Conquering Trauma: Why You Cannot Experience Peace And Joy And How To Finally Point Your Life In The Right Direction
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Do you have behaviors or reactions that you wish you could change about yourself?
Are you often isolated and have a sense that something inside yourself is stopping you from feeling happiness?
Or do you find yourself acting in a way you promised you never would, such as being a bully or treating your children like you were hurt growing up?
If any of these questions resonated with you, you are not alone, and this guide can save you.
Trauma is often thought of as severe or extremely harmful experiences, but trauma is actually a reaction to an event, not the event itself.
And a seemingly mild or straightforward experience can cause you trauma and affect the rest of your life.
Experiences of trauma become the brain's map for protecting and defending you from future pain, but sometimes you don't need protecting.
Trauma can then poison your mind, and reveal itself in both visible and invisible ways.
Addictions, chronic illnesses, and unhealthy coping mechanisms, among others, become manifestations of that trauma, ultimately stopping you from experiencing joy.
This book offers two different ways to understand trauma and a myriad of practical strategies to deal with your trauma once and for all.
Understanding your trauma and how it has affected your life is the first step towards overcoming it so you can get rid of your negative, fear-based reactions.
This guide is based on Bessel A. van der Kolk's 1989 study "The Compulsion to Repeat the Trauma Re-enactment, Revictimization, and Masochism," published in Psychiatric Clinics of North America.
His work shows how trauma manifests itself, and how it is unconsciously repeated and sought out by the victim, whether it is behaviorally, emotionally, or physiologically.
In this guide, you will discover:
- What your trauma is - even if you never realized you had it - because the first step is understanding where it comes from
- How to rewire your brain from the trauma that will continue to plague you until you deal with it
- Why you will improve both your physical and emotional health when you finally confront your trauma
- The absolute worst thing you are doing right now that is stopping you from ever healing
- How much joy you have missed out on by not dealing with your trauma, and how to take control of it as soon as possible
- The best strategies, individualized for you, so that you can find your path to happiness
- How trauma affects each person differently, so you can finally understand why your loved one acts the way they do
- The most effective, and easiest way, to find yourself without paying for a therapist or sharing your innermost secrets with strangers
The past and all of its pain do not simply disappear, especially when it comes to trauma.
Rather than dealing with it on your own, this guide will lead you step-by-step with practical tools for stopping your past from defining your present and future.
Don't let the fears rooted in your trauma define you anymore. Click "Add to Cart" right now to deal with your trauma and experience real joy!
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Conquering Trauma - Michael Vitela
Chapter 1: Comprehending Trauma
If you suffer from the lasting effects of trauma, you may feel as though you have no control over your emotions and thoughts. Because of the engulfing feelings associated with your negative experiences, you may even feel powerless to creating change. The first step to overcoming trauma is to identify thoughts and behaviors that stem from negative experiences of your past. Once you can identify negative thought repetitions and overpowering emotions, you can trace your way back to the root of the issues at hand. Let us look at the different types, responses, and definitions to establish a base and starting point.
Subchapter 1: Visible And Invisible Types
There are visible forms of trauma that have an evident impact on a person, but there are also invisible forms of trauma that are masked from the world and buried deep in the heart. When you see someone acting aggressively or withdrawn, they may be reacting from a place of fear and tribulation. The individual is not likely acting out without reason; they have been hurt before, and you are in the crossfire of their emotional unhealthiness. You must understand the difference between what thoughts, emotions, and actions are your responsibility and what is theirs.⁶
The obstacles that prevent us from moving out of this place are our fears. Fear is the center of our thought processes when one is functioning from past experiences. I will provide more information on the brain on trauma throughout this book to glean comprehension of what is going on neurologically. The anxious cognitions likely echo the following: they will reject me; they might not like my opinion, I will be abandoned and alone, or they could hurt me. These thoughts can easily take on a snowball effect and escalate into more feelings of anxiety and worry. Then, ultimately, the cycle continues where we choose to react to the situation accordingly so that we can prevent any possible pain. We use this method to protect and keep the invisible wounds from worsening. However, this cycle is a paradox because what we think will protect us does the opposite, and often leads us to what we worry about most.
The invisible wounds can be dreadful and excruciating or may even appear to be non-healable. When considering early childhood, you may recall a memory where you were bullied in the 3rd-grade on the playground or harassed by an older sibling. There may even be memories of abuse occurring throughout the house in which you grew up. If any of your thoughts come from a negative belief you have of yourself, or a grim emotion, these may be signs of your invisible wounds. Without any treatment of these wounds, you continue to feel a stinging sensation when you encounter a similar interaction. Later, you may come across a similar experience that felt like rubbing alcohol was being poured over the injury, and the agonizing throbbing does not cease. Suffering lingers when you do not examine what initially caused your struggle. Each incident of the same or similar issue occurring builds on the untreated trauma and deteriorates how we think, feel, and what we believe to be true about ourselves.
Additionally, emotions and actions stemming from traumatic events may build on the original hurt and reoccur. For example, a person may ascertain to treat themselves and others in the way they were initially hurt. Emotional disturbances that are long-suffering become what a person knows to be the reality. If a mother yelled or scrutinized them countless times, it is not unheard of if this person goes on to treat others in this manner.
There is a dance to how visible and invisible wounds intertwine and keep you stuck and sick. When I continually try to build walls up between others and myself, I do so as a form of self-preservation against the hurt I fear will incur. However, my external behaviors do not lead me to what I need to heal, and instead, continue to isolate me. I begin feeling more discouraged and trapped within my own fear and wallow in defeat. Subsequently, depression increases and hopelessness takes up a larger space within me. This mindset may direct me to ill coping methods, such as substance abuse or self-sabotaging behaviors that affirm my negative emotions. Thus, the cycle continues as it is focused on the response of the person to an event and how that can intensify, worsening the reactions altogether.¹⁰
Fortunately, while trauma repetition can ensue a cycle, there is a spot where you can intervene and stop the pattern.¹⁰ One of the most difficult tasks of remediating these adversities is to step out and change what is hindering you. Naturally, your mind and body may feel turned upside down and find change to be uncertain or unattainable. This transitional period is an important time to speak kindly to yourself and welcome the unknown, as what may have kept you alive before is not helping anymore. After you become aware of the impact trauma has had on you, you befit the responsibility for keeping the cycle of trauma from continuing. You were not responsible for the actions of the individual(s) who harmed you, but you have the accountability of stopping yourself from spreading that hurt to another. It is crucial to identify the cycle to distinguish your role and your power in determining whether it continues or ends.
The first action you can take on exiting the repetition of trauma is to explore what your visible wounds are. Essentially, these are the unhealthy actions or language you use toward yourself or others. More examples of these behaviors may be restricting nutrients to punish yourself or serial dating the same belittling and uncontrollably angry type of person. Once you can see what is not abetting you to do well, you can start working on changing those behaviors. I like to think of it as cutting off the dead stems that keep you from growing new, more efficient characteristics. I’ve listed helpful tools later in this book to unearth the positive, healthy traits and behaviors you hide beneath negative emotions. Once you discover those invisible wounds are dictating your actions and words,