Woman,Get Your Power Back.

By Busisiwe Mahoko

Dear Beautiful woman

This Book is my legacy to you, that is why I feel that every one of you must get it.

I appreciate how I stand in power today only because I remember how I began from not knowing how powerful I am to be as powerful as I never thought I would be. I had nothing but now I have all I need to prosper because of the power I own and possess...It's time to unlock and awaken yours.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Busisiwe Mahoko
• Release date: Sep 18, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370140398

Busisiwe Mahoko

In the world of words, where stories shape our lives, there's a shining star—Busisiwe Mahoko. She comes from the vibrant streets of Meadowlands, Soweto, and her literary legacy is a testament to the unbreakable human spirit and the magic of storytelling. Busisiwe Mahoko has written an incredible 51 books. With her pen, she paints vivid pictures, telling stories that stir passion, compassion, and empathy in the hearts of her readers. Growing up in the colourful tapestry of Soweto, she drew inspiration from her surroundings, where resilience and courage were everyday virtues. Her writing knows no bounds—fiction, non-fiction, and more. Each of her books is a journey, an exploration of what it means to be human, a window into new worlds, and a mirror reflecting our dreams and struggles. But Busisiwe Mahoko's influence reaches beyond her books. She's a symbol of hope, especially for aspiring women writers. Her journey from Meadowlands to literary stardom is a testament to her determination and thirst for knowledge. When you dive into her books, you dive into the human soul. You experience resilience, and you witness the beauty of storytelling that connects people around the world. Busisiwe Mahoko hasn't just written 51 books; she's written 51 lifetimes, filled with triumph, courage, and the enduring spirit of Meadowlands, Soweto. Her words can transform, heal, and inspire, leaving an indelible mark on literature and in the hearts of her readers. Prepare to be mesmerized, moved, and deeply touched by this remarkable woman's literary talent. Busisiwe Mahoko isn't just an author; she's a storyteller, a visionary, a trailblazer, and a true luminary in the world of literature.

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I had asked myself a number of times what this book would be about and I looked at my life, I searched inside myself and I had a lot to think about but I eventually said to myself, it is time to give back what I have received in the thirty five years of my life. In addition to what I have just said, I want to put it in writing.

This was by far the hardest book I ever had to write. I had to think deep and go back a lot of years and months to remember everything that had to do with this book. The sole purpose of writing this book was to clearly tell and make you understand the true meaning of life.

It was to explain my knowledge in the value of living, to elaborate what I understand about what loving is, and what the value of receiving love was. One of my dear friends asked me to write this book because every time we had a conversation, she would say, I hit home when I speak, so this book is for every woman of this world including myself.

As a woman, I know that I was born a diamond in the rough and nobody will take away what I possess because its mine and I own it.

I always look at the relationship I have with my daughter then try to fit into my daughter’s shoes, so that I could look at me from her point of view. I can tell you now; the view is different from her side. I will explain how as I go over my views and hers in the book. As parents, we have a lot going on in our lives including running our lives and that of our children.

There is so much pressure to work hard for our lives and there are expectations from our kids to be the best at all times, irrespective of what we go through. I have worked for over fourteen years and yet I did not even know who I was. I have worked as a till packer then advanced into being a Cashier at a Retail Store. I grew from that and became, an administrator at a cooperate company, an account manager at a Financial Institution and a personal assistant at one of the biggest companies in South Africa, yes I called myself a job-hopper never knowing that I was skipping to my purpose.

As human beings our thoughts are important to us, they reveal your true self. I am a woman and this is my life. Therefore, I chose to put my experiences on paper and I would like to share them with you. I would like to take you on a merry go round of my life, hold on tight because at times, it spins very fast and you may even fall.

These are my experiences on how I grew my soul; please allow me to share them with you. Getting to know who you are is a very scary thought, experience, and discovery. You will be surprised at what you might find along the way. You may even find out that what you hated the most is really, what you truly love.

Let me share with you some guidelines that I created during the trying times of my life. These guidelines help me live my life every day, and I know that they will definitely help you here and there whenever you need them.

I am a woman of substance and these are the passages, long distances, and trials of my life. I hope my journey will change, inspire, and transform your life the way it did to mine. I feel this is my time to make a difference. Every one of us is an undying soul.

