The Pi$$ed Off Midwife's Guide to having a Baby: What every parent should know
By E. Bali
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Working as a midwife in hospitals of all kinds, I came find that many women were coming into the labor ward ill prepared to have their baby. And the time I had with them in hospital after the birth was not nearly enough to teach them everything they needed to know about their precious newborn. So, I decided to write down everything I know in one
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The Pi$$ed Off Midwife's Guide to having a Baby - E. Bali
1: Pregnancy
The Health of your baby
Your baby’s movements are the first sign of well-being
From 16 weeks you’ll start to notice movements. Keep an eye on these and get familiar with your baby’s personality.
Do not buy a Doppler. I repeat. Do not buy a Doppler. (This is the thing that the doctor/midwife uses to listen to the baby’s heartbeat). WHY? Because it is not an indicator of whether a baby is well. A Doppler only tells you the baby has a heartbeat, not that they are well or unwell. It cannot and should not be used as reassurance. Midwives just do it at appointments because it’s exciting for the parents to hear. It should not be used to reassure you if you are worried. Your baby’s movements are more important.
The best way to tell if you should be worried about your baby is how normal their movements are for that time of day. If your baby’s movements are less than they usually are you MUST call your doctor/midwife/hospital immediately for monitoring.
The health of your mind
Why don’t we talk about this more?
Make some time each day to talk to your baby or read to them (they start to pick up words and emotions from super early on, believe it or not)
Your baby learns about the world it is about to enter from you. Babies born to super anxious mothers are more anxious themselves. Make time to do some deep breathing, tell your baby they are safe (out loud or inside your head) and tell them you love them.
Have your partner connect with the baby as well by talking to them. (If your partner is a male, babies love male voices because they can hear the deeper voice more easily inside there).
Take some time to think about your role as a mother and how you are going through into the new phase of your life.
Connect to whatever spiritual beliefs you have about birth and life
If things start to get stressful, hormonal, sad or angry, take a time out and feel those emotions, don’t ignore your feelings or bury them. And then count the things in life you are grateful for. There are some seriously interesting research studies on the effect of ‘gratitude’ on the body and mind.
Develop a plan for how to deal with stress, anger, lack of sleep, baby blues and how to make time for self care after the birth.
Take time for self care weekly (if not daily!)
Self-care are things that bring you true joy and happiness
Self care is also attending to the needs of your body and mind, even if it’s a chore to do it
Nutrition
It goes without saying: half or more of your diet should come from fruits and vegetables
The rest should be meat, diary and carbohydrates (emerging research is showing diets higher in sugars and unhealthy fats can lead to behavioural problems in children).
Those with dietary preferences should check with their doctor for vitamin deficiency
I.e.: Vegetarians and vegans need to consider their Iron and B12 levels.
Iron deficiency in pregnancy is very common in even in non vegetarians
2L of water a day no excuses
Towards the end of pregnancy some women can get constipated, so up your fibre and water or you can get gentle laxatives from the supermarket. You’ll need these for after the birth, anyway.
Vitamins
A prenatal vitamin
+ Any extras your doctor advises you: Iron, B12, Vitamin D are common
The no-go zone:
Undercooked meat and eggs
Soft cheese and unpasteurised diary
Raw fish, cold meats (risk of bacteria like salmonella)
Big fishes (too much mercury)- shark, tuna
Organ meats (too much vitamin A can be toxic to babies)
Alcohol (there is no known ‘safe’ amount of alcohol we can recommend for pregnancy. The research is saying it is best not to drink at all).
Exercise
Stay consistent with exercise from pre-pregnancy. Don’t go adding new and elaborate things. You might have to tone it down during the end of pregnancy
Do you pelvic floor exercises pronto! (If you want a good sex life after the baby or just want to prevent bladder leakage DO THEM). This is a great video explaining the whole thing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OArrUPQqCHM
Sleeping
Lie on your side from 20 weeks, never on your back. (Why? Because the blood vessel that supply the baby with oxygen is right down the centre of your body behind the uterus. Every time you lie on your back ,the baby’s weight presses on this vessel blocking their own blood flow)
If you have trouble sleeping by a body pillow or pregnancy pillow. These can be a life saver for finding a good position
If, towards the end of pregnancy, you are getting a lot of painful Braxton Hicks contractions, it’s usually a sign that you need to hydrate and take a rest.
Swelling
Puffy feet are normal in pregnancy, especially towards