Social Magnetism: How to Have Fun Building Meaningful Relationships with Brilliant Business Minds

By Ben Chai

Are you tired of going to the same dreary networking events? Bored of meeting people that only see you as a paycheck? Want to become so charismatic that you can’t help but magnetically attract business? After attending thousands of networking events, serial entrepreneur Ben Chai, shares his techniques that have allowed him to build seven-figure
businesses.
International speaker, Property Mentor, and Best-Selling Author Ben Chai has gone from shy wallflower to speaking on stage in over 60 countries to audiences of over 2,000 people. Through stories, no-nonsense advice, and easily actionable exercises, Ben reveals the way for anyone to become Socially Magnetic. In these pages you’ll discover:
• How to add value to everyone you meet
• How to find business at events you want to go to
• How to have fun when meeting new people
• The 5 biggest mistakes most people make
• How to get amazing people contacting you
If you’re looking to meet incredible business minds, if you want to start getting huge value from networking events, if you’re looking to become the person that everyone wants to talk to, this book is for you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Ben Chai
• Release date: Jul 21, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370859528

Ben Chai

Ben Chai is considered by many to be the hidden jewel in the international speaking and coaching world. Ben is considered a jewel because he has lived his talk. Every single nugget of business and mindset strategy, Ben shares with you, Ben has actioned to grow a variety of seven-figure businesses in diverse fields including property, software, media, authoring, security, education, and hospitality. Much of his success in both his businesses and his personal life has been due to is ability to attract accomplished people, great investors and authentic business people into his life. His insights and his generosity to share from the stage, on a 1-1 basis, and from his broadcasts have helped hundreds of thousands of people in over 60 countries reach new levels of greatness in their lives. Today Ben runs several property and media businesses and is an executive advisor and equity holder in others. When he is not in business mode, you can find him watching superhero films, salsa dancing or educating himself further in other subjects.

Book preview

IT WAS AROUND THE 10TH NETWORKING event of my life that I felt that something was… amiss. It was close to the 50th that I started to get a handle on what was wrong with the events I was going to. Finally, after attending hundreds of events was I finally able to vocalise what my issue was.

I hated networking.

I hated the constant sales pitches, I hated the faux niceties, but most of all I hated how much of my time it was taking. I was going to three networking events a week, spending 12 hours Monday to Friday (and the occasional weekend tradeshow) standing around in a suit meeting people who, although excellent business people, I wasn’t gelling with.

And then, suddenly! A breakthrough!

After another night of meeting new people, my inner pocket brimming with business cards to follow-up on the next day, I realised what I was doing wrong. I love meeting people, I love spending time with passionate people, I love connecting people and seeing those relationships come to fruition, so why was I having such a bad time?

Night after night I was meeting people that wore suits of armour with Italian labels. I was meeting people so well trained at meeting people that I may as well have been on a hand-shaking conveyor belt. Everyone was so polite, so formal, so… unbalanced. Not unbalanced in an insane way, I mean in a way that was too shiny, too pristine. I was looking for business partners, and I needed to see if after they’d been through the mud and muck, they’d still have that smile, composure, and grace.

It doesn’t matter if they’re a vendor, a supplier, or a client. If you’re buying or selling something to someone, you’re going into business with them. You’ve got to know that they’re a good bet, see how they are under pressure, if they can take a hit and get-up.

I wrote this book to detail the tactics and techniques that I use on a daily basis to find, talk to, and magnetically attract the right people into my life. I literally cannot stop meeting amazing, genuine, go-getting people. Half the time, they’re the ones that approach me!

How to tell if you’re ready for this book

If, like me, you’re looking to draw incredibly smart business minds into your circle then you’re in the right place. But before we go into this, I want to make sure that you’re ready to receive the information I’m about to tell you.

The first thing you need to have is the willingness to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. One of the traits this book will have you practice and understand is how to be comfortable in any situation. Part of social magnetism is projecting out into the world "Don’t worry team, I’ve got this," which didn’t come naturally to me and is a skill that needs to be developed.

The second must-have is the time and drive to sit-down and complete the exercises that we’ve written. I’ve read hundreds of books like this one, and the only ones that have actually helped me are the books that’s lessons I’ve actively put into my life. A book is worthless if you mentally accept what it has to say, but don’t physically put into practice the lessons in front of you.

The final essential is a desire to create something bigger than yourself. This may be a business, a charitable project, or even change the zeitgeist of our age! It doesn’t matter what stage of the journey you’re at, if you’ve just had an idea, are a solo-preneur treading water, or if you’ve got 100,000 followers on Twitter. You need to have something that’s greater than you. Why?

Greatness attracts greatness.

Unless you’re working toward something phenomenal you won’t find phenomenal people that want to be a part of what you’re doing.

What you’re going to get from reading this book

This book is about evolving your inner world and outer world at the same time, to ensure that the two are congruent with each other. Congruency is when your outer world reflects your inner beliefs and understanding about the types of people you should be hanging out with.

By reading this book and completing the exercises, your inner world will evolve and you’ll:

Have a deep understanding of the value that you can provide others

Build an authentic confidence that will radiate out of yourself

Understand the innate charm of compassion, empathy, and figuring out what people really want

At the same time, we’ll be working on evolving your outer world as well, including:

Building a life around meeting brilliant business minds, doing things that you love to do

Having a clear understanding of what high-performance, high-achieving people value, and how to provide that value

Creating a personal narrative around your life that stops people saying, Who is this person? and start saying, "Who IS this person?!"

In the next 10 chapters, I’m going to share with you everything I’ve learned about being socially magnetic. It’s not just business that the techniques have helped me with, it’s helped integrate my business life with my personal life so that they don’t feel so…at odds. The skills have also deepened my existing relationships with friends and family, by developing a wider understanding of the intricacies of communication.

All of the exercises and lessons in this book are from situations and experiences that I’ve personally been through and I’ve made all the mistakes so that you don’t have to.

Thanks for picking up this book, it was an absolute blast to write and I can’t wait to teach you guys how to become Socially Magnetic.

Nate Chai

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17/7/2017

A Note from the Dr. Who of Business

WHATEVER YOUR STATUS AND PERSONAL AMBITIONS are, one of the most important life skills you can have is the ability to network and socialise effectively. The ability to network effectively opens doors of infinite possibility to you.

We all have written or unwritten goals in our lives. Here are just a few scenarios where it becomes painfully obvious how important the ability to network is:

You are a business person or entrepreneur requiring funding, partnerships, or more sales.

You have been made redundant and desperately need to get a new job.

You have been single for years and would like to find the love of your life.

You have a terminally ill relative and need to find them the right medical expertise.

You want to have a long-lived career.

You want to get a promotion.

You work in the servicing industry and want to get more tips in your job.

You can quickly see from the above scenarios that the adage, "it isn’t what you know, it’s who you know," is still relevant in today’s world of social media, and screen-to-screen interactions.

The ability to effectively network and socialise will enable you to reach any goal you have today or in the future.

In this book, we share with you tricks and tips to effectively network at events. These events could be a friend’s party, a dinner, an exhibition, a seminar, a political or religious gathering, online in a forum or whichever social media outlets (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and so on) you enjoy participating in.

Our focus in this book is to help