Being Bear
By Joy Pershing
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Joy accounts how her parents' ever abiding trust in God along with their absolute determination, drove them to never give up on Paul as he has continued to defy death from various illnesses. She writes how Paul is able to inspire people through his unshakable faith in God and his hilarious sense of humor.
Joy Pershing
Joy Pershing and husband Brian own an accounting fi rm in Greencastle, Indiana. Joy received her bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Evansville and her master’s degree in School Counseling from Indiana State University. Joy and Brian have been blessed with three children, Brandon, Braden, and Arianna. Joy is the daughter of Jerry and Marcia Tesmer, and grew up in Indiana as the youngest of seven siblings, including her six older brothers, Dave, Steve, Mark, Paul, Tim, and Matt. Th e book is written as a memoir in honor of her brother, Paul, who was born with Downs syndrome and a severely weakened immune system. Paul, also known as “Bear,” has extraordinarily touched the lives of those around him. Joy accounts how her parents’ ever abiding trust in God along with their absolute determination, drove them to never give up on Paul as he has continued to defy death from various illnesses. She writes how Paul is able to inspire people around him through his unshakable faith in God and his hilarious sense of humor. Joy also highlights many entertaining stories that have occurred throughout Paul’s 43 years of life so far. Ultimately, Joy is able to offer her readers a way to improve their own lives by learning from the wisdom of a man who speaks few words, but whose actions move mountains.
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Being Bear - Joy Pershing
© 2012 by Joy Pershing. All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.
Published by AuthorHouse 10/18/2012
ISBN: 978-1-4772-5855-2 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4772-7446-0 (e)
Library of Congress Control Number: 2012917827
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CONTENTS
Introduction
Chapter One: A Life Worth Saving
Chapter Two: Growing Up Normal with a Dis
ability
Chapter Three: Santa Is for Real
Chapter Four: Heaven, Praying, Church, and Dying
Chapter Five: Movies, Music, and More
Chapter Six: Work Ethic
Chapter Seven: Flying High
Chapter Eight: Cleanliness Is Next to Godliness
Chapter Nine: The Naked Truth
Chapter Ten: What the World Can Learn
Closing
Through My Eyes
Chapter Eleven: An Interview with Bear April 19th, 2012 Greencastle, Indiana
INTRODUCTION
29547.jpgEvery good and perfect gift is from above.
—James 1:17
Growing up with an older brother who was diagnosed with Down’s syndrome was as normal to me as Christmas trees in December. As the youngest of seven children, I never knew life to be any different. Truthfully, my brother Paul never seemed less normal
than any of my other five brothers pounding through the house. As I grew older and began to realize how special Paul was, I remember thinking that we were the lucky ones—the chosen ones who were fortunate enough to have a brother like him. As adults, we still feel the same way.
Paul was born fourth of seven children. Dave, Steve, and Mark came before him and Tim, Matt, and me, Joy, followed after. We were all born and raised in Greencastle, Indiana, by our parents, Jerry and Marcia Tesmer. Six boys, one girl! Our family has since expanded to more than twenty-six, including sisters-in-law (Carla, Cathy, Kim, Crystal), one brother-in-law (Brian), and ten grandchildren (Jerry, Andrew, Ashley, Katie, Brandon, Braden, Noah, Arianna, Emeline, and Thomas).
Paul has always had a knack for bringing the very best out in people. It wasn’t until the death of our second sibling, Steve, that I felt the need to write a book about the impact Paul has had on this world while we are still blessed to have him here. Reality hit home on February 16, 2010 when Steve joined our Heavenly Father, who took with him the countless, undocumented stories and memories of this most exceptional human being, Paul Samuel Tesmer. It is in honor of Paul and my parents and in memory of Steve that I write about Paul’s life.
CHAPTER ONE
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A Life Worth Saving
"If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
—1 Timothy 5:8
Imagine waiting nine months to meet the miracle growing inside of you, only to experience the doctors and nurses immediately taking the baby into isolation and away from his mother. On May 28, 1969, this was the case for my then twenty-four-year-old mother. During the late sixties our county hospital placed multiple expectant mothers in a labor room until they were ready to deliver their babies; privacy was not regularly afforded as it is today.
While the other mothers were cooing and ahhing at their new baby bundles, my mother was panicking and praying for God to help save the tiny new life she brought into the world. Having had three children, she was well practiced on the process of babies and birthing and knew instantly that something was not right.
At her first glimpse, Mom knew that Paul looked different than her preceding newborns. His eyes were significantly almond shaped and his hands and fingers appeared unusually small. Her assumption was confirmed when the doctors told her they wanted to send Paul to Indianapolis to conduct further tests.
Paul was the first baby with Down’s syndrome that my mother’s doctor had ever delivered. He delivered the grim news to Dad in the isolation room. After explaining to my father that he thought Paul might have a condition called Down’s syndrome, Dr. Fred Haggerty picked up Paul and showed Dad that a healthy newborn should stiffen their limbs if they were not held securely. As Dad witnessed, Paul’s limbs were naturally relaxed in the doctor’s open hands. It was Dr. Haggerty that suggested that Dad and Mom take Paul to a larger hospital in Indianapolis, where they would be better equipped to handle cases like this.
Mom left the hospital the same day that she delivered Paul, which was uncharacteristic in 1969, when most postpartum hospital stays were three days. However, inside she felt a new fire to save the life that God had entrusted to her and she did not want to waste one second. Paul was born with a compromised immune system and the sooner he could get access to more advanced care, the better his future outlook would be.
Mom and Dad wanted Dave, Steve, and Mark to meet their new brother, so before making the hour-long journey to Indianapolis, the three boys smiled at him through a car window, welcoming the new baby into their world. Mom remembers how Steve was instantly drawn to Paul; that bond proved to last a lifetime and beyond. Dad explained to the siblings that Paul needed to see some special doctors in Indianapolis and that he, Mom, and the baby would be back home soon.
Riley Children’s Hospital confirmed Dr. Haggerty’s original hypothesis that Paul was born with Down’s syndrome and that he was at the severely profound
level on the spectrum of mental retardation. The doctors at Riley carefully explained that Paul’s sucking reflex was not