Being Happy: Part 3 Managing Your Expectations
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Do you want to experience a greater sense of freedom in your everyday life? When you live your life with low or no expectations, you free yourself from being attached to preconceived ideas of how life should be. Having those expectations is a constant source of worry; what if it does not happen? When you have little or no expectations, you are free to simply live, to go with the flow and experience life as it comes.
Living with low or no expectations is a tremendously liberating way to live. Feeling free and unencumbered is one kind of being happiness, one that you can generate within yourself without needing to rely on any external source.
What’s wrong with expectations? The problem is they create an attachment to certain outcomes and fear that it won’t happen. Those outcomes have to occur for us to be happy or at least not sad. If things turn out some other way, we become upset and perhaps angry and these negative emotions then erode our happiness.
When you have little or no expectations, you are free to simply live, to go with the flow and experience life as it comes.
Negative emotions like fear, doubt, worry and anger are the last things you want when trying to manifest your purpose. For this you need a calm sense of detachment. You act with confidence that your purpose will be fulfilled – the details will sort themselves out.
From our limited perspective, it may sometimes seem that things are not working out, but we must not let fixed ideas get in the way of creative solutions. It is a sign that we are not seeing the larger picture. We need to trust that everything is happening as it should be happening in the larger scheme of events.
Think of how it is with young children; they take life as it comes, moment-by-moment, accepting what happens without judgment. They have no fixed ideas, trust they will be provided for and believe that anything is possible.
David Tuffley
David Tuffley (PhD) is a Senior Lecturer in Applied Ethics & Socio-Technical Studies at Griffith University in Australia.David writes on a broad range of interests; from Comparative Religion, Anthropology, Psychology, Ancient and Modern History, Linguistics, Rhetoric, Philosophy, Architectural History, Environments and Ecosystems.
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Being Happy - David Tuffley
Being Happy
Part 3
Managing Your Expectations
David Tuffley
© Copyright 2014 David Tuffley
Smashwords Edition
Published in 2014 by Altiora Publications
My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.
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This eBook forms part of the Being Happy series:
Being Happy: Part 1 | Being Happy: Part 2
Other books by this Author
About the Author
David Tuffley PhD is a lecturer in Applied Ethics and Socio-Technical Studies at Griffith University in Australia. David is passionate about helping people to grow into their full potential. Become friends with David Tuffley on Facebook
Dedication
To my beloved Nation of Four: Concordia Domi – ForisPax
Disclaimer
This book has been written with all due care and attention, giving guidance on how to be successful at speed reading. If followed it has the potential to greatly increase your potential to be happy.
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
A TAOIST PARABLE
MANAGING YOUR EXPECTATIONS
NOT EXPECTING PERFECTION
WE INFLICT UNHAPPINESS ON OURSELVES
AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
WALK LIKE ME, TALK LIKE ME
STICKS & STONES
HEALTHY EXPRESSION OF EMOTION
SIGNS OF REPRESSED ANGER
RELEASING REPRESSED ANGER
UNHEALTHY EXPRESSION OF EMOTION
HEALTHY EXPRESSION OF EMOTION
APPENDIX: ANGER MANAGEMENT
THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS
ANGER IN PHYSIOLOGICAL TERMS
STRONG EMOTION CANCELS RATIONAL THOUGHT
THREE WAYS TO DEAL WITH ANGER
SUPPRESSING & SUBLIMATING ANGER
CALMING ANGER
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT YOU CANNOT CONTROL
ARE SOME PEOPLE BORN ANGRY?
STRATEGIES YOU CAN USE
DEEP BREATHING
BEING MINDFUL
REFRAME THE SITUATION
REDUCE EXPECTATIONS
SOLVE THE UNDERLYING PROBLEM
DO NOT JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS
IS THERE A HUMOROUS