better and you don’t even know it.
Be curious about yourself and seek constant self-improvement.
Set and maintain boundaries and limits that reflect your priorities within your relationship(s).
Remember that we all have struggles. Be kind and respectful.
As you work through possible solutions, you’ll get better at knowing yourself, reading situations, responding to issues, building relationships, and applying solutions effectively. There will sometimes be situations in which there is a game being played around you that you don’t fully