1000 Sex Facts You Need to Know: Your Ultimate Guide to the Best Mind-Blowing Sizzling Sex Ever

By Alan Fensin

1000 Sex Facts is your complete guide to the sexual passion, pleasure, and intimacy that will heat up your sex life!Based on the latest cutting-edge research, the 52 chapters explain everything from pheromones, multiple orgasms, kegels, BDSM, incredible orgasmic success and resolved sexual problems and health.You will learn everything you need to be a superior lover, have powerful orgasms and create a deeper more personal relationship with your partner.With lots of humor, research, and anecdotes, 1000 Sex Facts will become your long-term partner in understanding the mysteries of sex.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Alan Fensin
• Release date: Sep 26, 2019
• ISBN: 9780463809426

Alan Fensin

Alan Fensin earned a degree in Electronic Engineering and was a design engineer working with NASA on the Apollo moon rocket that successfully allowed Americans to walk on the moon. Next he worked with Boeing in the design of the 737 aircraft. For many years he traveled to various cities giving lectures on technical aspects of Electrical Engineering. He is the author of eighteen books and calls writing his main hobby.

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Introduction

Chapter 1: Foreplay

Chapter 2: Kissing

Chapter 3: Erotic Massage

Chapter 4: Penis and Male Body Parts

Chapter 5: Penis Enlargement

Chapter 6: Female Body Parts

Chapter 7: Clitoris

Chapter 8: G-spot

Chapter 9: Female ejaculation

Chapter 10: Oral Sex

Chapter 11: Cunnilngus

Chapter 12: Fellatio

Chapter 13: Sexual Intercourse

Chapter 14: Sex Positions

Chapter 15: Hand jobs and Breast Jobs

Chapter 16: Anal Sex

Chapter 17: Quickie Sex

Chapter 18: Masturbation-Sex for One

Chapter 19: Sexual Lubricants

Chapter 20: Orgasm

Chapter 21: Female Orgasm

Chapter 22: Male Orgasm

Chapter 23: Lasting Longer and Multiple Orgasm

Chapter 24: Kegel Exercise

Chapter 25: The Incredible Magic of Orgasm Power

Chapter 26: Health Benefits of Sex

Chapter 27: Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD’s)

Chapter 28: Birth Control

Chapter 29: Male, Female Differences

Chapter 30: Sex Tips for Women

Chapter 31: Sex Tips For Men

Chapter 32: Love and Intimacy

Chapter 33: Aphrodisiacs and Pheromones

Chapter 34: Fetish and Kink

Chapter 35: BDSM

Chapter 36: Sex Toys

Chapter 37: Tantric Sex

Chapter 38: Pornography

Chapter 39: Prostitution

Chapter 40: Senior Sex and Aging

Chapter 41: Sex Hormones

Chapter 42: Erectile Dysfunction

Chapter 43: Premature Ejaculation

Chapter 44: Female Sex Problems

Chapter 45: Miscellaneous Sex Problems

Chapter 46: Sex Addiction

Chapter 47 Talking Sexy and Dirty

Chapter 48: Sexy play, games and fantasies

Chapter 49: Finding Romance and Love

Chapter 50: Electrify Your Sex Life

Chapter 51: After Play

Chapter 52: Sex Humor and Jokes

The Author

Introduction

Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex. ―Havelock Ellis

Sex is one of the nine reasons for incarnation. The other eight are unimportant. ―George Burns

When sex is good, it’s the most beautiful thing in the world. When sex is bad, it’s still pretty good. ―Old Irish saying

We want to congratulate you for making this great investment in your sexual relationships! We assure you that 1000 Sex Facts You Need to Know will be a treasure chest of hot, wonderful and wild ideas that you will use for many years to come. This book was written for both beginning and very experienced people. Think of it as the owner's manual for great sex that didn't come with your birth. It will answer your sexual questions you've wanted to know but didn't know who to ask. And it will become your resource to improve your sexual pleasure and performance. It is a fact that most people who read this book will have better, hotter and more wonderful sex.

