Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits.  Plus, we take your questions! How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it), what to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross, how to talk about your kink to a new partner and much more. For More Elle Chase: Website | Twitter | Instagram | FacebookElle’s Naughty Coloring Book | Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase | Elle’s Fantasy Course Show Notes:Tell Me What You Want by Justin LehmillerCome As You Are by Emily NagoskiThe Yes No Maybe List  We Vibe Toys See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.