Do As I Say, Not As I Do: Reflections, Life Lessons, and Advice for Daughters
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Being a mother isn’t easy, but neither is being a daughter. Having fought, laughed, cried, and loved with a daughter of her own, Tammy Jameson knows all about the difficulties of forging a strong mother-daughter relationship and both coming out more enlightened women at the end of it.
Do As I Say, Not As I Do recounts her
Tammy Jameson
Tammy Jameson is a wife, mother of two, writer, and philanthropist. She earned her Bachelor of Arts in English at South Carolina State University, her Masters in Business Administration at the University of Phoenix, and is currently working her way towards her Doctor of Business Administration degree at Walden University. She volunteers her time and talents to numerous causes including ex-offender vocational training programs, domestic violence awareness, at-risk youth training programs, and serving as a consultant for small and disadvantaged organizations.
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Do As I Say, Not As I Do - Tammy Jameson
DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO
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Dedication
For my daughter, Sejal.
We argue, fight, dance, and laugh. You get on my nerves at times, but I wouldn’t change one thing about you.
I love you and I’m very proud of you. Thanks for saving my life and being my inspiration.
Table of Contents
img2.jpgDedication
Introduction
Chapter 1: Lawd Have Mercy
Chapter 2: It’s All About You
Chapter 3: Goal Digger
Chapter 4: Never Work a Day in Your Life
Chapter 5: All About the Benjamins
Chapter 6: Your Stankin’ Ass
Chapter 7: An Apple a Day…
Chapter 8: Do Unto Others
Chapter 9: La Familia
Chapter 10: Friend or Foe?
Chapter 11: The World is Yours
Chapter 12: Safe and Secure
Chapter 13: Let’s Talk About Sex
Chapter 14: Men Are from Mars
Chapter 15: If He Hits You…
Chapter 16: Love and Marriage, Love and Marriage
Chapter 17: I’m Not Your Friend, I’m Your Mom
Epilogue
About the Author
Introduction
Do As I Say, Not As I Do: Reflections, Life Lessons & Advice for Daughters
img2.jpgMy road to becoming a mother:
I was a senior in college when I found out that I was pregnant. At first, my friends and I thought that I had a virus, so I was given all kinds of low-country concoctions to help me get over my virus.
Of course, none of them helped. I remember, one day, being bent over a toilet in my friend’s off-campus trailer, feeling as if I would just die. My friend, who thought she was an expert in detecting pregnancy symptoms, burst through the door to see if my vomit looked like orange juice. She carefully peered into the toilet and yelled Oh my god! Girl, you’re pregnant!
I thought to myself, You have got to be kidding me!
There was no way that I could be pregnant! I had always been careful—I was in a committed relationship, but still I used protection. No way! I needed proof.
Within minutes we were flying down Highway 301 in Mitzi (what we called my friend’s little gray Mazda), headed towards one of those free health clinics. The place stunk of ass and cleaning solution, the floors looked like they hadn’t been cleaned in years, and the walls had dirt and scuff marks on them. I didn’t want to touch anything in there and I didn’t want anything in there touching me. The clinic was disgusting which made me even more ashamed and embarrassed to be there. Had I stooped this low?
After waiting for about an hour, I was finally called to the back where I was grilled harder than someone on trial for murder. I was given a cup to piss in and sent to a bathroom that was even more disgusting than the waiting area. I waited for what seemed like years for the results. Then, a nurse appeared and exclaimed, You’re the lucky winner!
I looked around to see who she was talking to, because surely she wasn’t talking to me! I know that she wasn’t putting all of my business out there like that! Of course, she was. I slumped down in my chair in disbelief and tried to process what I was just told.
If I was the lucky winner, why did I feel as if I had lost everything? I was pregnant, knocked up, with child—a baby mama. The thought of being anyone’s baby mama made me sick to my stomach. I cried and cried and cried, thinking that my life was over. I had dreams: I had plans to move to New York after graduation to become a writer. I wasn’t planning on being anybody’s mama. Even more than my own disappointment, I was overcome with sadness when I thought about upsetting my parents and everyone else who had believed in me.
I called home to tell my parents the news. My dad was upset; he didn’t say much. I was hysterical and crying, but, to my surprise, my mother was calm. I thought that she would disown me or throw the pregnancy up in my face, since I had always disappointed her in one way or another. But she told me that this was not the end of the world and that I was going to be okay. When she didn’t react the way that I thought she would, I was relieved and, for the first time, I believed that I would be okay. The last thing that I needed was to fall out with my mother when I needed her most—her encouragement and support were priceless. I didn’t know if I could handle the responsibility, but having an abortion was not an option for me. I had to take responsibility for my actions and do the right thing. I had reassurance that, by keeping the baby, I was making the right decision.
A snapshot into my life as a mother:
I had no idea if the baby was a boy or a girl. I wanted to be surprised. Five weeks before my college graduation and four days after Biggie was killed, I was induced into labor. This baby was overdue and did not want to come—I should’ve known that I was in trouble!