Mother Nature has a few evolutionary imperatives for the survival of our species. First we need to find food and water, to find safety and shelter, and finally, we need to find a mate for reproduction. Mother Nature developed sex for reproduction and thus made sex an extremely powerful physical and emotional human drive and one of life's most fulfilling experiences. Reproductive sex is one of the key elements of our existence, and without it, we would not be alive.

Normal reproductive sex is the easy stuff that we already instinctively know. But in the twenty-first century, sex to reproduce is not why most people have sex. Great SEX is more complicated, but many times more enjoyable and a fascinating topic to explore. In addition to having a fantastic orgasm, people want to be both entertained and connected to other people. This book will guide you through it.

Humans regularly engage in sex for pleasure, for sexual tension relief, for physical health, for conquest, for mental health, and finally for love, romantic connection and rewarding relationships.

The famous Maslow Hierarchy of Needs puts reproductive sex on the bottom physiological instinctive rungs along with other important things like breathing, safety, food and water. Sexual intimacy however is on the middle rungs along with friendship, and family. Maslow is saying that there are two types of sex. On the bottom rung is the survival of the species (animal part of sex) that is instinctive and typically does not need an instruction book.

Then up on the third rung, there is the more evolved sexual intimacy need. This is where sex education, such as this instruction book on sex, could make a huge difference in a person's happiness.

People are not born great lovers. To become a great lover, we must educate ourselves in the necessary sexual psychology and physical skills. With sex, there's no such thing as too much knowledge. Regardless of your age or experience, there are always new things to learn about sex.

Few words catch our attention more quickly than the word sex. That's because sex is a fundamental part of human life and when done properly, can be a supreme human experience. And human sexuality has inspired more attention than any other aspect of human behavior. Sex is definitely one of the most important parts of our lives. Without sex humans would not exist. Our parents had sex and all our ancestors had sex.

All the sex scandals, sexual advertising, sexual advice and stories we are regularly bombarded with underline the importance of sex. In today's world, sex is definitely the big elephant in the room.

However, modern society generally does not treat sex education as very important and we are taught to emphasize other things in life ― such as getting an education, learning a skill and making money. Most people grew up in families or societies that had various taboos about openly discussing sex and as children were often nervous just talking about it with their parents. Additionally, some religions put very strict limitations on many aspects of sex. Sex even became a source of shame when Eve took a bite of the forbidden fruit.

Today there are still some religions that require women to wear veils and hide their sexuality. In fact, our sexuality is not separate from the rest of our life but is instead a major part of it.

For most adults, sex is one of the most important parts of their life. The more facts people know about sex, the better chance they have of enjoying a happy and satisfying sex life.

But one of the biggest problems of today's world is the lack of information that the average person has regarding effective sexual techniques and how to have the best sex possible. Knowing how to have great sex and not just regular mundane sex requires information not taught at school.

Ideally, schools should teach everyone about sex the same way it teaches reading, writing and arithmetic. School sex education typically uses scare tactics and teaches just the possible dangers of sex, such as the risk of getting disease and getting pregnant. The sex education classes are often called health class.

Sex is not something we should learn on the street. Sex is something that requires an investment of time and effort so that we can understand how to maximize the joy of sex. Great lovers are made by learning the nitty-gritty effective facts about how to be a great lover.

There was a belief that if adolescents were taught sex in school they would end up having sex earlier than if they were not taught at all. However, recent research has shown that sex education causes adolescents to have sex later in life. Additionally, because they learn about birth control and STD's, before they eventually have sex they tend to take fewer risks and have fewer problems.

The purpose of sex is not just procreation. Nowadays, most people engage in sex for pleasure, enjoyment and intimate bonding with others and not just to make babies. Sex is one of the most important subjects of our life, yet few schools teach anything but the bare essentials ― such as self-regulation, birth control and sexually transmitted disease. It would be very difficult for schools to teach much more because different people want to engage in different types of sex. It would be too complicated and confusing to teach children about all of it, therefore, it is up to us as adults to learn the important things about sex that were absent in our education.

