Keep It Classy: Co-Parenting Strategies for Unstoppable Moms and Devoted Dads
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Keep It Classy - Monyetta Shaw
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Foreword
BY SHAFFER CHIMERE SMITH, KNOWN PROFESSIONALLY AS NE-YO
The purpose behind this book is far more important than just being an artist or an author. I’m sure I speak for Mo, as well as myself, when I say that what’s most important is protecting the hearts and minds of innocent children, ours and yours. This book is about preventing kids from being on the receiving end of issues and circumstances that we grownups create for ourselves. It’s about state of mind, helping parents remove harmful attitudes and behavior that threaten them and their children’s wellbeing.
Far too often, the most important parts of the entire puzzle are neglected, overshadowed by those ugly new friends
we make while trying to deal with a separation or divorce. You know them – pride, anger and spite. I could go on, but I’m sure it’s not necessary. It’s these feelings, these emotional wounds that blind us to the bigger picture.
Suddenly it becomes a good idea to keep his kids from him. Yeah, that’ll hurt him, because he hurt me.
Or it’s a great idea to not support her or the kids. Yeah, she’ll feel that.
These scenarios are too common, and it’s sad.
Once you are badly hurt by a person, vengeance is all you can see or care about.
Finding a way to be civil, finding a way to communicate, is the last thing on your mind. It’s all HELL NO, I HATE HIM, I HATE HER!!
All the while, not even stopping for a microsecond to think about how much a daughter needs her father in her life, or how much it means to your son when Mommy can tell him, Daddy got that for you.
That means something. Not just something; IT MEANS EVERYTHING.
We’ve heard it a million times and it’s always been true: the kids didn’t ask to be here. Why should they be made to suffer ... because we couldn’t figure it out? That’s not acceptable, we should and we can be better than that.
Speaking from personal experience, I know how hard it is to think about the most important people in the heat of the moment. I know first-hand how it can seem impossible, and Mo knows as well. Which is why I support her book.
We’ve both learned over the years how to deal with each other, how to be patient with each other, to compromise and communicate with each other. Full disclosure: I’m still working on that one! But I know that the love we have for our children will always push us to overcome anything that would get in the way of their happiness. This understanding strengthened the relationship we have with our kids, sped up the healing process, and allowed me and Mo to be friends again. The same thing is possible for you. It’s just that like us, you and your Ex will have to work at it. And if friendship ain’t in the cards, then pick something that can be, as long as it ends up being what’s in the best interest of your kids.
I’m glad Mo decided to share the knowledge she’s picked up during our journey. We’re all constantly learning and working to improve our hearts and heads.
I hope this book opens some different ways of looking at and dealing with your situation. I hope it helps you come to a better understanding, that it’ll stir more cooperation between you. I hope it’ll bring more smiles to your face and the faces of your family. I hope you do more than just read the book, that you comprehend, process, and apply strategies. It’s one of the most important things you’ll do in life – be better for your children’s sake.
I hope you enjoy and most importantly, we hope the stories inspire you to try different approaches that can turn things around for you and yours!
Preface
Breakups are sort of like the kiss of death; numbness, sadness, fear, denial, and rage all set the stage for dizzying confusion, gloomy days, and lonely nights. It’s so hard to behave like mature, rational adults in the middle of all the pain and hysteria, but as parents we have to think of our children first. We must remember that they’re watching – that they’re frightened and depending on us to make them feel secure and loved during the storm of separation and divorce. Hearing that their lives will be different from now on is gut-wrenching for them, but when we step up and put their feelings first, we can ease their concerns.
The first step is to get to a point of civility with one another. Once there, we must find common ground (the well-being of our children), which should inspire fairness toward one another. Trust me, a little bit of patience goes a long way ... you can even become friends again. I know it’s possible; my Ex and I get along fine, and so do countless other couples whose relationships ended bitterly. It’s possible for anyone who’s willing to make some adjustments – to embrace new ways of thinking and doing things, especially when you decide that separation and divorce aren’t the end of the world. It’s simply the end of a chapter in your book of life.
My guess is that you chose Keep It Classy because you and your Ex aren’t in a good place right now, but you want to be. You know you need the tension to go away and the bickering to stop – it’s just that every time you think about how it came to this you get mad all over again. I get it, I’ve been there. When I was in the middle of our drama, I