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Resilience Not Included - Beth A. Terry
Copyright © 2017 by Beth A. Terry, CSP
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Resilience Not Included: Helping Your Kids Learn to Bounce Back/ Beth A Terry, CSP. First Edition April 2017
1. Child rearing. 2. Parent and Child. 3. Resilience
Printed in the United States of America
ISBN 978-0-9674769-7-1
Other Books by Beth Terry
Walking in A Crowd of Angels: An Inspirational Collection
101 Ways to Make Your Life Easier (out of print)
27 Secrets of Management Success
Thinking About Thinking: The Kaleidoscope Effect
Dedicated to the many children I’ve helped raise over the past four decades. Thank you for your patience as I learned how to be a parent and family leader. It’s not always easy, but you made it interesting and one of the best experiences of my life. Special thanks to the bio-parents for allowing me to be a part of your children’s lives.
Dedicated also to Dr. John Rosemond for writing so many sane and wise books that gave me direction and guidance during very challenging times as I learned to be a good role model and stepmother.
Give your children regular, daily doses of Vitamin N. This vital nutrient consists simply of the most character-building two-letter word in the English language No... Unfortunately, many, if not most, of today's children suffer from Vitamin N deficiency. They've been overindulged by well-meaning parents who've given them far too much of what they want and far too little of what they truly need.
~ John Rosemond
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"Beth, honey, I want you to have character, not be one!"
~ Condon Terry, Beth’s Dad
Table of Contents
Preface
CHAPTER 1
How Resilience Shows Up
Children Grow At Their Pace
Give Up A Little Control
CHAPTER 2
Communicate Clearly With Kids
Use Smart Words To Create Cooperation
Hold Regular Family Meetings
CHAPTER 3
Discipline Creates Strong Kids
Have, Create and Model Boundaries
Be Fair And Consistent
Don’t Make Threats If You Won’t Follow Through!
Discipline With Love
Pick Your Battles
Food Addendum
CHAPTER 4
Create Agreements With Your Spouse
Handling Disagreements
CHAPTER 5
Expectations Talk
Model What You Expect
CHAPTER 6
Encourage and Expand Body-Mind-Soul
Encourage Potential
Catch Them Doing Things Right
Expose Kids To Different Cultures And Ideas
Children Benefit From Doing Chores
CHAPTER 7
Teach Kids To Think Critically
Critical Thinking Questions
CHAPTER 8
Teach Kids About Money
CHAPTER 9
Focus On The Future
Spoiling Your Kids Ruins Their Future – Knock It Off!
Spoiled Milk And A Lesson
CHAPTER 10
Teach Respect
Respect Your Children’s Teachers
Respect Your Kids
Respect Your Spouse/Partner
Respect Authority
Respect The Biological Parents
CHAPTER 11
Play
Have Fun Together
CHAPTER 12
Finally: Remember
A View From The Future
APPENDIX
HOUSE CLEANING CHORES
HOUSE RULES
Rules For Our House And For A Happy Life
Letter From My Girls About Their Upbringing
A Letter I Wrote To A Friend About Being A Stepparent
Quotes
Acknowledgments
Resources and Notes
No Kids? Think Again!
I discovered in my twenties I was unable to have children. God had other plans, however, and over three decades I wound up with seven stepchildren, numerous Godchildren, and several Hanai kids (a type of Hawaiian informal foster system. No government, you just agree to take the kids for a time when the parents can’t.)
In that time I learned how to raise children and learned about myself. I made mistakes. I stumbled on successes. There were hard lessons about Love, Discipline, Fairness, Justice, and the fragility of Certainty. I fell in love with all the children in my care. To this day I have a great relationship with many of them. This is a practical guide to how we did it.
Perhaps this is the most important lesson: self-reliance and resilience are two sides of the same coin. Through the trials and errors of raising OPK’s (other people’s kids) I saw the more self-reliance they developed, the more resilient they grew to be, and the better they could handle the slings and arrows of Life. We do our kids and ourselves no favors when we make them too dependent upon us. That’s an ego trip. Our job is to be such great parents that our kids can venture into the world alone and make it successfully. (How else will they come back and support you in your old age? Think ahead!)
I’ve been fortunate to see the fruits of my