The Ordinary Way: A Unique Way to Live
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The ordinary things of life receive less than their fair share of attention. Pastor Mark Goodman draws attention, through humor, story, and scriptural texts, to the benefits of appreciating more than just extraordinary achievements. When a person ceases to recognize the value of "good," "OK," and "ordinary," he or she tends to devalue their own and others' significance.
The Ordinary Way introduces the importance of the quest that seems countercultural. Goodman connects the theme to the teachings of Jesus, specifically those found in which He provides His view of how His followers were to read and follow the Ten Commandments, and provide specific examples of how to "live the ordinary life" day-to-day.
Recognizing the variety of life events, Goodman also addresses the subject of appreciating the extraordinary times of life as well as the less-than-ordinary times of life. The Ordinary Way shows you how to appreciate all of life. Welcome to the ordinary way of living.
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The Ordinary Way - Mark T. Goodman
Part I
Finding the Ordinary Way
1
Pinky Toes and Average Joes
Warning labels and orange diamond-shaped signs alert us of possible and avoidable pain and sixty-five mph panic. While not one to suggest an excess of warnings and don’t-do-this-stupid
labels, I recommend posted cautions regarding relocated furniture and carelessly placed laundry baskets.
I do not recall if I ever started a tally; if I did, I neglected counting somewhere along the way. It is next to impossible to achieve even the simplest of mathematical equations while searing pain demands attention. The collision occurs so quickly that no amount of time exists to avoid the day-altering event—that moment when the smallest of your southernmost digits collides with the solid-oak couch leg or the surprisingly sharp basket gap. Even the saintliest among us unleash long-restrained vocabulary and then proceed to the hop destined to appear on Dancing with the Stars. Pinky Toe, allow me to introduce you to immovable object Exhibit A. Once you commence with the one a.m. dance, you understand more the words of the apostle Paul, If one part suffers, every part suffers with it.
Meet Joe
His name is Joe. He lives in a middle-class neighborhood and drives a mid-sized car to a medium-wage job. During his average-length commute, Joe habitually visits the closest (never mind if it’s the best) coffee hut and orders a cup of (yes, that’s right) Joe—Black, no milk or sugar, please.
Joe arrives at his mid-town office, walks halfway down the hall, and places his gray bag on his middle-management desk. Today is Employee Appreciation Day. After Joe expresses appreciation to his office assistant, she informs him that the company CEO asked to see him. Joe again walks down the hall. As he approaches the boss’s office, he speaks to the CFO who just departed from the office. She smiles. She feels appreciated. The CEO, just moments before, told her how thankful he was for her diligent work. Not sure what to expect, Average Joe enters the CEO’s office. He sees kind eyes and a gracious smile…
Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more. So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money.
After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. The man who had received five bags of gold brought the other five. Master,
he said, you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.
His master replied, Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!
The man with two bags of gold also came. Master,
he said, you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have gained two more.
His master replied,
Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!"
Matthew 25:14–23
Ordinary.
Pinky toes and Average Joes.
Neither spectacular, neither much noticed—both essential; both needed; both ordinary.
2
No. Really. It’s Okay.
It’s exhausting. You achieve, but not enough. You succeed, yet it’s not your nation’s anthem you hear. Your 3.95 is exceptional, but it’s no 4.0. You don’t believe it no matter how many times your friend repeats the words, No. Really. It’s okay.
You’ve heard another word even more times than those. You pronounce it without stutter and spell it with ease. You, however, struggle to find it no matter the depth or extent of your search.
Contentment.
The student loved his teacher. He held his mentor in highest regard. Sometimes, however, he struggled. He fought off as best he could the ever-around-the-corner desire to match, if not surpass, his teacher’s success. Isn’t the younger supposed to surpass the older, after all? While his mentor, Paul, wrote the words to address the temptation of love for money, Timothy still heard within them a challenge to his want for more—contentment is great gain.
Joshua needed the reminder that his hero was dead. David’s physique proved ill-suited for the first king’s armor. Joshua crossed his own parted water. David slew his own giants. They found their own skin.
Timothy’s travels aren’t detailed on maps in the back of holy texts; nevertheless, he served where he lived and practiced a sincere faith. He never filled Paul’s shoes. He was never required to do so. He filled the ones that fit him.