Sex can be one of life's most satisfying physical and emotional experiences. The pleasure of touch and intimate body contact sends signals to our body to be happy and whole. In addition to the pleasure and intimacy of sex, there are also real health benefits associated with sex.

Regular sex can lower your systolic blood pressure and possibly lengthen your life.

Men who have sex at least twice a week are less likely to die of heart disease than men who infrequently have sex.

Sex has been shown to give people higher levels of resistance to colds and the common flu.

In women regular sex can improve bladder control.

According to a study published by the American Medical Association men who ejaculated at least 20 times a month were less likely to get prostate cancer.

After orgasms, the hormone prolactin is released, which improves your ability to have better sleep quality.

Sex has been shown to decreases stress and anxiety levels.

Having sex three times or more a week can make people look years younger than their actual age.

Our goal for this book is to make this the one book that will inform you about almost all the sexual facts that you might have learned in a more open sexual environment. To meet that goal, we decided to write the most complete book on sex possible. We also wanted to make this a very easy and straightforward book to read. Therefore, we have intentionally not included scholarly references that would have encumbered the presentation.

In this book, you will explore human sexuality from beginning to end. Almost everything you ever wondered about sex will be answered. When sex is skillfully managed, it is very memorable and extremely satisfying.

Sex is the world's favorite pastime and the more capable you are at sexual methods, the more pleasure you can give and receive. However, mind-blowing super-hot sex is not instinctive. It is a learned skill that needs to be studied. The good news is that it's much more attainable than you might think.

Great lovers aren't born that way. Giving people the necessary information and techniques creates great lovers. This book is your key to starting on your path to learn those techniques and activate your sexual skills.

It takes some effort on your part, but this book has practically all the information you will need. Read it and your sex life will be an awesome experience, better than you ever imagined.

What people want most from their sexual partner is the feeling that their partner is devoted, interested and passionate about them. They want to know that you accept them for who they are and ignore their imagined faults. This causes people to draw closer to each other.

Don't forget to practice safer sex as discussed in the chapters on birth control and sexually transmitted diseases. Only couples who know they are risk-free should engage in unprotected sex. Also, if you are in a committed relationship, make sure to tell your partner that you are reading this book. Otherwise, they may wonder how you have got so good at sex and think that you are seeing someone else.

All sexual intercourse with mutual orgasm is good. But even better sex includes the anticipation of unknown varieties as opposed to the routine predictability of the same old sex. You will learn about many types of sexual acts and how to spice things up to maximize your pleasure from them. However, the information here should not be understood as the only way sex should be. It should instead be seen as various possibilities of sex that can vastly improve your sex life.

Because the subject of sex is so vast, it took a while to decide which subjects to write about and which to leave out.

I eventually decided on many topics to include, but still had difficulty choosing exactly where to begin. Then I remembered a passage from Alice's Adventures in Wonderland:

The White Rabbit put on his spectacles, Where shall I begin, please your Majesty?" he asked.

Begin at the beginning, the King said, very gravely, and go on till you come to the end: then stop.

The beginning of sex is often foreplay so we will begin there.

Chapter 1 Foreplay

Q: Why don't women blink during foreplay?

A: They don't have time.

Q: What makes a man think about dinner by candlelight?

A: A power failure. —Unknown

Foreplay can turn good sex into great sex.

—Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was, the man goes on top and the woman underneath. For three years my husband and I slept on bunk beds. —Joan Rivers

Most good stories, movies, novels and plays are divided into three parts or acts. The first is the introductory and set-up. In sex, foreplay can be considered the opening scene or act one. The second act is the guts of the story. In sex, progression to genital oral stimulation, finger-genital or penis play or actual sexual penetration and intercourse is act two. The third act is the glory or big finale. And in sex, the climax or orgasm is act three. Most people would feel cheated if they were going to see a movie but someone gave away the ending in act three. Seeing all three acts instead of just act three is much more enjoyable.

For most men, the main event is act three, the orgasm. Typically for women, the entire three acts of sex are the main event. Therein lies the key difference between men and women. Most women love foreplay and consider it half the fun while most men could easily just skip it.

