Marriages Made in Heaven. Married Sent to Hell

By N.Natarajan

Marriage appear to be less serious event in economically well off countries. It is not true of East now. Poor live better marital life than their middle economic counter parts. The family courts are full and it takes several years for cases are finalized.
There is a better chance for the middle class to live happy married life than Poor and Rich. Only middle class live on Knowledge. Poor live by labor and Rich by money.
The book tells how knowledge can be used to make a marriage successful by turning slightly spiritual.,
A thorough analysis done to trace various reasons for married life becoming unviable.
Selected real life stories explain reasons and solutions for strained relation between spouses.

• Language: English
• Publisher: N.Natarajan
• Release date: Jun 9, 2020
• ISBN: 9780463265642

N.Natarajan

Electronics Engineer, tech trainer, author .A certain event in my early life changed my pursuit from normal material life everyone else and became a seeker. I was seen as a Mad guy as I went around trying to find a Man-of-knowledge. A great Spiritual master, Swamy Rama of Himalayan Institute was my first guru. He made me realize that there is none who can answer all my questions and that several Gurus will appear before me and educate me and vanish. It happened in all these years.For my own use I made notes and that I published as free e-books so that people who are in their spiritual journey benefit from my experience. I have written about Spiritual and Religious titles (Spirituality is not Religion) some in Tamil and others in English.AT some point the poor and poverty came into my attention. I learnt Economics , Politics, the way Human mind work and Education - they are all linked to Poor and Poverty.I never priced my writing. Because I believe that knowledge should not be sold. After all I got them from several noble souls and not mine.Recently for the recent title: Three ways of Living (First of the three book series that help one pursue (1) Celestial Pleasure (2) Yogic Power and (3) Salvation I made it that the reader may decide the price.I am happy to find five readers opted to pay USD 4.95.I am working-out the way that the sale proceeds of my writings (ebooks) reach the trust that builds and manages the Memorial for Kanchi Seer Chandra Sekara Saraswathi, in Orikkai. Tamilnadu.Worked for telephones Madurai. 1968 to 71, TERLS ISRO Trivandrum. 1971 to 75. Isro Sriharikotta 1976 to 78Min of Planning govt computer center Delhi, 1978 to 82.DoE (NATIONAL INFORMATICS CENTER). Delhi six months 1982 june -1983 Dec.CMC LTD DELHI AND. CMC LTD CORP R&D Hyderabad 1983 to 1997.Rendezvous on Chip Secunderabad 1997 to 2000.Sophists Technologies Hyderabad 2001. To 2003.Robert Bosch India bangalore. 2003 to 2004.Freelance Tech trainer, author,. from 2004 to now.So for written 31 titles and 5 more on the preparation.The topics include: short stories Religion and spirituality, Education - Economics - poverty and - politics are disasters to the society.My 40 year long Spiritual journey, I realize, has come to an end. I am sharing my learning with readers.

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Publishing particulars

Title of the book

Marriages

Made In Heaven

And

Married

Sent To Hell

Part I  and Part II

Genre

Society

Author

N. Natarajan

Year of Publication

2020

Part I

Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 Is our life Scripted?

Chapter 2  43 Eternal Truths  aka

43 Exchatological Laundry list by Sheldon Kopp

Chapter 3  Miscellaneous

Chapter 4 The mask is off!

Chapter 5 Common problems in married life

Chapter 6 Understanding Life!

Chapter  7 Let us go slightly Spiritual!

(Married People Can Lead A Happy Life If Only They Want)!

Chapter 8  Introduction 2.

Chapter 9 Three  type of  people: (Knowledgeable - Normal - Abnormal)

Chapter 10 Stories

Story 1.

Story 2:  Animal instinct - the spoiler of peaceful married life.

Story 3: The hidden agenda! - Ganesh and Ramya. 

Story 4: The greedy couple - ruined their daughter’s life.

Story 5: The lady who nearly ruined her daughter’s life.

Story 6 Respect for parents Sent him to jail!

Story 7  A divorce Story of Vilasini

Story  8  Wife files a false litigation

Story 9  Vasudeva got married at last!

Story 10 Padmanabhan - dreams!- Part I

Story 11 Padhbanabhan’s dream -Part II

Story 12  Padbhanabhan’s dream- Part III

Story 13 The girl was lucky!

Story 14 Marriage saved

Story 15 Troubled fathers

Story 16 Foolish mother

Introduction

I wrote a book in Tamil with the same title nearly ten years ago upon a suggestion from a publisher.

I wrote and published it as an Ebook. That was among one of my well read books, next only to Zen Stories.

It is the end of 2019, when I started writing this English version. 

The scenario of marriage has changed a lot in the last ten years.

Different types of people exist always:

1.      Married and unhappy. 

2.      The unmarried are also unhappy.

3.    Married, but lost their spouse at various stages in their lifetime.

Married feels that he was happier before marriage. They lost their freedom. The unmarried are lucky!

Life of married people today!

1.  Today very few are getting married in our part of India and several of the married are paying regular visits to Family court seeking separation. I talked to many of the litigants to understand what caused the change in one decade.

2.  The same sex marriage, once a taboo, is open and law allows it today.

3.  Most marriages are delayed.

Boys wait for their mid 30s and girls in their early 30s.  The late marriage is one of the reasons for disharmony.

Every individual has a different perception about every conceivable issue. As one grows in age,  the perceptions become unshakable faith. That makes them nearly inflexible to make adjustments with their spouse.

4. Expectations from each other changes with time.

Initially the appearance matters.

Soon, money matters and not as much as the looks!

Then the attention one seeks from the other matter.

With time The young couple become parents. Then grow into head of the family with grownup children and old age parents. Expectation from each other differs widely.

5. Often both Parents of spouses are dependent on their children to varying extents,  both for emotional and economic support. Their perceptions and influence adds more bitterness. 

6.  Several problems between newly-weds can be traced to dishonesty and hidden agenda as its root cause.

7.  There are crooked parents who seek to lead a luxurious life at the cost of the peaceful married life of their children.

These are a few  problems that contribute to disharmony in marital relations and  breaking of the marriage.

The worst victims are typically the Middle (Economic) Class.

I was wondering, if there was a way that the middle class will ever live peacefully like our forefathers.

I am very sure it will be possible. 

Reason?

Reviewer: Poor live by labour and the rich live by money. But the middle class live by knowledge. That gives me the hope!

Reviewer: So what?

Author: All they need to do is go slightly spiritual.

Reviewer:  Will you make them Sadus and swamijis?

Author: No! They are hugely spiritual.  I am talking about Slightly Spiritual.

Reviewer: ??????

Author:  Expose the people to some basic truth. The dirty tricks of Maya! That would do the magic!

Besides we will tell them those issues that cause disharmony.

Tell them some of the real life stories. (I will keep the names of the characters in the stories, places in the scene are fictitious).

When one understands Maya and Maya induced foolishness with which we live, most problems in married life will vanish and life on earth will not be any less than life in heaven.

Child Marriage A Solution?

Once Child marriage widely prevalent in India. It is illegal now but it continues in some pockets. The married were too young to remember