My Lessons Are Great

By Gizel Hazan

I have prepared this book for everyone who wishes to become successful and happy individuals.

The content of this book consists of the summaries of the books that I have read during my B.A. and M.Sc. education in “Holistic Psychology.” Shortly after I graduated from college, I have begun to train myself in this field. This book has allowed me to reach out to thousands of students during my 25 years of teaching and to improve their lives.
In each lesson, you will find many useful knowledge about how to live happily. Although it is hard to be mindful, happy, and successful at the same time, in our education system, this book will help you lead a happy and successful life.
We can easily solve our problems if we can control our mind and brain correctly. A mind that can look at the future in a more positive, constructive, and confident way is crucial. With an optimistic mind, any kind of problem will turn into a domino waiting to be solved.

I wish every reader happiness and success filled with knowledge.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Mar 20, 2017
• ISBN: 9781365837081

Gizel Hazan

Gizel Hazan (Ender) TED Ankara Koleji ve Boğaziçi Üniver-sitesi ilk bilgisayar programcılığı mezunlarındandır. O yıllarda merak sardığı Yoga konusunu yıllar içinde devamlı geliştirmiştir.İzmir’de evlendikten sonra çalışma hayatında bankacılık ve bil-gisayar öğretmenliğinin yanı sıra, çocuk psikolojisi konusunda da, Holistic (Bütünsel) çocuk psikologu diplomaları almış, Uzakdoğu bilgilerini de sürekli geliştirmiş, Reiki Master olduktan sonra, yaşam onun önüne, yıllarca korkudan yaklaşamadığı sokak hayvanlarını çıkartmış, uzun yıllar onların yaşam hakları için mücadele vermiştir.İyi bir aile yaşamına da önem veren Gizel Hazan, Ziraat doktoru eşine, İzmir’de yazılan ilk mesleki bilgisayar programlarında destek olmuştur. New York’da psikoloji doktorası yapan kızı ve Oxford Üniversitesi mezunu oğlunu da, zorlu okul yıllarında ruh ve beden sağlığı dengeli gençler olarak yetişmelerine gayret etmiştir. Kendi çocuklarının yanı sıra, bilgisayar öğrencilerinin pek çoğuna “kişisel gelişim” dersleri vermeyi ihmal etmemiş, mutlu, sağlıklı, neşeli kişiler olarak yaşam yolunda ilerlemeleri için elinden geleni yapmıştır.Gizel Hazan, betonlarla kaplanan şehirlerimizde insanların be-den ve ruh sağlığının bozulduğuna inandıktan sonra, İzmir’e yakın Urla ilçesine eşi, “iki ayak” ve “dört ayak” çocukları (kedi-köpekleriyle) yerleşmiştir. Urla’da, diğer insanların da güzel ha-vadan yararlanması için “GAYRİMENKUL OFİSİ” açmıştır. Bu kitaptaki bilgiler, 1 yıl süresince, emlak dükkanına gelen müşterilerden oluşan bir demet örnek konudur. Hepsi yaşanmış durumlardır ve pek çok ailede de yaşanmaya devam etmektedir. Herkesin kendi evinde mutlu, sağlıklı bir yaşam sürmesi dileğiyle..Author of "YENİ EVİM HARİKA", Gizel Hazan 2014

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1 – Putting Ourselves At the Center

The first rule to be a successful student is to be able to win family’s and teachers’ approval, to keep the grades higher and to pass the class and then to move on. The others give us marks; we learn our value from the others. For this reason, we give value to the others, we like them, we care about them. We are in need of the others to understand our own value and success.

Does it make us happy to study for the others, I wonder? In the education system WE DO NOT EXIST, and THE OTHERS are of top priority. We think that we can be successful only with caring about and treating well the others. But we cannot be aware of that when the others are gone, when they are not standing by us, we become like a fish out of water.

Do we really teach ourselves and our children to love ourselves, to value ourselves? In our education systems, the first thing to be taught is to love and care about the others. Self- caring and self-loving are not taught in the school syllabuses. Happiness is shown as if it was being dependent to the others. We do not learn to love ourselves and to be happy with ourselves for long years in our family and school lives.