Because of the urge to quickly get to act three, foreplay is an often-neglected part of sex. But foreplay is important because it lets you and your partner pleasantly transition from your normal life problems to a much more intimate space. A ten or more minute investment in foreplay will enhance intimacy and increase the likelihood of a great relationship.

Foreplay is what many women like most about sexual relationships. Foreplay often begins with dining together. Sharing food has always been an important part of the human mating ritual. Perhaps that is the reason so many dates occur at restaurants. While dinner sets the stage by itself it is not foreplay. It is only the beginning of foreplay. Speaking of dinner, the meal is usually divided into three acts much as plays are divided into three acts. Foreplay (act one) is called an appetizer and is often the tastiest part of the meal. The appetizer is foreplay and like plays or sex, sets the tone for the next act. Act two is a great main course and would be the sex act itself. And after the main course, the sweet dessert is act three or the climax of the dinner and the climax of sex.

Don't be predictable in your foreplay or during the actual sex act. One takeaway from this book is that there are an infinite number of ways to have sex. Be unpredictable and vary the type of sex you have. In other words, don't fall into a boring routine. One spice of life for most people is to try different things in sex. Anticipating the future sexual thrills greatly amplifies the total pleasure.

Foreplay also puts romance and intimacy into sex, especially for people who have been together for years. It is a very important part of the relationship. Various actions that show this include flirting, holding hands, hugging, cuddling, a kiss on the cheek or back of the neck, a touch almost anywhere on the body and a suggestive pat on the butt.

Physically the average woman or man takes about the same time for physical sexual arousal. But emotionally, the average woman typically takes much longer than the average man to reach full arousal.

For men, the most obvious physical arousal indication is an erect penis. For women, the physical arousal indicators are some swelling of the vulva bodily tissues such as the inner and outer lips. Other indicators are nipple erection and, of course, vaginal lubrication.

Emotionally most men are ready for sex as soon as they become erect. However, for the average woman, there also needs to be more emotional connection, and that can typically take another ten or more minutes.

Women respond much more to the anticipation of the upcoming pleasure of sex then do men. Women can have sex without anticipation but without that emotional factor, their chances of having a satisfying orgasm are reduced. And that means fewer happiness hormones, such as endorphins and oxytocin, are released resulting in a less happy and satisfying experience. Oxytocin is the attraction, connection, happiness and bonding hormone and less of it results in less intimacy and pair bonding.

When most women are given enough time they can easily get as deeply horny as men. However, some women have been raised by prudish parents or in a strict religious background and taught to repress their normal sexual response. These women typically do not get as horny as men.

Including emotional needs, it is a fact that women typically take longer to become sexually aroused than men. However, once the sex starts, the men quickly finish with their quick orgasm. By contrast, women take much more time to have an orgasm but it is a much longer and often more powerful orgasm.

Almost everyone has read the children's book called Aesop's Fables where there is a well-known story about a race between a fast rabbit and a slower turtle. In sex, the rabbit is the male and the turtle is the female. In the race, the rabbit ran very fast but tired and believing it would easily win, lay down in the sun to rest a few minutes but fell asleep. The turtle passed the sleeping rabbit and won the race. In great sex, the man usually has to slow down and allow the woman the extra time to be emotionally ready for her orgasm. This is called foreplay. It stimulates a woman's emotions and this can result in a more intense, deeper and enjoyable orgasm.

In most sports, it is important to loosen up with your warm-up exercise before the game. In sex, foreplay will warm up women and is more likely to provide proper natural lubrication and comfort before penetration begins.

Finally, in our modern world stress is often unavoidable. But in sex, stress can act as bad as taking a cold shower. So good sex means reducing outside stress and relaxing. Foreplay can be a powerful way to do that. Additionally, foreplay can help maximize your orgasm and turn good sex into great sex.

Foreplay is what you do before you reach for the vagina or penis. Foreplay is about increasing the intimacy that will make sex even more wonderful. You can touch each other anywhere you want, except once you touch the genitals, the foreplay is over and you are no longer in act one.

