The Habits of Happy People: Twelve Important Life Lessons
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The Habits of Happy People - Thomas J Slominski
Twelve Important Life Lessons
Make Them A Part of
Your Life and Start Experiencing
Greater Happiness
Author: Thomas J. Slominski, M.A.
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Preface
How often do you want to experience happiness in your life—once a day, ten times a day, thirty times a day? How many hours each day do you want to feel joy, hope, love, confidence, excitement, or vitality? In this book you will learn that you are in complete control of how much happiness you experience each day of your life. You will learn that you are in control of the feelings you experience.
The information in this book will teach you how to create the feelings you want to experience each and every day of your life.
Most of us reach adulthood with specific beliefs and attitudes firmly in place. The problem is that many of us don’t understand how these beliefs and attitudes affect our moods and feelings or even how these beliefs and attitudes became part of us. Some people fall apart emotionally if they are not appreciated or treated with respect. Others live by rules that cause them emotional pain and suffering. For example, they believe: If people don’t like me there must be something wrong with me.
This book will help you examine your beliefs and attitudes to determine if you need to change them. This book will also examine the beliefs and attitudes of happy people so you can compare your beliefs and attitudes with the beliefs and attitudes of happy people. You will also learn how you can experience positive emotions regardless of the events or circumstances in your life. And you will learn how happy people maintain positive thoughts and feelings even when bad things happen to them.
This is not to say that if you decide to challenge and then change your current way of thinking you won’t ever feel angry, frustrated, or depressed again. What I mean is that if you adopt the habits of happy people, you won’t experience negative emotions for long periods of time. And, once you learn to think and behave like happy people do, failed relationships, financial loss, major mistakes at work, or rejection from friends and coworkers will not stop you from experiencing happiness and becoming content with your life.
It is critical you understand that you cannot experience happiness until you have replaced your negative emotions (anger, guilt, fear) with positive emotions (joy, contentment, excitement). This book will explore the process and steps necessary to do this so that negative emotions no longer control your life. You will also learn that it is very important to spend time thinking about what you can control and what you are responsible for. The clearer this becomes to you the better position you will be in to experience happiness in your life.
Note: It is important that you read the Introduction in this book before you delve into the twelve habits of happy people as it lays the foundation for the information that follows. You can, however, read the chapters on the twelve habits of happy people in any order you choose. Each chapter ends with self-reflection questions that you may use to meditate upon and apply the principles discussed to your life’s circumstances and situations.
Introduction
This book is based on the following premises:
Your beliefs influence how you feel, think, and act throughout your life.
It is possible to control the feelings you experience by developing specific thoughts.
Beliefs
A belief is a feeling of certainty about something. For example, if you believe a certain food prevents cancer, you will probably consume that food on a regular basis. If you have a choice to purchase this food item or another food not believed to prevent cancer, you will select the food item you believe will prevent cancer assuming you can afford this food. Your behavior (purchasing the food thought to prevent cancer) was influenced by your belief (this food will protect me from getting cancer).
Likewise, if you believe a specific car manufacturer produces the most reliable and safest car, you will purchase a car from this car manufacturer the next time you purchase a vehicle. The behavior (purchasing a specific car) is influenced by the belief (this car manufacturer makes the most reliable and safest car).
And so it is with everything you do as an adult. You behave in specific ways because of the beliefs you accept to be true. You don’t talk to certain individuals because you believe they are rude. You feel guilty when people are sad or depressed because you believe it is your responsibility to make people happy. You hold back and don’t do something you really want to do because you believe you aren’t capable of doing it, or because you don’t believe you deserve it, or because you believe someone will disapprove of your actions.
In this book I will help you examine your beliefs so that you can determine if they are good or bad for you and if the beliefs you hold to be true are based on fact or false information.
Values
A value is something that is important to you. Your values also influence your behavior, and your values are related to your beliefs. For example, if you value money you will devote a lot of time to activities that will help you earn more money. If you value security, you will put your valuables in a safe deposit box, or you will refrain from buying on credit, or you will install an alarm system in your home. Someone who values freedom will fight to the death to preserve it.
Below is a list of values many people feel strongly about. Each individual, however, would rank these values in a different order of priority. This is important to keep in mind when you begin to examine your beliefs.