Don't Just Stand There: How to Be Helpful, Clued-In, Supportive, Engaged & Relevant in the Delivery Room
By Jon Lichtenstein and Elissa Stein
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Jon Lichtenstein
Elissa Stein and Jon Lichtenstein live in New York City with their two children.
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Don't Just Stand There - Jon Lichtenstein
INTRODUCTION
Childbirth is a free-for-all. No matter how much you and your partner plan, you can never truly be prepared for an event so unpredictable, unscheduled, and, quite frankly, uncomfortable. Even if you take the birthing classes, practice breathing techniques, and listen to your partner talk endlessly about books she’s read telling her what to expect, when you are woken up at three in the morning or get that phone call pulling you out of a meeting, everything goes out the window. You’re about to go through a life-changing experience, and you’re likely to forget everything you’ve learned along the way.
She’s going to be stressed and a little bit on edge. Someone’s got to step up and ease the strain a bit. And that someone is you. Believe it or not, there’s plenty that you can do to help the mom-to-be relax, or at least to be more comfortable in a very uncomfortable situation.
That’s why this book came into being. After my first birth experience, which was confusing, chaotic, and completely unlike anything we had prepared for, I was determined to do as much as I could to have a better experience the second time around. We found a remarkable doula (a woman who provides support during labor) who made us both more comfortable and, believe it or not, actually helped us find humor and ease in the delivery room. I put together a handbook for my husband, Jon (the male voice you’ll find throughout the book), to use while I was in labor—positive words I thought I’d want to hear, prompts for him to lead me through visualizations and deep breathing, and guidelines for him to follow (absolutely no picture-taking after a certain point; music selection was non-negotiable). It worked. Having him be more involved helped me, and it helped him by giving him things to do, ask, or suggest. He became a positive and involved player in the experience.
This book is designed to help you help your partner deal with the challenges of labor, both by guiding your planning (with space in back for you to fill in your own ideas, too) and by supplying plenty of suggestions for things to try during labor. Within these pages you’ll find advice culled from moms, midwives, doulas, and ob-gyns—plus words of wisdom from an experienced dad—to help you two through.
And let’s not forget about you. All of the focus is on the mom-to-be (and let’s be honest, that’s basically how it should be), but you’re going through a fair amount of stress, exhaustion, and confusion yourself, so we’ve got stuff in here just for you.
The book is broken into sections that can be used for planning (should you be that organized) or for quick reference during labor.
Stages of Labor will walk you through—what else?—the stages of labor, outlining what to expect, and what you can do, during each stage. The chapter will help you keep track of things as labor progresses. Plus, you’ll find questions to ask the professionals so you’ll know exactly what stage she’s at and what’s going on. While hospital personnel deliver babies every day, you’re new to childbirth, and knowing exactly what to ask can help cut through the confusion.
In What to Bring, you’ll find a packing list of items that will help you both through labor and delivery. Before you read any further, stop and throw some deodorant and a toothbrush into your bag. Trust us, you’ll need them by the time the baby arrives.
The What to Say chapter is full of affirmations, breathing prompts, and simple visualization ideas for you to read to her. Over and over if you need to. Over and over.
In How to Comfort, you’ll find ideas for making her room feel cozier, tricks that can help ease tension, massage techniques (don’t worry, nothing too complicated), and a guide to pressure points that can help with pain relief. Maybe these things will work for her, maybe not—you can never tell what will make a positive difference, so we have included as many options as possible for