Before You Say I Do: 51 Questions To Ask Your Potential Spouse

By Sandra Mosley and Emmett Karl Mosley

In writing, our book we simply wanted to share what we've learned from others, our experience, read, seen, etc., through the years. With the divorce rate hovering over 51%, we believe our book will be a pro-active tool anyone can use to beat the odds." This book identifies questions that you must ask before you decide to marry someone or get into a serious relationship. This book can also be used to strengthen a current relationship. You will learn what your potential spouse wants in a relationship, how they feel about various topics, what their future hopes and dreams are, and how you can build your life together.

Don't attempt to start a relationship without this book.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Sandra Mosley
• Release date: Feb 25, 2016
• ISBN: 9781524234621

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Disclaimer & Terms of Use

We are not doctors, psychologists, or marriage counselors. We are a couple that has grown up and out with each other, over the past 31 plus years. It has been a journey that has at times caused us to say, ouch, touch and agree, cleave to one another, say why, cry together, laugh together and mostly stay together.

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While the author have given their best efforts in the preparation and presentation of this book the advice and strategies contained herein may not be suitable for your situation. You should consult with a professional where and when appropriate.  The nor either author shall be liable for any loss of profit or any other commercial damages, including but not limited to special, incidental, consequential, or other damages.

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Before You Say

I Do

51 Questions To Ask   Your Potential Spouse

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Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION

PURPOSE OF THIS BOOK

HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

51 QUESTIONS

1.Are you saved?

2.Where do you go to church?

3.Do you work?

4.What are your food preferences?

5.Do you like to go out to eat? If yes, where?  If no, why not? 

6.Do you know how to cook? Who do you expect to cook, and how often? 

7.Do you have family? Are you as close to them as you’d like to be? 

8.How do you respond to stress?

9. What is your vision for yourself and people in your life? 

10.Are you good at managing money?  How much do you have in the bank? 

11. What are your hobbies?

12. What do you like to do in your spare time? 

13. Describe your personality.

14. What do you get angry about? What do you do when you get angry? 

15. How easy do you forgive?

16. How do you feel about your parents and/or guardian?  Do you love them? 

17. Who’s responsible for keeping the home clean?   

18. Have you ever been unemployed? Why?

19.   How well do you communicate?

20. How often do you expect to make love?

21. Explain your sexual likes and dislikes?

22.  Where do you see yourself in 10 years? Where

do you see us in 10 years?

23. Will we have a joint bank account or separate bank account? 

24. How is your credit rating?

25.Is what’s yours, ours?

26. Have you ever been arrested?

27. Have you or are you using drugs?

28. How do you feel about talking about your day at work? 

29. Should we wait until we marry to have sex? 

30. What’s the state of your health?

31. Have you been married before? If yes, do you have children? 

32. What is the most important thing to you in life?   

33.  Would you like to buy a house one day? 

34.How much money do you make? How much money do you want to make? 

35. Do you believe in celebrating birthdays, holidays, and special occasions? 

36. How do I show you, I love you?

37. Can you keep a commitment?

38. Do you know how to do a budget?

39. What do you like to do when you’re at home by yourself? 

40. If you had a million dollars what would you do? 

41.How do you respond to disappointments? 

42.  What dream would you like to fulfill before you

die?

43. Do you want children?

44. If we have children, whose responsibility will   they be? 

45. What's your sexual history (how many partners have you had)? 

46.Why do you want to marry me?

47.  What's your impression of the wedding vow? 

48. What can you tell me about your family?

49.What would you do if you lost everything you had and why? 

50. Do you love me and why?

51. Who are your friends and associates?

CONCLUSION

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PRELUDE

What if you could choose a mate for life?

What if you could avoid the heartache and headache of an unhappy marriage?

What if you could be reasonably assured that the person you want to marry meets your expectations and standards?

Don't you really want to know if they'll love you and stay married to you no matter what, and always treat you as if it’s your first date?

Shouldn't you be able to set your own standards for the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

We want to thank God the Father, Son, & Holy Ghost for the opportunity to complete this work. We humbly thank the following individuals who gave us feedback on this work, edited, made suggestions and simply took the time to help us with this book: Regina Duncan, Orlando Wright, Waikeen and LaCoy Henderson, Pastor Victor Davis, Father Rick Orlinski, Dennis and Diane Kellenburger, Richard & Renaye Manley, Robert & Rev. Cheryl Rivera, Rev. Willie & Pastor May Thomas, and Pastor, Rev. Dr. Vincent L. McCutcheon - Our former Pastor, now deceased.  May God be with you and yours, forever and ever. We love you!

There are always people who come into your life and inspire you spiritually and they don't even know it. We would like to acknowledge them by saying, thanks – Robert (deceased) & Virginia Oliver, Rev. & Mrs. Alvin Martin (both deceased), Columbus Drive Missionary Baptist Church & Antioch Missionary Baptist Church families.

DEDICATION

We dedicate this first work to our parents, Hancy (deceased) & Mary Henry and Leonard

(deceased) & Bernice Mosley. We see every day how blessed we are, so we know without doubt that you keep us in your prayers. Although we've both made mistakes throughout our lives, and we'll make some more, thanks for continuing to love and encourage us.