Living Abroad: from a Psychologist's View

By Ivett Schrammel

This is the book that every person living abroad and planning to move abroad needs.

A new book by the author of the Psychologist Online blog, in ebook format.

This is the writing of a psychologist who has 20 years of professional experience including 5 years of “her own experience” abroad, readers of 18,000 people, advice for people living abroad and those planning to move abroad.
So that the great adventure of your life - a fresh start, can be the realization of your goals and the fulfilment of your dreams.

Who is this book for?

You've been planning to move abroad for a while, but you're full of insecurity, fears, and don't dare to go for it?
You'd start a new life, but you don't know how to get started?
You have been living abroad for some time, but do you feel that no one understands your difficulties and dilemmas?
You live abroad, but your expectations weren’t met and you don't know how to make your situation better?
Then this book is for you!
Why should you read it?

Here you can find a solution to your problems!
- You can eliminate your insecurities, your fears.
- You can get to know yourself more, you can understand yourself.
- You can develop your skills, your personality, you can gain new resources.
- You can at last confidently carry your dreams into execution and start planning and achieving your goals.
- You can make your dreams come true abroad.
- You can find your own way, your happiness.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ivett Schrammel
• Release date: Mar 21, 2021
• ISBN: 9786158159401

Ivett Schrammel

I am Ivett Schrammel, a psychologist, NLP master practitioner - coach, therapist, MBCT mindfulness teacher, mother of three girls. I was born in Budapest in 1973, I visited 3 countries in almost 5 years: I lived in Austria and Malta, the longest - 4 years - in Gibraltar. I am currently available in Budapest again, personally as well.I deal with psychological counseling, coaching, self-awareness, self-improvement trainings, I manage and lead individual and group mindfulness trainings. For 20 years, I have been helping those who turn to me with their spiritual-, life management-, relationship problems, in an integrative, positive, future - and goal - oriented approach. I have also been working via Skype for years, which is available from anywhere in the world.I focus mainly on Hungarians living abroad, psychosomatic problems as well as the difficulties of integration, adaptation and relationship-building which may arise from immigration.The methods I use include NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), schema therapy, schema couples therapy, schema therapy for children and adolescents, Brainspotting (mindfulness based trauma therapy, various relaxation - meditation - imagination methods, self-healing techniques, MBSR - Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction and MBCT - Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy), progressive relaxation, Simonton Training, Autogenic Training, OH association cards, assertive communication, and Bach flower therapy.I believe that every person is special and talented in something, you just have to find the right way to unfold. I believe that every human being is born for happiness, and will achieve this if they are in their right place in life, if they truly go on their own path. My job is to help and accompany these people in finding this path, getting to know and unfolding their true selves.„Psychologist Online - Schrammel IvettThe psychologist of Hungarians living abroad” ®

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Introduction

Who is this book aimed at?

Have you been planning to move abroad for a while, but you are still full of doubts and fears, so you don’t dare to have a go?

Would you like to start a new life, but you don’t know how to get started with that?

Have you been living abroad for a while, but you feel nobody understands your difficulties and dilemmas?

Although you live abroad, your expectations weren’t met and you don’t know how to make your situation better?

Then this book is for you!

Why is it worth your while to read it?

In this book you can find solutions to your problems!

You can eliminate your doubts and fears.

You can get to know and understand yourself more.

Your skills and your personality can develop, you can gain new resources.

Finally you can set to act confidently and get down to planning and realizing your aims.

You can fulfil your dreams abroad.

You can find your own way and happiness.

Why did I write this book? My story.

I’ve also spent abroad most of the last 10 years, I visited 3 countries in 5 years, I lived in Austria as well as in Malta, and Gibraltar was the place where I lived the longest. During this time – and since then up to now – I’ve worked mainly online and through Skype as a psychologist with my clients living abroad or in Hungary, providing psychological consultation as well as advisory services.

While I was living abroad, I got started with writing that I had postponed for years before, and my purpose by sharing my experience and thoughts is to help others have a better life.

Over the years plenty of people contacted me with very similar problems:

With doubts, fears and the feeling of insecuritiy they had before moving.

The difficulties after moving: problems of adaptation and integration.

