Gone but Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child
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Gone but Not Lost is a thoughtful gift for a family that has experienced the death of a child. Each of its brief chapters covers one element of grieving, bringing readers through sorrow and helping them deal with feelings of anger or guilt, as well as the marital strain that may follow the loss of a beloved child.
David W. Wiersbe
David W. Wiersbe has been a pastor for over thirty years and is currently serving his fourth church. He considers ministry to the grieving to be an important part of his calling and has worked with fire and rescue units, as well as local support groups for the grieving. He is the author The Dynamics of Pastoral Care, as well as coauthor of four books with his father, and lives in Minnesota.
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Gone but Not Lost - David W. Wiersbe
mourning.
Preface
I am grateful to the good people at Baker Books for the opportunity to improve on the first edition of this book. Eighteen years is a long time for a book to survive, and I’m glad that Gone but Not Lost is getting new life.
Past readers have asked how I came to write this book. For several years, I attended meetings of The Compassionate Friends and Survivors of Suicide with my friends, Mike and Pat Mulvain. This was my apprenticeship in helping those who mourn. Eventually, the church I pastored began a bereaved parents’ support group, and I became the facilitator. Each month I listened to the experiences of our group members. Over time common themes, complaints, insights, and questions emerged. Those whose grief was fresh complained about the lack of a concise written resource that focused on the basics. What I learned from my sisters and brothers in that group became the core of this book.
This book is intended for the newly bereaved parent. Use it as a compass on your journey through sorrow. Look at it as an emergency kit for those moments you encounter a crisis. Grief interferes with our ability to concentrate, so the chapters are focused and brief. This is not an in-depth study on the stages and specifics of grief; rather, it is a starting-point and a locator as you move through your grief.
Death breaks relationships. Part of the pain of grief is having love to give but no loved one to receive it. The Christian’s assurance and hope are that those who die in Christ are alive with him, and there is a day of glorious reunion coming.
A pastor said in a funeral message, Our brother is gone from us, but he is not lost. When you know where someone is, he isn’t lost. He is in heaven with Jesus. So he is gone from us, but he isn’t lost!
This is the truth that sustains Christian people in their sorrow.
But—parents must still learn to live with grief and cope with marriage, family, work, and the rest of life. My hope is that this book will help you to understand what you are experiencing and provide encouragement and hope. Because of his death and resurrection, Jesus Christ is our greatest source of information and comfort.
I write as a believer in Jesus Christ and in the truth of God’s Word; I write as a caregiver who wants to bring healing to the wounded; and I write as a pastor who has walked with members of his flock through the valley of the shadow of death. Jesus always welcomed children to be with him. I believe that when a young child dies, he or she enters the presence of the Lord.
May the God of all comfort be your strength in sorrow.
Bereaved parent. That is a designation applied to you since your child died. You didn’t choose it, and it is probably hard to accept that bereaved parent
means you. Your child’s death has changed your identity.
As a bereaved parent you have walked through these experiences:
No one tells us how much death hurts. There is a physical pain to it, beyond description. Some parents have called it the stomachache that never ends.
There is a sense of dislocation—of being on the outside, watching events unfold. There is also the constant inner awareness that This really is happening to me, right now.
It is not the normal course of things for a child to die before his or her parents. We expect our parents will die first, and then it will be our turn. No parent expects to make his or her child’s funeral arrangements or witness the funeral.
Children die in so many ways: miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome), disease,