The Friends with Benefits Rulebook: How to Get in, Get Laid and Get Out With Dignity (and Even a Relationship)

By Stacy Freeman

SINGLE WOMEN & MEN

If you've ever considered whether a friends with benefits relationship might be right for you, or you're in one right now and need help turning things around, consider this book your bible.

Being friends with benefits isn't as straightforward as one might think. Just as with everything else, there are unspoken rules that you are magically expected to know. Slip up and violate any one of them, and you might find yourself back on the prowl.

It's crazy that no one has ever taken the time to compile all the rules. If you knew better you would do better, right?

Well, now everything you ever wanted to know about how to navigate a friends with benefits relationship in the most drama and pain-free way possible exists. Ignore this advice at your own peril.

The Friends with Benefits Rulebook will help you learn:
* Whether or not you're cut out for no strings attached sex
* How to find and recruit the perfect friend with benefits
* All the rules to live by to make the agreement go smoothly
* How to end your agreement on good terms
* How to turn a friend with benefits into a real committed relationship
* and other real life issues that other dating advice books won't dare discuss!

The Friends with Benefits Rulebook has been hailed the ultimate must-read dating guide for women and men of all ages.

This book will make you laugh, leave you feeling empowered, and enable you to have fun with your friends with benefits without heartbreak, guaranteed!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Stacy Freeman
• Release date: Aug 17, 2017

Stacy Freeman

Stacy Freedman is a best-selling author who empowers women with honest, helpful advice about important, and sometimes taboo, matters of the heart. Her book like The Friends With Benefits Rulebook, and How did SHE Get HIM? have given countless women their dignity and pride back. When not writing books or blogging, she can be found on all the popular social media sites @stacyfreedman.

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The Friends With Benefits Rulebook

How to Get in, Get laid, and Get out With Dignity [AND EVEN A RELATIONSHIP]

By Stacy Freedman

PUBLISHED BY LM Publishing

Copyright 2013

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Table of Contents

Part I – Getting In

Introduction

Why a FWB?

An Honest Assessment

How to Find a FWB

Where to Find a FWB

How to Approach the Topic

Part II – Getting Laid

The Cardinal Rules

Rule 1 – Same Page, Different Books

Rule 2 – Choose Wisely

Rule 3 – What’s Mine is Mine

Rule 4 – Hit It and Zip It

Rule 5 – To Thine Own Self be Real

Rule 6 – The Zero Day Rule

Rule 7 – Sex is Not Optional

Rule 8 – No Dating Dilemmas

Rule 9 – Past the Point of Expiration

Rule 10 – Dating Other People

Rule 11 – The Green Eyed Monster

Rule 12 – Sleepovers Spell Disaster

Rule 13 – Upgrade or Outsource

Rule 14 – Nip it in the Bud

Part III – Getting Out

Ending the Agreement Amicably

Going Through Withdrawal

How to turn a Friend with Benefits into More

Part IV – Final Note

Final Disclaimer

What to Do Now?

PART I – GETTING IN

INTRODUCTION

You’ve probably picked up this book because you’ve seen the romanticized notion of friends having sexual relations with no strings attached brought to you compliments of the Hollywood blockbuster films Friends with Benefits and/or Just Friends.

I’ve seen both films and anyone would be enticed after watching either flick, with their gorgeous leading actors (Mila Kunis, Justin Timberlake, Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman), heart-melting yet quippy dialogue, over the top plot points and fairytale endings.

It’s no wonder you’re thinking about embarking on a similar adventure. Despite the few hiccups, such relationships are portrayed in the media as, at worst a surefire way to spice up your life, and at as best a way to meet your soul mate.

Then, there’s another group of you, who find this title intriguing because you’re already involved in a friends with benefits relationship or are being propositioned for one. Try as you might to navigate the choppy waters of your arrangement based on stringing together snippets from a few entertaining magazine articles on the internet, you still aren’t really sure of what you’re doing.

Understandably, you just want as much information as possible to know exactly what it is you may be getting yourself into. A full blown book on the do’s and don’ts is likely seeming like a godsend at the moment, as most of the resources out there tend to be superficial and don’t really get into the nitty gritty or address the myriad of questions running through your head.

First off, let me just say that however you’ve come upon this book, I’m happy we’ve found one another. Be forewarned, you are in for the ride of a lifetime – figuratively, and hopefully literally. My goal is to help you in every way I can and give you perspective on things that most people never consider until it’s far too late.

Friends with benefits can be just as fun, fulfilling, exhilarating, and even romantic, as the movies portray it to be, but it can also quickly devolve into a stressful, uncomfortable and confusing situation. In fact, the later occurs far more than the former, and that’s because too many folks don’t bother to consider the details and arm themselves appropriately.

That’s why I’d like to commend you for doing your research about this matter instead of diving in headfirst like others are wont to do. You are one smart cookie to cover your bases and enter into this unorthodox an arrangement with your eyes wide open. Successfully partaking in a FWB, whether your definition of success means not getting hurt or not hurting someone else, is a lot more complicated than one would assume it to be.

There are many unwritten rules about what is involved with a friend with benefits relationship, and unfortunately these rules are not what I would call common knowledge or even common sense.

For example, common sense would suggest that sex is best with someone who you are in love with and connect with on all levels, not just physically. Why would you want to sleep with someone regularly whom you have no desire to be with outside of the bedroom?

Before I get to that, since everyone’s idea of a relationship is or isn’t does not usually align perfectly, it is the job of you and your friend to make sure that the definition of what a friend with benefit arrangement entails matches up to avoid as much heartache and frustration as possible. On that note, let’s do some clarifying so that we are on the same page from the start.

Many people are not clear on the definition of what a friend with benefits agreement is and commonly use it interchangeably with two other popular terminologies, which are ‘the booty call’ and ‘fuck buddies’. Technically, there are differences.

First, all three categories would fall under casual sexual relationships, meaning an exclusive and committed relationship is not one of the tenets of these agreements.

A booty call is a meeting with someone you know for the express purpose of having impromptu sex, while a f*ck buddy is a regular sexual relationship with someone who becomes a friend. Finally, a friend with benefits is the addition of sex to an existing friendship without a romantic commitment. Do you see the distinction?

Having said that, I would strongly advise against trying to turn a