Definitive Discourse on the Art of Finding a Soul Mate

By Samatalis Haille

I have collected ideas that occurred to me after I asked myself how I have finally started to live with my soul mate. Read this work as a work to be tested in real life. The value of this work shall depend on how much it improves the quality your life. You experiment this work, let me state in an unequivocal terms, at your own risk, as I did with my own.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Apr 1, 2014
• ISBN: 9781312059788

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Definitive Discourse on the Art of Finding a Soul Mate

Definitive Discourse on the Art of Finding a Soulmate

I hereby present notes that I have collected at different times in view of finding a soul mate. These notes may be used not only to find a soul mate but also to live well in variety of situations. Some of the chapters of this book are arbitrary, done to satisfy general equipment of publication.

Talk About Now

1-Talk about what is most appropriate to the moment, for every station, as Arabs say, there is something to be said. Say such thing in joking manner, and that will be enough.

2-If so, then you have minded the occasion. Extrapolate from now to get what both of you need or desire and move along that line, always centering on now; for it is now only that exists; the past is gone and the future is yet come; thus, they don’t exist as far as now is concerned. All that exists, my friend, is now, and it is now that we base everything on.

3-Some say the entire time is now and then now, ad infinitum. I agree based on my observations of now. By focusing on now, we heal. Healing, therefore, is a consequence of minding the moment one after the other.

4-Healing, needless to say, is sort of things that we do for its own sake and not for the sake of anything else. By mutually healing each other, through minding the occasion, saying and doing whatever is appropriate to the situation, as judged by reasonable and prudent person, you are, in essence, loving each other.

5-Minding the moment and by implication heal, shall help you form bonds.

6-If one of you is not willing to figure out what is needed or wanted, then end the talk and move on. Find someone else that is willing to figure out what is needed or desired and then find ways to satisfy that need or desire.

7-Don’t quit when both of you start to talk about what is unfolding at the moment; view whatever that is unfolding at the moment as something that aims towards some good and you are there to help that thing get the good that it is after.

8-Something, it appears, spontaneously arises and this is what will heal you if don’t quit. At the beginning this may not be easy, but later it will.

9-The way to stay with the moment and thus enjoy its present again and again is, as stated, to assume that it is after some good and you are there to help; this point has been, already, stated and it shall be stated again and again because it provides basis for many good things to come.

10-People appear to aim towards some good; if so, why not help each other attain that good? Why not oblige each other to reciprocate and thus create a community that helps each other for the attainment of the good that they are after.

11-If you remain patient and make efforts to talk about the current moment in positive manner, that is if you assume all are after some good, and you are there to help, while being prudent and reasonable, things will turn out just fine.

12-To mind the occasion is pleasure, remember this, even though this may not be easy in the first few moments, as stated, but it will soon. This is what will make the woman love you because your are opening a present for her one after the other, by virtue of minding the moment. She will also do the same for you, following your footsteps. Sometimes you may lead and sometimes she may. The benefit of minding the moment is too many to count.

13-Minding the occasion bit by bit is really it. Initially this may not be so obvious, but soon it will; for which reason you need patience and determination to make efforts to speak about what is relevant to the moment in joking and positive manner, that is in a manner that assumes all involved parties are after some good, and you are there to help.

14-By being good, that is by assuming and acting as if people are after some good, and you are there to help, you shall become beautiful; for the beautiful is good, and the good is beautiful. This is an old observation. You can test it too.  Assume people are after some good and be there to help them out until the end. Forget not, though, to be fully prepared for the worst.

15-Use your utmost power to refrain from that which is not relevant to the moment and do the same for that witch is relevant to the moment. This is your work.

16-Things that you ought to do, to find a soul mate, is to find out what the woman needs or wants? Tell her too what you need or want. Ask her, for instance, the kind of guys she dates.

17-. Pleasure, in this view, appears much like a treadmill and less like a cake; it moves only when you move it.

18-The degree of pleasure you get is dependent on the degree of efforts you make. Such efforts ought to include the performance of minimum efforts that shall produce maximum results. This notion of minimum efforts that produce maximum results is known as mini-max. This is a notion that we shall visit again and again, because it is one of the main tools that we shall use to acquire what we mutually desire and sustain it.

19-We can maintain few seconds of attention; this coincides, I noted, with those seconds where we hold our breath; use these moments to do your business of life. They appear to be the moments