Just sexually stimulating a woman's vagina by itself does not always lead to her ability to reach an orgasm. To enjoy one of life's greatest pleasures, women often need much more foreplay than men. They often dream, and in romance novels read, about their man caressing every part of their body.

Your brain is your biggest sex organ and your sexual arousal depends on how your brain perceives sexual stimulus. The brain controls your emotions and if your brain does not order the release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin that enhancing sexual arousal, you're less likely to have a positive sexual response.

And it can be difficult for a woman to climax if she isn't in the mood for sex. This also makes it more difficult for her partner. But the delayed gratification of foreplay is the key to set the emotional mood, build trust, increase sexual excitement and help her reach orgasm.

Men usually are not nearly as interested in foreplay as women. Men often have the viewpoint of let's get to the main event, orgasm, and then we can relax. But the classic female mating behavior throughout human existence is to initially attract men but then require the male to chase her with foreplay. Almost every woman wants a man to interested in her as a total human being, and not strictly as a sex object.

Men are typically more logical, more visual and tend to read more non-fiction or action novels. Women are typically more emotional, more verbal and they tend to read more romance novels.

Orgasm is both an emotional experience and physical instinctive experience. For women, it is more emotional and for men, it is more physical and instinctive. For women, sex is not just about orgasm but also getting to know intimately their partner's personality, body and behavior.

The average man forgets that for most women, sex starts with emotions. Women want to feel the psychic and emotional energy build up and not just the physical energy.

Men start with visual and physical feelings and that is why they typically have difficulty with foreplay. Genetically men are ready for sex way before the average woman and want to move quickly to act three and then relax. Some people will on occasion watch a sexy movie with their partner and get in the mood without much foreplay. And a few people will choose hardcore pornography. Often they don't watch the full movie but begin sex right away.

The main problem with foreplay is that it takes more time, and sometimes people don't want to invest that much time. This is when a quickie is just what you or your partner needs. This is especially true when children enter the picture and there is less time for foreplay.

Even if there are no children, every now and then, to keep things new and exciting, you can skip foreplay completely. You do not want to fall into a boring predictable pattern.

Foreplay isn't a requirement for good sex. A quickie wham-bam, thank-you ma'am in the missionary position is often quite satisfying for both partners. But eventually, fast food sex that consists of a two-act plays can become boring, predictable and less pleasing. Your sexual life will then require a bit of spicing up. Foreplay is the way to add more acts to the play, spice up your sex life and get your partner emotionally involved and wanting more. This is especially true if your relationship has begun to get mundane, boring or dull.

It's a good idea to keep your eyes open during foreplay and sexual intercourse. During orgasm, many people's eyes just naturally close. But before orgasm, look deeply into your partner's eyes. This will increase your partner's trust and sexual desire.

A big part of a woman's sexual arousal is the belief that her partner adores and wants to be with her. That is where foreplay is valuable. Mastering the art of foreplay will spice up your relationship, keep it fresh, and bring it to new heights. You will both become aroused, your hormones will begin to flow and your bodies will be ready for sex. Touching the hair or shoulders, kissing, hugging and holding hands is how we show our partners that they are still desired.

The majority of women say that foreplay is their favorite part of sex. Foreplay is an emotional language that turns women on. However, the typical man is not as emotional as women so most men prefer to skip most of the preliminaries and get down to the real business of penetration and climax. However, if men take the time to get into it, foreplay can also be enjoyable for them.

Attraction, desire and sexual arousal can all be expressed by touch. Even before humans had words to express our feelings, we had and used touch. When we were babies our first experience with other humans is through touch such as being hugged, coddled or sucking on a breast. Touch still communicates your emotions and desires directly and most people still like to be touched.

Even though you and your partner may have been together for many years flirting will still make your partner feel desired. Flirting will still stroke your partner's ego and make them feel sexy. Flirting can be expressed verbally or by a casual touch. You can touch your partner everywhere except the actual genitals. They should be saved for the transition between the foreplay of act one and the sex of act two.