I thank God for giving me the strength and courage to write.

Dear Woman, you are powerful.

GENESIS 2 VERSE 9

He made all kinds of beautiful trees grow there and produce good fruit. In the middle of the garden stood the tree that gives life and the tree that gives knowledge of what is good and what is bad.

PRAY TO UNLOCK YOUR POWER.

Dear Almighty God

This is (your name). Firstly, I would like to thank you for you, thank you for Jesus. I would like to thank you for my mother, thank you for me, thank you for my life, thank you for my children, thank you for my family and thank you for the people that affect my life positively.

Dear Lord, I am nothing without you but am the most important person with you in my life. I would like to thank you for your grace, wisdom, courage and knowledge you instil in my head every day.

I thank you for my intellect, my strength and I thank you for my ability to stay strong and remain in faith regardless of what happens to me. May there be increase in all the good I am trying to do. May you please increase my knowledge, wisdom and understanding about life?

Dear Lord, I may not understand what is going on in my life but I trust you. I thank you for the little bit I have, I accept it for I know that you will give more than enough of it and may my barrels of sufficiency never run out.

May there be an increase in my income, an increase in the balance of my bank account and a good return from my investments. May there be an increase in the source of my luck, the source of my happiness, the source of my smile, in the source of my strength, in the source of my faith, in the source of my love, and in the source of my knowledge in things that are happening in and around my life. May there be a decrease in the source of my pain, in the source of my hurt, in the source of my tears, and in the source of all my sorrows. Lord, may you please discard of all the hatred in my feelings.

May there be an increase of love from the man in my life and/or the single man who is about to come into my life. May he enter my life with a purpose to stay in it? May he be more than what I expect of him and may I be more than what he expects of me. May he fear you as much as I fear you? May we please love each other for the love we have for each other and not the materials that we possess. May the love we have for each other never run out.

May we both stay in faith no matter what the enemy throws at us? May there be increase in the source of my children’s laughter, intellect, peace and happiness. May my child live better and positively than I have? May he/she have the ability to choose between narrow-minded friends with corner mentalities and positive-minded friends with leadership mentalities?

Dear Lord, may there be positive increase and growth in the life that I am currently living. May all that I go through not go to waste? May I please accept my age, my beauty, and my ability to remain the person I am regardless of my circumstance? May I age beautifully and understand that you dedicated your precious time in creating me.

May there be peace in my life, my family and in the world. May the enemy never win, may he never conquer and may he fail in all that he tries to accomplish. May all the traps formed for me become wider for those that formed them to fall into them?

Dear Lord, I thank you for you your love for me, for my trials and tribulations. I thank you for your ability to keep me grounded in faith and for your ability to show me wrong before I commit to it.

Dear Lord, when it comes to those that scar me, may you please help me drop the issue, leave it and to let it go for I know and understand that you have a plan and you will fight my battles for me.

Dear Lord, I would like to apologise for blaming you and for blaming the people in my life for the things, I should be blaming myself for. May you please help me to be more forgiving? May you please help me get rid of my hostility towards others?

Dear Lord, may you please help me to stop justifying stuff in essence to stay angry, bitter and scornful. May you please help me to accept my guilt and mistakes so that I can live and transform my life positively? May you please help me to fix my arrogance so that I can heal and live the life I am supposed to be living as per the vision in my head?

Dear God, I know and understand that I have to work ten times harder to be prosperous in my life. After owning my guilt, may I move from it and be thankful to you for making all positive things possible through you.

Dear God may you please help me remember that you are not an afterthought but a priority. I ask all this in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Amen.

MATTHEW 6 VERSE 33

Instead, be concerned above everything else with the Kingdom of God and with what he requires of you, and he will provide you with all these other things.

KNOW AND UNDERSTAND YOUR VALUE

What is a woman? I ask myself this question because as a woman you grow up thinking you know yourself and then as you get to grow, you get to understand first the value of life before you get to know who you are as a woman. So, again, I ask myself, what is a woman?

