Avoiding Stress: Strategies for Life Extension

By Joseph Rosner

For the most part, this book will show you a way to avoid having too much stress in your life. It does not promise to make life stress free. Instead, it gives you a method of living by certain formulas and concepts designed to help you cope with the trials and tribulations of everyday life. It is meant to help with the common dilemmas found in a society that is not beset with life and death decisions at every turn. Using the ideas,
methods, formulas and concepts suggested in this book makes it possible to live life in a reasonably relaxed manner.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trafford Publishing
• Release date: Aug 24, 2004
• ISBN: 9781412215701

Joseph Rosner

Dr. Rosner is an eighty-one-year-old New York-born psychologist and hypnotherapist who has lived through the Great Depression, fought in WW II, traveled to over twenty countries and has now voted in fifteen presidential elections. He has decades of experience in managing stress and of helping others overcome their own problems with stress. This book is a product of his wisdom and the work of his family and of many 'graduated' patients who believe in Dr. Rosner's outlook on life and the importance of sharing that outlook with others.

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Rosner, Joseph

Avoiding stress / Joseph Rosner.

ISBN 1-4120-0968-5

ISBN: 978-1-4122-1570-1 (ebook)

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BF575.S75R67 2003    155.9’042    C2003-904338-X

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Table of Contents

Introduction

If

Session One: The Meaning of Life

Session 2: Avoiding Conflict

Session 3: Consistency and Fairness… with Flexibility

Session 4: Blame, Dependency and Love

Session 5: Gratitude and Giving

Session 6: How to Make a Good Decision

Session Seven: Relaxation Techniques

Mental Health Rules

Dedicated to my father and mother,

my wife, and my daughters

Introduction

Because I am a hypnotherapist at heart, the format of this book is that of a mini-hypnosis session. A book as a hypnotic device is an unusual concept. Throughout the text, you will find concepts repeated and reinforced, perhaps more like the lyrics of a song than like an essay. But try to allow the words and concepts to sink in. When confronted with an upsetting situation, I want you to hear my words, When we are objective, we will usually be able to solve the problem, calmly stated in the back of your mind. The book is brief so that it can be read over and over again, and hopefully you will find the stories meaningful, and the ideas comforting. Many of these are not my ideas, but the ideas of my father, and I still hear him speaking to me, and find these strategies comforting and calming in my own life.

If

By Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream–and not make dreams your master;

If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim,

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build ‘em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings,

And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the will which says to them: Hold on!

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with kings–nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the earth and everything that’s in it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a man, my son!

Session One: The Meaning of Life

Recently, after eighty-one years of life, I realized the meaning of life is solving problems. And success at solving life’s problems is a good functional definition for success in life.

Mental Health

As a therapist, my goal is to express to you the secrets to mental health that will help you make the right decisions so that you will solve life’s problems and achieve success and happiness. Mental health means that we use reason, not emotion, to solve our problems.

Don’t let rage be your first response. When fear, rage or guilt makes our decisions, we lose. Dependency follows.

It’s not easy to discard the emotional response we typically use because emotions comfort us and overwhelm reason. Our use of emotions, not reason, makes us a prisoner of these emotions. Thus we are dependent and not free of them as a pattern of our life. It takes some practice. But when we are objective, we will usually be able to solve the problem.

The Search for Objectivity

Barron Rosner is an imaginary character I created years ago. He is a man of untold wealth, power and prestige. I become Barron Rosner to clear away any conflict I