With the deterioration of earlier anxiety as well as with the appearance of new one.

With the difficult feelings experienced during the cultural shock.

With the lack and loss of self-confidence.

With the tense feeling of homesickness.

With unbearable loneliness.

Mysterious psychosomatic symptoms.

With the dilemma of „shall I stay or shall I go".

With the unexpected difficulties of moving home, with the problem of moving back and that of the reverse cultural shock.

I’m aware that a lot of people struggle with similar problems, since moving abroad means serious challenges for everyone. I’m aware of the fact too that most people feel they’re alone with these problems as they don’t speak about that for a long time, they don’t ask for help, and this way they obviously don’t even know how many other people have similar feelings.

Only those can understand this situation completely who have also experienced moving to another country and living there.

This book was written to prepare the people planning to move abroad for the change, to help them with the planning and realization, furthermore, to support the people living abroad to integrate and adapt successfully, to be able to understand and process their feelings and experience more efficiently.

You can read about my own experiences I went through abroad as well as my experiences gained during my work with my clients as a psychologist.

You can get some guidance how to get down to it, what is worth paying attention to while preparing for the big adventure of your lives and building a new life.

The book contains the transcript, the extended version of my earlier articles as well as my new writings, so my old thoughts will pop up again, but at the same time you can get acquainted with new things.

As a bonus, in the last chapter of the book I share with you the steps of the efficient goal planning as well, and if you follow these steps precisely both in theory and practice, nothing will „save" you from reaching your goals.

This is a great opportunity to deepen your self-knowledge and develop your personality, as every big journey is an internal journey as well that leads to the innermost of our souls. While you get to know the world, you get acquainted with yourself as well. This way may involve a deep internal transformation and personality development, especially if we go through that consciously.

What do my current readers say about my writings?

Readers’ recommendations:

„I think the blog called „Psychologist Online is a great source of knowledge. The thought-provoking writings of Ivett help me to get absorbed in several diverse topics and prompt me to go beyond my usual thinking processes. I find her practical advice also really useful, whether it is about the management of everyday life or getting acquainted with opportunities how to solve a certain problem. I feel that with Ivett’s help I can get closer to a more complete, conscious and healthy way of life.

Éva (Dubai)

„Earlier I had never felt living abroad could be a challenge. I always thought that we, the people who left our home country, had been granted something much better, so I must feel better. This way I hadn’t really understood what was going on deep inside me. The blog helped me to make me understand my own feelings after putting them to the right place. Now I can already admit to myself honestly that it wasn’t that easy at all, and I can afford not to feel good all the time, even if it’s my own decision to be here where I am.

Let me congratulate on the book and I am really looking forward to reading it! Best Regards:"

Judit Knodel (Germany, Öhringen)

„I really love your blog, the positive thinking, your interesting and thought-provoking writings, what is more, the creative photos. How did your writings actually help me? Well, first of all, they certainly provided me with the vision that there is always a solution and things can be viewed from a different angle. I’m keen on reading your writings. I wish you all the best for the book, I love the cover. The thought soothes me a bit that great relief is provided by the whispering, fragrance, sight of the sea and it gets me out of the rat-race. Maybe I should travel somewhere."

Edit Sátor (Slovakia)

„Moving abroad had been one of my most exciting ideas until the grey weekdays arrived. It is getting more and more difficult for me to bear the thought that, although I am Hungarian, still I am not.

I turned into this strange hybrid that, besides its Hungarian origin, has already a lot of English features as well. I have always thought I am a freak, and I am the only one with such feelings. Then I started reading Ivett’s writings and it helped me a lot to put this hybrid to the right place inside. It helped me a lot not to feel alone, and accept that this is a natural process that a lot of us undergo."

Ica (England)

„These are really good writings, they open our eyes about the fact that taking a job and living abroad is not only about pink dreams. It is worth reading for those who are thinking of living abroad. We can get a lot of useful advice and we can get to know what feelings we will face with."

Krisztina Lehel (Budapest)

„Dear Readers, who are reading my lines, you must know something: Reading Ivett Schrammel, the psychologist’s thoughts and advice gave as much warmth as the first sunrays in a harsh, freezing winter day!"

F. K. (Emőd)

„Dear