Well, I am a woman I guess the real question should be, what kind of a woman am I? What kind of a woman was I taught to be? What am I ought to be doing as a woman? What kind of a woman have I become now? The best way to answer these kinds of questions is to be honest with yourself before you answer them. I will be real with you. My mother taught me to love myself before I give love to any human being there is, to take care of myself as if it were the only thing left to do on this earth. She taught me to be careful of those that pretend to like me and to look out for those that want to drag me down.

She taught me to choose to be the best in what I do, to sacrifice wasting time to gaining from time, to walk in a dignified and proud manner. To spread love to people who are without it and to add more love to people that possess it inside them. I must give my best, expect nothing in return, and grab life with both of my hands and balance myself with both of my feet. My mother taught me to remind myself how beautiful I am inside and outside my big beautiful curves. I laugh as I look at my curves. I laugh as I look myself in the mirror and recognise the woman I have become, have always been, and will become as time progresses with me in it.

It is hard to recognise your beauty as a woman in all the busy and hectic days of your life. At times, it gets hard to see your beauty when you deal with all the ugliness that wants to overfill and overtake your heart and thoughts. Your beauty is what you have inside you dear woman, so says my voice. Life hits you with confusion when you grow and get to the adult woman phase. That is the time where you meet different types of men that have different sets of beliefs than those that your parents or elders instilled in you. You meet a man who treats you completely different from the way your elder has told you how a man is supposed to treat you and then you ask yourself, Are men taught different values from those that you know? On the other hand, maybe the question should be, Are men properly taught, who and what a woman is?

You will get to a tough point in your life where you will meet a man who says he loves you but has different beliefs in how to treat you. A point in your life where, you have to weigh what you know about yourself and have mastered about your struggles to be in the right state of mind and compare that with what this man presents to you.

You will then make a decision on what is best for you. The value of a woman is how she sees herself in the world. You know what is best for you. Only you know what works for you. You deserve only the best in your heart, inner being and in your life. If you feel that you are not getting what you deserve then what you are receiving is probably not the best for you. If they are in your life to hurt you, then its best for you to let them go…they will never change until they change themselves without you in their lives.

The value of a woman goes deeper than what we know it to be. A woman is not dead putrefying flesh waiting for vultures to eat her but a powerful force that can take any impossibility and create a possibility out of it. A woman is a specimen of high calibre that gives birth to leaders and she is more than what meets the eye. She gave birth to my mother, my father and my ancestors, therefore the sooner you respect her, the better your increase in becoming worthy.

PROVERBS 31 VERSE 25

She is strong, respected, and not afraid of the future.

THE LIES YOU TELL YOURSELF.

You have been going through a lot lately and you keep asking yourself, what is wrong with me? Stop right there, there is nothing wrong with you but there is something wrong with the choices you have made. What you need to do from here on is, to grab a pen and paper, write down your problems, and number them too.

The reason I say jot your problems down is that, we are usually saying we are going through a lot when there is just a few things that are challenging us. I know that reading this you might think that I had it easy that is why I wrote a book.

No, that is not it. The truth is, I taught myself to write down everything that I go through, and reshuffling my problems in my head is not a solution either.

I have realised that problems can never be swept underneath the rug and be forgotten. Problems, lies or whatever that you secretly keep in your heart, will find its way to resurface sooner rather than later, yes even in the peak of your life and by then they will be the hardest to deal with.

It is not easy to deal with what is bothering you, it might be the smallest thing, or biggest, at times too hard to deal with but from me to you, it is better to get it out than keep it in.

Life has not been that easy or rather let me put it this way, life is easy, and humans make it difficult for them to live. We make life difficult for ourselves when we stop listening, to our elders more especially when they give us advice on how to be better with ourselves, we tell them that, they have lived their life, we tell them we’re old enough to make our own decisions, we tell them to stop bossing us around or we swear at them.

I have seen problems and lies kill many people, young and old in suicides, drug overdose, and deceptive appearances. It helps to talk about it, but if you feel the people around you, are not ready to hear you, and then rather find yourself that therapist, free or paid. The way to live in this life is to talk yourself out of your problems and out of your lies.

Teach yourself to get rid of the lies that you have created about your problems. Nothing accommodates deception like lies. Lies will make you think it is okay to lie, especially to yourself. Lies have created so many layers in a human being’s life to make them think that it is forgivable to lie to oneself in order to live an imaginary life.