Foreplay doesn't need to wait until you get in the bedroom. It often starts with a romantic dinner or other dating activities. A good beginning to foreplay is a compliment. Praise and flattery are things that few people can resist. Everyone loves receiving a skillful compliment and it sets the mood for whatever comes next. It is an ideal way to greet your partner. But don't just tell your partner, That's a nice dress. Nice is a polite but definitely a small word. Instead, make it a real big compliment using a really big word. Say something like, That's an absolutely gorgeous dress.

Almost any sentence that starts with I love will be well received. An example is I love the way your voice sounds. You can talk about your partner's eyes, smile, hair, hands, fingernails, clothes, figure, intelligence, laugh or any quality you like about your partner. The key is not to use a common little word such as nice or pretty but flatter your partner with a much bigger word such as love, gorgeous, superb, great, marvelous, wonderful, stupendous, beautiful, stunning, sexy, magnificent or exquisite.

There are a few things to consider. Make your compliment believable. Do not overuse complements and preferably give the compliment only when your partner, and not the whole world will hear you. Most men like their women to say something like, That shirt makes you look sexy. And most women like, I love your marvelous body. You really turn me on. And don't forget to smile, laugh and flirt a lot.

Begin the next part of foreplay by creating an ambiance. If possible, put on some romantic and comforting music. Avoid sad country music, operas or ballads about rejected lovers, losing your money or other tearjerkers.

Most great movies are accompanied by background music. Like the movies, the three acts of great lovemaking will also be stimulated and improve by a good musical soundtrack. Play some soft music, add some scented candles and dim the lights. Some incense, a few pieces of chocolate, a glass of wine or other alcohol is a natural way to relax your partner. But do not overdo the alcohol because too much could diminish performance.

Generate an attitude of fun and playfulness into foreplay. Your goal is to increase the emotional intimacy between you and your partner. Talking about a past romantic trip, event or occasion can arouse your partner. This will help to increase the physical desire and produce more passionate organisms. Put on sexy clothes, smile a lot and look into your partner's eyes.

Men, being much more visual, love to see women nude. So don't turn the lights off. You can dim them to make the atmosphere more romantic but do no turn them off completely. Many women have insecurities or feel embarrassed or ashamed about their body not being perfect enough and want to hide it in darkness. They compare themselves to supermodels and know that they are deficient and do not measure up. This can result in major body image issues. But believe it or not, most men want good sex and that is much more important than any imperfections in their partner's body. You may have heard the joke, When wearing a bikini, women reveal 90% of their body. Men are so polite they only look at the covered parts. There is a lot of truth in that joke but a good man will worship your whole body and not just breasts and vagina. In real-life, any normal body will be imperfect and most men are very comfortable with this fact.

If your relationship is relatively new when you take off a piece of your partner's clothes, also remove a similar piece of your clothes. For example, if you take off her blouse, also remove your shirt. This works better than taking off all your partner's clothes first because they might feel that it is not right to be naked while you are fully dressed.

It is a good idea for a man to say something positive about their woman's body when she takes her clothes off. It helps the woman relax when the man gives a compliment such as, You look stunning! or My God, you're beautiful! This simple approval of a woman's body can do a lot to improve the upcoming intercourse.

Stroking, massaging, caressing, kissing and touching your partner are a natural part of the sexual process. For many, it can be almost as exciting as the final act itself. Foreplay will move your mind from everyday thoughts and worries and help put the sizzle back in your sexuality.

The touching part of foreplay varies depending upon your age, culture and the closeness of your relationship. However, touching, even in a nonsexual way makes people more receptive to future sexual advances. People become increasingly more comfortable with more sexual touching if the foundation of touching is correctly established. Touch your partner slowly in a non-threating way. Men often want to move more quickly and rush into the sex of act two.

Take it slow and easy so that the woman's vaginal lubrication has time to automatically begin wetting her. This lubrication is essential to moisturize the vagina and get it ready for genital play and finally penetration.

You do not want to be completely silent during foreplay. Let your partner know how beautiful or sexy they look. Also, tell them how sexually excited they make you feel. Say nice things to her, even if she knows you're exaggerating a little. Then you can begin act two, the actual sex, as detailed in this book.

While talking with your partner, remember that we currently