Lessons From the Garden: Seeds of Wisdom for Parents
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Parenting is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, but it’s also the greatest blessing God has shared with us. Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much? At the end of the day are we building our children to their best? Ultimately, we are family and we grow through the trials and triumphs together!
Seeds of Wisd
Pamala J Vincent
Pamala Vincent is an author, speaker and entrepreneur coach. She's passionate about equipping families to be successful. Her motto is: Faith, Family, Friends, Fun! When she's not pursuing her life's mission you can find her in the garden with her rescued lab, a white chocolate mocha and dirt under her fingernails. If you can't pull weeds with her, you can find her at www.Pamalajvincent.com and most social media sites.
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Lessons From the Garden - Pamala J Vincent
CHAPTER ONE
THE FIRST ROSE
OF SUMMER
The aroma of a life shared that touches another’s life may be the catalyst needed to stimulate vibrancy in their existence.
~ Pamala J. Vincent
Every year, I await the arrival of our roses to announce the end of spring, and the coming celebration of summer. Their beauty is extraordinary and well worth waiting for, like some lives that cross our paths—short lived but vibrant. They leave me wishing I could capture their beauty forever. The moment they’re gone, I begin to look forward to next year’s bouquet.
My flowers grow much like people, interpreting God’s sunlight into the handiwork of a multitude of colors. But in my entire garden there is nothing like the first rose of summer. My roses return every year to decorate the garden with their timeless classic fashion review and to leave their fragrance on the hands lucky enough to pick one while witnessing their revelry.
It is in the garden of my life that I met my flesh and blood rose of summer and the fragrance of this grand lady has not only enriched my life but her aromatic essence lingers on.
Rosie, was her name, called that by her dad. Born in March, he explained to her she was his precious first rose of summer.
I met Rosie after her stroke in 1979, when she was not expected to live much more than six months, requiring constant care. I was told she had been an active, vibrant gardener in her past, but the day’s tasks at hand now included the difficult jobs of dressing and walking.
At 62, the stroke left her weak on one side and memory-challenged. Days would go by when she could not remember what she ate or the days of the week but could tell me childhood memories in such explicit detail, I was left dreaming of an era gone by. She often would forget my name, but never failed to identify every flower in my garden. Sitting for hours in my garden, she would watch and correct my planting techniques.
Rosie had a way of stating simple obvious facts. On good days when I was mature enough to not be irritated at her advice, I found great wisdom and comfort in her words. I would fight a battle of endless unwanted blackberry vines, only to hear her tell me, Just keep pulling the annoying things out; they’ll give up after a while.
I smiled, wondering if she meant my own bad habits, grooming my new babies, or tending my young flower garden.
As our children grew, and my garden began to mature, Rosie encouraged me to plant flowers that would return every year, annually reducing my labors. This was my introduction to perennials, and lasting character traits for my children. Invest in them today, and reap the benefits tomorrow,
I could hear her say.
Rosie’s favorite activity was to walk the property twice a day with either her little dog or my huge bear-sized black Lab. It was then that she met her toughest challenges, her battle with the dandelions! Most days she won the skirmishes by plucking the culprits from their soldier stances in the yard; other days bending over caused her to fall, where she would lie unable to get up until one of us found her lying in the grass along the trail. Each time we would frantically search for her, she cheerfully greeted us, I knew you would come for me.
She was never bitter about the wait; she was content to look around or take a nap.
Once when dusk had fallen and I could not find her in the dark, I called the paramedics. After they formed a search party, knowing the route she usually took through the woods to the creek, we fanned out. Before long the spotlight fell upon her lying on her side just off the path. As I prayed, Dear Lord, let her be alive,
she called my name and said, I knew you would find me and come pick me up!
Her trust in me grew a lump in my throat that brought tears to my eyes. Just as I was chastising myself for not paying closer attention to the time when she left, she surprised us all by trying to get me a date with several good-looking firemen and paramedics! Thinking she was delusional, they looked at me with concerned-filled voices asking, Is she ok?
I laughed through my embarrassment and nodded my head, Yes, she’s fine! This is her idea of being funny!
As my garden plot and children grew, Rosie made suggestions for plants that brought great beauty and color among their established friends. She cautioned me not to over-plant, to learn to see what it would look like in a few years and to be patient. Over planting, over committing the space God has given me to grow and bloom in, has always been a struggle for me. Remembering her advice, I try to be patient waiting for God’s work to be accomplished in His time frame, not mine.
She had the uncanny ability to compliment me on my parenting and remind me that she loved me, just at the moments I needed it most. As the demands of motherhood and life in general pressed in upon me, I found solace in my garden talking with Rosie. Life slowed to a more manageable pace there and I could make a corner of my world more beautiful, with dirt under my nails, and walk away with a sense of accomplishment.
We planted pink geraniums and roses to offset the blue flowers that lined the front flowerbed. As summer manifested itself in full color, I worked hard to keep the weeds and dandelions plucked so that Rosie wouldn’t attempt to pick them and tumble over.
Early one summer, she developed a lump on her throat that began to grow. The diagnosis was terminal cancer allowing her only six weeks to live. She never understood the diagnosis, and we all lived with the knowledge this rare, one of a kind beauty would be tending eternal gardens with angels very soon. As her weakening body kept her from her daily walks, she was able only to make it to my garden. I was careful to take time to stop my busy life and discover the wealth of her memories, storing every word in my heart; her favorite song (‘In the Garden’), her favorite dress, and foods. I felt like I was cramming for a final exam and had to retain the answers for my sake and her legacy.
She felt strongly that when she died, she was to be cremated; her husband was not to spend money fussing over her. If anyone wants to send flowers, they should do it while I am alive, not after,
she was often quoted as saying. As the closing of summer approached, so did her life. I remember her last day was a clear, crisp, fall day. Knowing something was wrong, as she struggled to breathe, she wanted her husband and me near. When she labored to speak and I asked her what she wanted, she simply said, Talk.
I questioned her, You? Me?
and she pointed to me. I have always been one that can keep up a steady flow of chatter, but somehow idle words seemed so undignified for this grand rose who lay withering.
I sang her favorite songs and quoted Bible verses she knew. Knowing her love for the outdoors, I talked about the colors of the fall