A devout life does bring wealth, but it’s the rich simplicity of being yourself before God.
1 Timothy 6:6 MSG
Contentment.
No, really. It’s okay.
Ordinary.
3
Good. Period.
I looked for it but to no avail, either in Genesis 1 or 2. Days one, four, and five receive a score of good.
Day three claims double that. For whatever reason, day two misses out all together; quite the opposite of day six’s very good.
I looked and found no great,
awesome,
incredible,
or even a step above.
Good. Period.
In 1995, Chris Noonan, inspired by Dick King-Smith’s novel, brought to us the story of Babe. Not Ruth or a term of endearment. A pig. We see Babe corral the hapless herd of sheep and want to cry out, Way to go!
, Awesome!
or any cry of extreme approval. However, Farmer Hoggett, so well portrayed by James Cromwell, looks to his well-trained swine friend and declares, That’ll do, pig; that’ll do.
The Creator looked upon His creation and said, That’ll do.
But you say, That’s not enough. Can’t we add more flash, more pomp and circumstance?
No. Good. Period. That’ll do.
Perhaps our quest for more than good is part of the gross residue of sin. It’s the child bound and determined to please her father and the father for whom B+ marks failure. It’s the single blue ribbon not bringing enough satisfaction. It’s the midlife crisis when the husband now pursues a younger love.
It’s the wife for whom a best effort at home repair receives a mere nod, if any expression of appreciation at all. The quest for more than good proves endless and disheartening. Remember day seven? After six days of imagination brought to life in vivid color, expansive skies, crawling creatures, and male and female images of God, the Artist, rested from all the work of creating that he had done.
He rested. He saw that it was very good and knew that that’ll do.
Good. Period.
Part II
Living the Ordinary Way
4
Essence of Existence
His name is forgotten or, at least, not a key element to the story. He taught and advocated for the law, the Hebrew law, expertly so. He, wanting to display his intellectual prowess, devised the most difficult exam he could muster. He approached the man named Jesus and quizzed, Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?
(Matthew 22:36).
The GED, Bar Exam, and Thesis Defense combined! The whole enchilada! Yet even without an all-night cramming session, the Tested One blew the curve on that exam.
Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.
Matthew 22:37–40
Within these words Jesus summarized the essence of our existence. Yes, the Law and Prophets found their fulfillment in those few words, but so does human purpose as well. In the words of the ancient confession, humanity’s purpose is to glorify God and to enjoy Him forever.
Glorification and enjoyment find their ultimate design in the simply stated commandments of Jesus. Simply stated? Yes. Simply achieved? Not so much.
The Hebrew scholar/advocate must not have been among those gathered on the mountainside months before. You and I weren’t either. We, however, can eavesdrop on the words those gathered heard. He, One who came not to abolish but to fulfill the Law and Prophets, spoke with conviction as much of the crowd absorbed the refreshing new expression of the ancient texts.
Within His words He expressed not only the truth but also the heart and intent of the divine commands. On the mountain and in other places along His journey, He gave voice to ten top priorities. Jesus’ Top Ten.
We will count them down.
5
Jesus’ Top Ten—#10
Back in 1993, Jack Lemmon and Walter Matthau made America laugh as two Grumpy Old Men. Over three thousand years ago another grumpy old man, of sorts, made Israel fear.
The Hebrew people knew better than to laugh when Moses, their frustrated leader, dashed the two stone tablets to pieces. Thankfully, God is eternally more patient and faithful than grumpy old men and faithless followers. Whereas God provided the first two tablets, the second time around Moses had to chisel out the replacements. (Maybe Moses learned a lesson there!) In His grace, God rewrote the commandments. Those commandments served as guide and identity for the Hebrew people for over one thousand years, untouched and unaltered.
Within those commandments, Israel found their distinctiveness. As Nahum Sarna explains, unlike all other systems around them, Israel’s law included life. Life is treated holistically. It is not compartmentalized. Crime is therefore also sin
(144).
Perhaps of all Ten Commandments, #10 shows that holistic view most clearly, for as Peter Craigie states well, the tenth is concerned primarily with motivation rather than with act
(163).
What is #10?
You shall not covet.
