Four O'Clock Fridays
By Alan Rabb and Suzy Mayer
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You can reject the notion of a work-life balance. Balance all aspects of your life.
There is, after all, a lot more to life than just work and family.
Open yourself to more. To other aspects. To what truly matters.
Alan Rabb spent more than 30 years in business, with the majority of those as a Coca-Cola executive in the finance field. Throughout his career, he followed a passion to learn about business process, with a specific focus on team building, mentoring and leadership.
This is a story of his journey, and how the trials, challenges, and disappointments he faced brought him to the life-changing moment in which he had to define what really mattered. He went on to create a framework that helped him focus on his personal values.
By developing five principles by which to live . . .
FAMILY
FAITH
FITNESS
FORTUNE
FUN
. . . the road to achieving success was paved with attainability.
With clarity and conciseness, his story reveals a roadmap that not only turned this man's vision into reality, but one that might also help the reader in the journey toward their own personal success.
Buy Four O'Clock Fridays today to begin the journey towards becoming your best balance self.
Alan Rabb
Alan Rabb spent more than 30 years in business, with the majority of those as a Coca-Cola executive in the finance field. Throughout his career, he followed a passion to learn about business process, with a specific focus on team building, mentoring and leadership. This is a story of his journey, and how the trials, challenges, and disappointments he faced brought him to the life-changing moment in which he had to define what really mattered. He went on to create a framework that helped him focus on his personal values. By developing five principles by which to live, the road to achieving success was paved with attainability. With clarity and conciseness, his story reveals a roadmap that not only turned this man's vision into reality, but one that might also help the reader in the journey toward their own personal success.
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Four O'Clock Fridays - Alan Rabb
To my wife Jill, and our two sons
whose unending love have helped and continue to
help me grow into a better person.
Preface
My story has been in the making for well over fifty years. At times too busy living through my life to stop long enough to find the words to share my struggles, I am now filled by the lessons I’ve learned along the way. I ask that you not judge me as a person and I ask that you honor the decisions I made, even knowing perhaps that you may have made different ones.
The story inscribed in the pages that follow describe the path, as I recall it, which has led me to the five principles guiding my life today. My journey is fraught with insecurity and fear, but it’s also marked by moments of clear vision and confidence. Although often changing course and direction, the road is tempered by a learned determination to forge ahead even when it would be easier not to. While my path might be different from yours, like me, you are built from fragments of your past. I offer the learnings from my journey, admittedly knowing that there are literally hundreds of books with suggestions to become your best self. I developed this framework when I attended a training class; the tools and ideas created are uniquely mine. This story is not for you to learn who I am as a person, but for you to see a glimpse of yourself in my own remembering. Some of the stories are raw. However, my intention is not to hurt or offend anyone. I am soothed by knowing that through these experiences, I have become a better husband, father and man. It is my hope that in sharing what brought me to the truths by which I have chosen to live my life, you too can gain strength and direction from my journey.
Part I
Chapter 1
In the Beginning
I have little to no recollection of a single word of praise from my parents.
From the outside, we were an average middle-class family. My dad was a salesman for a large corporation, which meant we moved around a lot. Although he always provided for his family, his career was otherwise quite unremarkable. Every morning, he’d put on one of his three suits and a freshly laundered white shirt and a tie. He’d eat breakfast while reading the newspaper and then head to work. In the evenings, he’d return home to a hot dinner, clean clothes in his drawers and closets, and his children bathed and well-behaved. He’d watch television after dinner and promptly head to bed at 10 pm so he could start his monotonous cycle all over the next morning. My mom was a stay-at-home mom and wife during my childhood. When I reached my teenage years, she worked in the banking industry, rising to a VP level, but even then, her domestic roles were clearly defined. It was the early 70s, and household duties were parsed according to gender. In short, my mom did all the work inside the house; my Dad and I took care of the yard, house repairs and other general maintenance on the outside of the house.
We celebrated all the holidays that American families typically celebrate. Christmases were chock-full of colorfully wrapped presents piled under a tree adorned with lights and sparkling tinsel. Grandparents, aunts, and uncles filled the house; the food was plentiful, the endless assortment of desserts dazzling. But there was a brokenness amongst us. We shared nothing of significance; we were strangers, all gathered because of our common DNA. The absence of any real joy left me reserved, with a feeling of isolation that ran deep. Similarly, when we spent our summers with my maternal grandparents on St. Simons Island, I spent my time fishing or walking around the island. We kids were shooed away to do whatever it is that kids do, so that our parents and grandparents could do their own thing. Longing for family connectedness, I developed surprisingly strong feelings for my grandparents. Thirsty for tenderness and appreciation, I drank up their attention, and my gratitude manifested itself in a keen sense of responsibility that caused me to look out for them when I became a young adult. It would prove to be the single-family connection I sustained.
When I was in fifth grade, I began what would become a long and passionate career as a swimmer. Aware only that I felt alive in the water, I wasn’t aware of the life-long lessons I would learn through the sport. Almost immediately, my coaches demanded what felt like perfection from my body that, although long and lean, I was somewhat scrawny in strength. My efforts, however, began to pay off, and it wasn’t long before I itched each day for the moment I could return to the pool. Leaving behind the dull colors of my home and the cold world of my family, the water gave me a place to focus completely on something