Be Your Own Hero
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Your Dreams Are Still Alive
The decisions we make from our hearts, using good guidance and information, are often the best ones. Our culture focuses on reactionary health care rather than proactive life decisions. This approach can be devastating if we wa
Catherine L. Owens
Catherine Owens is an advocate for the aging population and their families. As a senior living expert, Catherine works with those who are going through the process of making difficult, life-changing decisions and transitions, helping them to make choices that encapsulate the hopes and dreams aimed at living fully rather than just making a change in location. Outside of senior advocacy, she enjoys spending time with her family and on the golf course.
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Be Your Own Hero - Catherine L. Owens
Introduction
Years ago, I helped a young woman move her grandmother into an assisted living community where I was working. Her grandmother had been recovering at a rehab center after a bad fall. She shared with me that they had befriended a man named Clyde, who needed assisted living as well, but had no family to help him look into it, nor could he physically come take a look at our community.
When I met Clyde, he was a frail elderly man who was completely bent over in his wheelchair, bitter and upset, reluctant to talk about his need for assisted living. He wanted desperately to go home but had to face the reality that he could no longer take care of himself. He needed to be in a place that could meet his needs. I met with Clyde while he stayed at the rehab center, and when he was discharged, he moved into our assisted living community and agreed to try it for a month.
Although Clyde was always grumpy, upset, and impatient with the staff, I had a soft spot for him. I often felt sorry for him because he had no family, had never been married or had children, and appeared to have lived a sad life. Clyde was with us for three weeks before he passed away. I planned to attend his funeral because I didn’t know if anyone would be there and I wanted him to have someone at his service.
I drove for over an hour to get there. I was running late and when I got there, I could not find any parking, which surprised me. I slipped into the church just as they were shutting the doors and was completely shocked to find standing room only for this angry, bitter man whom I thought had no family or friends.
As I stood there and listened to his life story, I was speechless. Clyde had been a highly respected English professor who had shared his love of literature with a whole community. Former students, their parents, and fellow townsfolk stood in line to share how Clyde had helped shape their lives. Parents spoke of his gentle, caring, but strict nature that had helped save their troubled kids. Clyde had been a hero to so many people.
I left that day completely humbled and raw. I had felt sorry for this man because he had no family to care for him or to love him. I realized I had met Clyde, but I had never known Clyde. Who was I to judge what family is or what measures a successful life? Here was a man who by most standards did not have much in terms of family or assets, yet had left his mark on the world and created a legacy that would continue to be shared and recognized for years to come.
It made me think about all of the Clydes I had missed out on knowing, because I had seen them for who and where they were at the moment I met them and not for the person they had once been or the life they had lived. I realized how often I, and so many others, miss out on knowing the Clydes of the world and giving them an opportunity to continue leaving their mark because of their age, lack of abilities, or illness.
Clyde had been a man full of passion and zest for life and had become angry, bitter, and hopeless. I didn’t blame him, but it made me wonder at what point that had happened. That experience shaped how I work with seniors and their families and how I train others to assist and support them. My goal is not just to work with and support people, but to know them—know their joys, struggles, fears, passions, successes, and desires.
I have had the privilege of helping seniors and their families work through the difficult decision process involving questions about when to look into senior living options and how to go about it. What many don’t realize until they are faced with this decision is that the process typically evokes many emotions for both the seniors and their families. The most common of these emotions are fear, guilt, denial, failure, loss of control or independence, and an overall sense of being overwhelmed.
In my profession, I meet people every day who still see themselves as young and vibrant, still in the game of life, wearing their capes, heads held high, and ready to conquer the world. But I also meet the Clydes who have taken off their capes, lost their hope, and come to feel that life has nothing more to offer them—nor do they feel they have anything left to offer the world.
Be Your Own Hero is about facing the fears, struggles, and social stigmas that aging and health concerns can create for seniors and their families as they begin to look into senior living options. Deciding whether or not to move into a senior living community is said to be