Give Me Back My Boobs: Get out and Stay out of Abusive Relationships with Narcissists (Before They SUCK You Dry!)

By Pia Phillips

Without warning, innocent women (younger and older) all over the world, are being targeted, manipulated, mind-raped, and verbally and emotionally abused by males who look and act like the "man of their dreams," but behind the curtains, they behave like deranged monsters—these men are called "Narcissists!"

Sadly, women unaware fall prey to these pathologically driven personas and enter blindly into relationships not knowing they will be used as fodder for the narcissist's personal benefit.  Once smitten—you belong to him. 

He will never tell you he is an evil predator that kills (self-esteem), steals (joy), and destroys (self-worth) while leaving carnage in his wake on his pursuit to survive.  The time to leave is NOW!

If you are being victimized in your relationship by an abusive narcissist and struggling to end the nightmare, this book is written specifically for you.

In this book, narcissistic abuse survivor, Pia Phillips, shares how she overcame her narc's abuse, got out of the relationship safely and stayed out. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Bell Clapper Publishers
• Release date: Aug 24, 2018
• ISBN: 9781386870067

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GIVE ME BACK

MY BOOBS! ®

Get out and Stay out of Abusive Relationships with Narcissists (Before They Suck You Dry!)

— Pia Phillips, M.P.H., LPC

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This publication is designed to provide authoritative and accurate information with regard to the subject matter covered.  It is sold with the understanding that neither author nor publisher is engaged in rendering psychiatric diagnosis or giving medical advice. If such expert assistance is needed, the services of a licensed medical provider should be sought.

Printed in United States of America

In memory of my grandmother Alvenia

who taught me how to

ease my hand out of the lion’s mouth.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

There are three things in this life I’ve learned I cannot live without—God, red velvet cupcakes with cream cheese frosting, and the love and support of my family and friends.  Without either of these—I would cease to exist.  This journey has been a long, winding, bumpy road with carefully concealed cracks, but at every twist and turn, all three of you were there to comfort, lift my Spirit, give me insight, and love me through all of it.

To my son Jemel, you are wise beyond your years.  Thank you for giving me the courage to imagine better and dream bigger.  I love you.

To my creative son Eric, I love you.  You are amazing!

To my small circle of sister-friends (Lauren, Cissy, Lenora, Gretchen, Carla, Cie, and Connie), I can’t thank you, ladies enough.  I love you guys.  #FRIENDS4LIFE

To my friend Derrick, thank you for your wit and creative development contributions. 

Thank you to my readers.  Although we have not met in person (yet), we are one in Spirit and in truth.  Thank you for joining the conversation and helping to spread the message of this work to the world.  I appreciate you.

INTRODUCTION

Give Me Back My Boobs! is a conversation in the form of a Public Service Announcement for women who unknowingly entered into relationships with abusive, malignant narcissists and are struggling to get out of it. 

The contents of this book give women the words, information, support, and knowledge they need to understand the man they’re dealing with and how he thinks.  It teaches the aspects of narcissism, how to safely get out and stay out of abusive relationships with narcissists, how to heal and be restored back to wholeness. 

As a public health educator, Life Power coach, speaker, and spiritual researcher, it is my life’s work and intention to bring awareness about this serious public health disease that is infecting people and wreaking havoc in our society. 

Armed with the information in this book, women will become empowered, recognize and know the disguises of their adversary, and be able to ward off any tactics narcissists use to try to ensnare them. 

You Will Learn:

What a narcissist is.

How to tell if your man is a narcissist or being a jerk.

How childhood adversity shapes the narcissist.

Why your man loves you on Monday and hates you on Tuesday.

The one thing that terrifies narcissists the most.

What he thinks about himself (and you).

What it means when narcissists say, I love you.

Why it is so hard to break free and leave him.

Why you feel exhausted and think you’re losing your mind.

How to safely end the relationship, heal, and never go back.

What’s lurking behind the narcissist AND MORE!

The iconic T-shirt on the cover depicts the actual moment I woke up from my disillusionment and realized I had enough—I would no longer feed the beast!  It was a fantasy—a lie—and I fell for it!  He was a predator and I had been his prey for eight years.  He wasn’t going to change and I wasn’t going to allow my ex-narc to continue sucking the life out of me—the abuse had to stop!

Every day, women all over the world, are being targeted, manipulated, mind raped, devalued, verbally and physically abused, and dehumanized by people that look like men, but behind the curtains, they act like monsters.  These mind parasites approach women under the guise of deception and sell them an illusion; in other words—the fairy tale they’ve always dreamed of.

Sadly, due to a lack of understanding of what a narcissist is and what he is capable of, the minds of amazing women (younger and older) continue being manipulated by these Actors.  I was one of those women. 

I too, thought I found the man of my dreams until the man I loved turned into an unrecognizable creature I no longer knew.  I believe I speak for thousands of women who’ve fallen prey to what appeared to be a knight in shining armor, but turned out to be a devil in aluminum foil!

DISCLAIMER #1:  The stories herein, are based on actual events.  As a part of my healing, I tell the hard and soft truths, personal experiences, what I learned, witnessed, and my opinions on dealing with the twisted mindset and habits of a man who displayed all of the traits of a person presenting with a personality disorder. For reasons of security and privacy, names and identifying details have been changed.

BEFORE WE START

There is no judgment here.  No matter what your situation is or how you got there—I am not judging you for your choices and ask you to please not judge me for my past  decisions.  We’re in this together.  In this life, shift happens.

You will need to come to terms with the truth—your truth.  Only you know the situation inside your relationship. Be honest about it and forgive yourself.No matter how you got to this point, realize you are in an unhealthy situation with an actor and you must save yourself from further damage before the curtain closes.

Remember how amazing you are!  Dealing with a narcissist will cause you to question your own sanity.Before you met your narcissist, you were whole, vibrant, smart, and amazing—YOU STILL ARE!Remember who you are.

Stand your ground.  It does not matter if your narcissist discards you first or if you discard him first; once the decision is made—stick to it!Do not, I repeat, do not let him back into your life.If you do, you give him your power . . . again.

You’re going to need a good bra (made up mind).  Metaphorically speaking, a good bra will be the glue that helps hold it all together—mentally and emotionally!  There will be times during this process when you may have to duck, jump, bounce, jab, and karate kick negative thoughts out of your mind to wean that narcissistic vampire off your boobs.  A good bra will keep you focused and prevent him from latching on!

PART I:  PHYSICAL WORLD

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You’re Not Crazy—You Fell in Love with a Narcissist

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Imagine Better—best is cliché.

—Pia Phillips

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What was I thinking?

"Narcissist," there’s that word again. It seems everyone is a narcissist nowadays; co-workers, celebrity and media personalities, friends and family members, heads of nations and corporations, and now, your man may be one too. 

To ensure there’s no confusion and we’re all on the same page, let’s define what a Narcissist really is.  I will present non-technical definitions from two popular online dictionary sources and then, I’ll give you my interpretation based on my personal experience and research:

Narcissist (n):  pronounced [nahr-suh-sist]

Dictionary.com:  A person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish. 

Merriam-Webster.com:  An extremely self-centered person who has an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

In my opinion, both definitions are only describing some common traits narcissists possess, but Merriam-Webster comes closest of the two.