Do You Really Want It?

By Saurabh Sinha

Do You Really Want it? Are you aware of what you want, why you want it?

Once you know what you want and the reason for it, it becomes easier. This book will help you understand what you really want. Book helps you differentiate between what your family, spouse, friends want to what you actually want.

Know what you want, Why you want it, and how you can achieve them.

See how Googly helped Our Hero understand what he wants, why he wants, and then how he achieved them.
Multiple exercises and tasks to support you in the progress

• Language: English
• Publisher: Saurabh Sinha
• Release date: Feb 22, 2021
• ISBN: 9781393711414

Saurabh Sinha

Saurabh Sinha hails from India.  He holds over a decade of experience in sales and product innovation. Full time Sales person, author and motivational coach. Saurabh is an motivational coach and loves to support people to identify their desires and ways to fulfil them. His workshops have enabled people to identify their own desires, setting the right goals and clarity about how to achieve their goals.  His current Book- Do you Really Want it? Has got awesome response from readers and many of the readers have gone for personal session with the author to identify their desires and achieve their goals.  This book talks about step-by-step approach to identify desires, passions, and ways to fulfil them. His upcoming books are: - * Prepare yourself for the world * Parenting from Kids Angle * Work-Life Integration

Book preview

Chapter I: Mind on Rent

From the employee of the year last year to a frustrated employee this year, my career was going down faster than the office escalator I was in.  I wondered what happened in a year that made me timid, uninspired and sluggish. I felt as if the fuel was over. It was not just my performance at the office, which was bothering me, along with these I was losing interest in various other things I once loved doing.

I sat in my office cab after the hectic day. I was totally frustrated and unhappy with the feedback as well as the appraisal given to me. More than the appraisal, it was the daily stress which was making me sick and exhausted. I finally thought that I must look for another job; this job wasn’t giving me what I wanted.

I was looking outside the window of the cab; I could feel the breeze on my face as the windows were open. Shopkeepers in the area were busy in wrapping up their day, there were only a few cigarette shops open on the way home. I saw the famous restaurant on the street where I threw the party a year ago for the employee of the year award. I was lost in the thoughts of the party and appreciations I received; I heard barking of the dogs which brought me back to the present moment. As we were driving, we saw dogs frequently chasing our car. It felt that the conditions of the people inside the cab and street dogs were the same. We did not know what we were chasing and why we’re chasing them. If one dog ran behind the car, others in the street followed it.

I could recall the days when we were in the school; every student went to the same tuition classes because somebody from our apartment and locality was going to the teacher whose students got good marks and grades. This trend continued when we went for engineering preparation and then for our MBA. In short, we were following the herd. We feared to start something new, feared to be seen different from the herd. We have grown so advanced technologically, still, we followed the same 1000+ year tradition of doing what the herd did (herd mentality). If someone tried to leave the herd, there was always the risk of being left out. We never knew what would happen if we leave the herd and start following something that we want.

Something inside me was itching me even today, forcing me to come out of this race. I tried doing it multiple times in the past but was pulled back due to the compulsion of paying bills and sustaining the family. It surprised me as I was neither taking any steps to do something new nor comfortable in the situation. What was stopping me from living a better life? Did I really want to live a better life or have I succumbed and given up on myself? Did I compromise or become comfortable with what I have now?

Suddenly, the cab stopped, and I realised I reached my drop point. I got down, started searching for my keys and opened the door. I kept my laptop on the table and headed towards my bed. The bag felt heavier than before, keeping the bag on the table made me feel lighter as if some burden were removed from my shoulder. I was exhausted and tired after the long day, still was unable to sleep. I just lied on the bed thinking. There were many thoughts going on in my mind. I was in the company of multiple thoughts- negative, positive, inspiring as well as discouraging thoughts. It seemed thoughts of every type had rented my mind that night. The only thought which kept coming back, again and again, was that I need to get out of this stressful and exhausting life, I cannot sustain it. I don’t remember at what time I slept.

I woke up late in the morning, had no plans to go to work. I thought I would take a day off; I went to the kitchen for my cup of coffee.  My eyes stuck on the cookie brand named Googly lying among the groceries bought last weekend.

Immediately my eyes brightened as if I found something I was looking for; Googly was the nickname of my mentor whom I used to meet after my school on way home. I called her Googly because her words were Googly / bouncers (Cricket lovers would know what it means) for me – they went over my head.

Googly had examples and solutions for every problem people brought to her. She would always use some quotes to explain. Thinking about her I felt I could hear some of her regular and most used quotes now. I loved listening to what she said whenever we met on the way home from school, but never understood in reality what those words meant.  Maybe I was too young to understand her principles at that age.

I tried recalling her favourite quote which she used to repeat multiple times whenever we met.

Googly always used to say You have all the power to achieve anything. It's just whether you really want it or not

The words again buzzed in my mind, echoing in my mind as if Googly was still speaking the same walking beside me. I think it may be because I have heard these many times. It seemed really simple and like a cliché, often overlooked and rejected. I too agreed to it but never deeply understood the real meaning of it or believed it from my heart. It seemed to lure and too simple. How can we achieve anything, we had been taught that we have limited powers and we should be realistic? Then what is the reason that she is saying that we can achieve anything, Was googly wrong?

I wondered what she meant by it- Whether you really want it or not.

Every person on this planet has a want and needs, they will always want to upgrade their life. Everyone wants success and abundance. Why would anyone want to stay in the state of poverty or lack, why would anyone not want to upgrade his/her life? I felt as if something was mixed in my coffee- how can I have so many questions in my mind just thinking about the sentence which googly said to me years ago.

Few other questions immediately popped up in my mind.

●  What is that everyone wants?

●  Is it the same or different for different people?

●  Why would anyone not want it?

●  IF everyone wants it, why is everyone unable to find it and have it.

●  Is it because our wants keeps on changing?

●  Is it WHAT YOU REALLY WANT or just a wishful thinking? Is this that you really want or the wants were the seed planted in our mind by our friends, family, relatives? Is it because they want it and they want the things fulfilled by us?

We would have heard that almost every teenager says I am passionate about sports bike. They say when I grow up, I will have one.

Do they really want it or they want it because their friends too want it? Does the desire to have a sports bike was just a wishful thinking or a real desire? When they grow up many does not have their dream bikes, surprisingly many do not even think about it anymore. At which stage of life, the desire to have them died? Did THE WANT to have a dream bike was just a wish and not a dream. Was Googly saying the same thing when she said Do you really want it? Is it just a wish, a thought that crossed your mind and not a real want?

The second question is -If we want them, what is that, which is stopping us from going out and getting them. Is it the lack of knowledge about the process of how to acquire them or is it the lack of will power and passion to chase them? We all are aware with the information shared by Gurus and leaders but why is it so difficult to incorporate them into our life OR in our daily habits.

There were many other questions in my mind. Puzzled, confused I thought of seeing her again. I would ask her to help me find the answers to my questions.

Chapter 2: Meeting Googly

I got her contact details and called her. She offered immediately to help me, in return of my hand made coffee for her.

I packed my bag and immediately left to catch the bus to meet her.