Remembering You: A Practical Guide for Bereaved Parents
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remember. Sharing memories and talking about your child enables
you to keep their memory alive and validate their existence.
Memories can be found everywhere, and by taking an active part in
creating ways to remember you can turn your memories into cherished
possessions. Finding ways to remember can help you through the healing
process and bring comfort when you need it most. Remembering you
gives you practical advice on creating treasured memories and provides
a guide for friends and families who wish to support bereaved parents.
Andrea Notman
Andrea Notman is a full time Kindergarten teacher and part time artist. She is married with four children and volunteers for Child Cancer. In 2004 Andrea lost her two year old son Archie to cancer. Through the grieving process Andrea has been able to draw on her creativity to memorialise Archie. Andrea has found that by pouring her heart into projects in memory of her lost son, she has found healing. This book is one of her memorials to Archie and if it helps just one other bereaved parent, then it has served its purpose.
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Remembering You - Andrea Notman
Copyright © 2011 by Andrea Notman.
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ISBN: Hardcover 978-1-4653-0004-1
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Contents
Introduction
The Funeral
Visiting Your Child
Another Place To Visit
Symbolism
Planning Your Memories
Remember With Nature
A Permanent Memorial
In Memory Of
Remembrance Services
Hand And Footprints
Memorials
Remember With Colour
Remembering With Photographs
Memory Book
Remembering Through Video
Memory Box
Remembering With A Shadow Box
Remember With Belongings
Remember With Light
Remembering With Music
Remember With Sound
Remembering Through Scrapbooking
Remembering Through Visual Arts
Remember With Writing
Memory Quilt
Remembering With Images
Remember With Temporary And Natural Materials
Memorabilia
Remembering Through Craft
Name Sake
Remember With Jewellery
Frame It
Remember With Inscriptions
Remembering Using Technology
Remembering Through Websites
Other Ideas
Asking For Help
Keeping Your Child’s Memory Alive In Others
Thoughtful Things Others Can Do To Show They Remember
Helping Siblings Who Are Grieving
Having Another Child
Fathers Remember
Your Loved One Lives In Your Heart
Remembering On Anniversaries And Special Occasions
Remembering On The Anniversary Of Your Child’s Death
Remembering On Mothers/Fathers Day
Remembering On Birthdays
Remembering At Christmas
Summary
IN MEMORY OF
Author unknown
You never said I’m leaving
You never said goodbye
You were gone before I knew it,
And only God knew why
A million times I needed you,
A million times I cried
If love alone could have saved you,
You never would have died
In life I loved you dearly
In death I love you still
In my heart you hold a place,
That no one could ever fill
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn’t go alone
For part of me went with you,
The day God took you home
This book is dedicated to our son Archie who enriched our lives for the short time he was with us and taught us to live each day to the full.
This book is also dedicated to my family who have found their own ways to remember Archie and who are making their own personal journey through grief.
Without the love and support of each other we would not have come so far.
Remembering you Archie, from mummy with love xx
INTRODUCTION
The death of a child not only includes the physical loss, but also the loss of a future together. We are simply not supposed to out live our children and no parent is ever prepared for their child’s death. Children are biologically and emotionally a part of us, forming a parent-child bond that is more intense than any other relationship. When you lose a child you often feel that a part of you has also died.
The length of your child’s life does not determine the size of your loss. No matter what age your child died or how, they are still your children and this form of grief is like no other.
As a parent you are intimately involved in the daily lives of a younger child, and their death changes every aspect of family life. Suddenly finding spare time to fill that would normally be used to attend to your child’s needs is a constant reminder of their absence. The unconditional love you gave each other is irreplaceable. The overwhelming sense of loss and loneliness can sometimes be so strong it feels physical.
You may be less involved in the everyday lives of an older child or adolescent, but death at this age denies children the opportunity to reach their full potential and become independent individuals. You grieve the loss of your child’s chance to grow, to develop relationships, to explore their strengths and interests and to follow their dreams.
When an adult child dies, you not only lose