Coveting is hard to prove and that is proof that God called His people to a new level of faithfulness. Don’t miss the significance of that. Over three thousand years ago God set forth a law that prohibits not just evil acts but evil desires. This is one of the most significant steps that was ever taken by any religion in history
(Shires 369).
That was a huge step, an enormously huge step indeed. But, you ain’t seen nothing yet.
Something far greater is on the way; well actually, Someone!
The days are coming,
declares the Lord,when I will make a new covenant with the people of Israel and with the people of Judah. It will not be like the covenant I made with their ancestors when I took them by the hand to lead them out of Egypt, because they broke my covenant, though I was a husband to them,
declares the Lord.
This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,
declares the Lord.
I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people. No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the Lord,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest,
declares the Lord.
For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.
Jeremiah 31:31–34
God’s words to Jeremiah highlight His message of love. God says…
"I will make a covenant"
"I took them by the hand to lead them"
"I was a husband to them"
"I will put my law in their minds"
"and write it on their hearts"
"they will allknow me"
"I will forgive"
"remember their sins no more"
God does not provide His law and His covenant in order to force obedience; it is an act of love. Graeme Goldsworthy, an Australian Old Testament scholar, explains it best when he writes,
The law is not simply a guide for human behavior; its ethics and obedience are primarily there to indicate a relationship to God. At the heart of the law is the covenant relationship with God
(156).
Twelve to fifteen hundred years after Moses and six hundred plus years after Jeremiah, the unparalleled Relationship walked into Jerusalem in the person of Jesus. The One to whom the law pointed, and of whom Jeremiah prophesied, sat down on a mountain and taught. This is how He began…
Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
Matthew 5:3–12
In light of these words, discovering Jesus’ view of #10 is not difficult. Coveting is all about wanting. Jesus teaches, however, that God will bless those who refuse want and embrace dependence on Him.
Pay special attention to verse six. One willing to look at #10 through the eyes of Jesus will see that the only acceptable and beneficial want
is a hunger and thirst for righteousness.
That hunger and thirst is crucial for man does not live on bread alone and one cannot possibly live abundantly and eternally without Jesus. Let Him explain…
Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished. Therefore anyone who sets aside one of the least of these commands and teaches others accordingly will be called least in the kingdom of heaven, but whoever practices and teaches these commands will be called great in the kingdom of heaven. For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.
Matthew 5:17–20
Jesus speaks those words just as He is warming up
—just minutes into His teaching. Do you grasp the impact of His words? Hear some of them again…
For I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven.
Matthew 5:20
Jesus’ words here are somewhat like if I told you that if you do not grow a third leg, you will never run. Impossible, right?
That is Jesus’ point exactly. He teaches His listeners that they cannot do enough to earn heaven. As a pointed and concrete example, He speaks of a group of people whom the listeners knew were the best at being righteous
—the Pharisees. Even the Pharisees fell short! Goldsworthy skillfully and succinctly illuminates our understanding of Jesus’ bold statement of impossibilities. He begins with Adam.
"The ‘law’ given to the first Adam, the first son of God, was broken, and mankind was thrown out of the garden into the wilderness. The law given to Israel, the son of God, was broken, and the nation was thrown out of its promised land into the wilderness of exile. A last Adam came as the truly obedient covenant partner of God, signifying his identification with a people that desperately needed his help.
We can almost hear heaven’s sigh of relief, ‘At last! A true son of God.’ ‘You are my beloved son in whom I am well pleased’ is God’s word of approval. Then this true Adam, this true Israel, goes out into our wilderness to be tempted and to be victorious, so that he might make for us a way back into the garden of God.
Jesus did not come to destroy or abolish the law but to fulfill it (Matthew 5:17). He is the end…of the law. He is its ultimate reference point, revealing with unprecedented clarity what Sinai was all about. He applies it with uncompromising rigidity: ‘unless your righteousness exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven’ (Matthew 5:20).
In the Sermon on the Mount [and] in his parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector…he takes the ground of self-justification out from under those who think they can somehow climb up the ladder of the law to acceptance with God. He has come to fulfill all righteousness for us. He not only fulfills all the law in his own sinless life, but he is content to have our law breaking imputed to him so that he bears the curse of the law for us (2 Corinthians 5:21).
By faith we receive the gift of Jesus’ law keeping, which was perfectly achieved on our behalf, and in him we become