However the happiness of the individuals who value and love themselves can never be destroyed. They do not expect things from the others. The ones who love and value themselves and the ones who are able to find the inner peace are like the plane tree that never falls over in the storms. They are strong, successful and happy.

To learn how to value ourselves, the first thing we need to do is to change the taboo THE OTHERS are more important. We can change those taboos that taught us before only with our constructive thoughts.

**I am a very precious, endearious individual.

** I am the owner of my own life.

**I am learning how to love and value myself.

**The more I love myself, the easier it is to understand that I learn for myself.

**Education should last life- long. When I AM in the center, I know that I study for myself.

**I AM SO PRECIOUS.

When we wake up in the morning, it is really important to look in the mirror and repeat that we value and LOVE ourselves. On the contrary to the family and school system that impose us the thought give value to the others, you are the last yourself, the first rule to be successful is;

TO LOVE AND VALUE OURSELVES

When we wake up in the morning, we need to look in the mirror and repeat the sentences like I love myself, I value myself, I learn the most precious information for myself, I study perfectly for my lessons, all the information that I learn will be beneficial for me in the future.

2- My Lessons In Terms of Sociology:

Family, school and society are the factors that guide us.

The society affects us a lot. We start to live for others. There are always the others in the newspapers or social media organs such as Facebook. What will the others say? Do I look like the others? Will the others like it? The others, others…

Also in the education system they taught us to learn for the others. We always learn things to show to the others, we always wonder about the exam results for the others. Our parents are on the top of this list of the others. If the child works harder and gets good report card, it means bringing honor to the parents.

However, only thing we need to teach to our children is to:

PUT OURSELVES AT THE CENTER INSTEAD OF THE OTHERS.

If we live taking the other people into consideration that much, we can never be happy because the other person may be a family member, a neighbor or 7 billion people!

In our education system, after a child starts walking and talking, the first thing to be taught is to put the others to the central position. The ones on his environment are more important, not him. He learns, works and keeps on living for them.

And the fear, judgment, shame facts are imposed to them. Without these facts, those children or adults start to not doing anything and not learning anything.

Since people around change all the time, they all have a common ground. The common ground is GOOD GRADES in the school years and it turns out to MONEY in the following years. The child starts to study and learn for good grades and the adult keeps on working for money. If you remove the GRADES and MONEY from your lives, it feels like life is over. No student really studies for the happiness, beauty and value of learning something new.

And if there is no problem about MONEY, the adults show the white flag. They underestimate the value of working and learning, and start to live a lazy life.

However, if every child and adult learns to put themselves and their personal development at the center of their lives, both learning and education system becomes happier and fun and those ones have a meaningful and happy life for the rest.

The real life starts only with Me and ends with also Me

We are born and die all alone.

If we can learn the things just for ourselves, if we make ourselves move towards the path of being a more perfect person, if we learn the social, technical information and manual skills to become a perfect individual, our world will become a more beautiful place to live in.

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DOES EDUCATION ONLY HAPPEN IN SCHOOL YEARS?

THERE IS NO SPECIFIC TIME FOR EDUCATION and LEARNING.

When we say education and training, immediately school years and system come to our minds. We think that we should get education starting from pre-school and we stop it after graduating university and PUT AN END to this process. After school life, we stop the education with the things we call as the family, work, and social life. We start saying that it’s our children’s turn and we focus on their education. Our children’s lessons become as our duty.

Is it really right to do in our constantly changing world?

Can we become well-educated enough till our nineties with the education that we stop taking in our 20s?

If we think that after finishing school, we keep on living with the same knowledge for 60 years, can we still say I’m educated and I have a diploma?

How should we upgrade our acquired knowledge in our lives? Have we ever thought about the answers for these questions?

Education and training starts when we are born. They actually start in the mother’s womb. It ends only when we die.

We think that education only happens at schools. We go to school for some specific years and it ends.

Not at all!

Education and training actually happen during our entire life.

Anything we see, we hear get into us. Especially children really learn everything at the very early ages. 0-6 ages are the ages in which children learn the most.

OUR LESSONS… There are lessons in every minute of our lives. And it is really important to choose the right syllabuses from those lessons.

To give a baby doll to a girl and to give a toy gun to a boy are one of the most effective lessons in the early ages.