Are These My Hands Now?: Aging and Me
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Inspired by real experiences, the vignettes reflect the unique ways in which aging impacts women differently than men. They speak for and to other women to illuminate shared obstacles and opportunities, and to let kindred spirits know they are not alone.
Aging isn't easy on anyone, but it's more challenging for women, in all walks of life, than men. Intimately connected with the loss of attractiveness, women grow "invisible" as ageism and sexism collide. The perceived loss of power and beauty, two key levers in American society, devalues women, consequently creating an unjust disadvantage.
The only way to deal with these unstoppable changes is to choose how we age. Women can lament or rejoice, stagnate or grow, submit or prevail. If women are to feel more positive about our aging process, then we need to think differently about it. Recognizing that aging is merely another aspect of living, of being human, can be liberating.
Witty, candid, and reflective, Are These My Hands Now? seeks to help the reader:
• Adopt a new mindset for aging
• Cultivate self-awareness and reveal your biases
• Explore the power of choice
• Envision the future
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Are These My Hands Now? - Rochelle Mucha
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ISBN 978-1-54398-495-8 (print)
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In Loving Memory of my Mother, who aged with extraordinary grace. An ideal I have yet to achieve.
Contents
Musing
Becoming Invisible
Senior Discount Day
My Mother Would Love Those Shoes
You Look 61!
We Have Stairs
Because You Are Getting Old
Eligibility
Discerning Reflections
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
The Dressing Room
My Hands
Familiar
Do I Look Like Anyone?
Seeking Liberation
A Picture Says a Thousand Words and More
Going Natural
Laughter
Dancing the Night Away
Women Rising
To Hear or Not to Hear
I Am Too Old for This
Me and My Shadow(s)
Still Becoming
Telling Your Story
My Attitude
Becoming Invisible
Discerning Reflections
Seeking Liberation
Age
Noun ** Verb ** Adjective
To Come of Age
Act Your Age
Ageism
Aged Well
Aging Population
Ageless Beauty
Musing
I am turning seventy this year. The number does not scare me. It has been an amazing journey.
I should not be surprised that the academic in me who yearns for facts and the behaviorist in me who covets reflection and introspection appear to be colluding, compelling my preoccupation with the aging process.
I see age everywhere I go, and with everyone I meet.
The young woman jogging ahead of me while I walk. Does she appreciate those smooth cellulite-free thighs?
The older stranger at a restaurant. Does she know her dyed hair may make her look older rather than younger?
The senior flight attendant. Does she feel less attractive than the majority of her younger colleagues?
The elderly woman slowly moving forward with her walker. Does she long for days past, or was she always slow to move?
The group of familiar female faces of my family, friends, and neighbors I have watched slowly don the signs of aging over the decades. Do they see the same?
Is this book merely a collection of my contemplations with the aging process?
Are these vignettes and reflections commiserative, amusing, informative, or inspirational?
You decide.
Becoming Invisible
The Lady Vanishes, a 1938 Alfred Hitchcock suspense masterpiece, is one of the greatest train movies from the genre’s golden age. It tells the story of a spinster, a passenger on the train, who abruptly vanishes. We see her briefly as she etches her name on a misty train window, each letter swiftly evaporating. A younger woman is troubled by her disappearance but fails to find anyone else on the train who saw her. All the younger woman can recall when asked to describe the older woman is that she was middle-aged and ordinary.
In truth, she can’t remember her. As the story unfolds, the missing woman seems to be a figment of the imagination with no real characteristics. Laughter, tension, and eccentric characters entwine to captivate the audience until the final scene when the missing woman’s true identity as a British spy is disclosed, and she materializes as the film’s bona fide heroine.
How apt that an eight-decade-old movie has emerged as a metaphor for discourse about aging women and their unique challenges. It is, in part, a comedy, and yet there is nothing laughable about the legitimate feelings many older women harbor of being overlooked, rendered invisible.
Literally, to be invisible is not to be seen. To feel invisible is to perceive we are being ignored, not taken into consideration. Too frequently, the aging perceive ourselves as invisible. For as long as we are alive and kicking, we are literally seen, hence making the distinction between literal and perceived critical.