I cannot sit here and tell you that I have never lied to myself. I have, numerous times and that made my life more difficult. I have made my life difficult and it is within me again to make my life easier for me to live in it. I have blamed my parents, my family, my peers, my circumstances and forgot to blame my choices and me. I can tell you right now that only you may serve yourself a good life on a gold platter, no one will ever give you the best life but you.

Life is like a platter full of all kinds of food, good and bad but only you can decide what is best for your soul. You will only live this once because you only have this one life and no other.

You are not supposed to stay at your dark place but you are supposed to begin from there. Stop lying to yourself to make yourself look good or feel better. Lies will camouflage your pain but they will never change it.

JOB 27 VERSE 4

My lips will never say anything evil; my tongue will never tell a lie.

PROVERBS 4 VERSE 24

Never say anything that is not true. Have nothing to do with lies and misleading words. Look straight ahead with honest confidence, do not hang your head in shame.

GET YOUR LIFE BACK

What is happening with you? That is the question I would like you to give an answer to, not to me but to yourself. Your life is falling apart and you think you are hiding it very well. You think you are hiding it in the midst of the fun you are having, in the cigarettes that you smoke, the substances you smoke, or the alcohol that you regularly drink.

Tell me, whose life are you wrecking? Well, let me tell you, this...your enemy is celebrating your downfall but what they do not know is that, you have the greatest power within you.

What has hurt you so much that you have resorted into killing the only life that matters (yours)? Why is it that you give your enemy the right to kill, control, and ridicule your life? Your enemy is as human as you are; the only difference between the two of you is that, your enemy is ordinary and you are exceptional. You are powerful.

What you possess is beyond what your enemy will ever have, so the best thing they can ever do to you is, kill your spirit so that you can be like them. The question I would like to ask you is, what will it take, for you to get out of this state and renew yourself again? What will it take, for you to go back and find whom you lost and what will it take for you to rejuvenate the person you see in front of your mirror? The person you see in the mirror, do you know how wonderful they are?

I will not sit here and tell you that there are easy ways to live your life. I had nothing but God, my mother, my 4 sisters and five of my friends during my toughest of times. There was no money coming in my bank account. It even went to zero balance and the bank eventually closed my bank account. I ended up using my mother’s and daughter’s account to receive money from the above mentioned people.

I’ve had to rely on my faith to survive, doors closed on me, the many people I’ve lived for ,turned their backs on me but God really did have my back and the above mentioned people had my back too. I am not going to sit here and tell you that you will make it without God…no you will not. I have realised that in order to call myself Super woman, God really had to be my suit, my heart and my cape.

In order to get your power back first, you have to forgive yourself. You have to call yourself by name and say aloud, I forgive myself. The second thing you must do is, ask God for forgiveness and guidance.

The third and last thing to do is to, LIVE the only life that you will ever have. I want you to know that, this is your life, your one time and chance to breathe and create a new you. There is no life without you. You need to commit to your faith regardless of who comes into your life and tries to convince you otherwise.

There is no life without faith, you will not live abundantly without faith in yourself, faith in what you do and most importantly, you will not receive your full blessings without faith in God. Balance your life and become what you see. If you see negativity, close your eyes, take a deep breath and say,

"Dear God, I call unto thee, let me see myself as the change agent that you have sent me here to be. I am nothing without you but the most important person with you in me and around me. Please help me to see myself positively for I need you more than ever…I ask this in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, Amen."

You have to see yourself being a success to succeed. You have to see yourself as prosperity to prosper. See yourself making it big to make it big, nothing positive can happen in your life until you see it happen positively.

Stop trying to do everything else, do what matters to you the most, stick, and commit to it to reach its true potential. Stop wishing you had your neighbour or friend’s life and start creating your own. Be happy for their blessing because you are a blessing too. Always know that your blessing will find you even when doors are closed.

Ask yourself why you choose to give up on yourself when God has never given up on you. Ask yourself why you have been holding on to so much pain and grief not being able to

Reviews for Woman,Get Your Power Back.

[Nonhlanhla Khumalo · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This author wrote this book as if she were speaking to me. I love every advice in this bbok. what a beautiful and thought provoking read.