Healing A Broken Heart: A Guided Journal Through the Four Seasons of Relationship Recovery
By Sarah La Saulle and Sharon Kagan
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The situation doesn't have to be like that. Healing a Broken Heart guides those of us grieving for a lost love through four metaphorical seasons of recovery with provocative questions -- and journal pages on which to respond -- to help move us forward.
The four seasons serve as powerful metaphors for the stages of the grieving process. Summer is the season for charting the course of a relationship: remembering hopes and expectations, the warning signs that went unheeded. During autumn, journalers accept the reality of breaking up and acknowledge things about the relationship that didn't serve their needs. Winter brings the pain of grief over the profound loss. Finally, spring -- and, with it, renewal -- invites readers to examine and understand how their family history may have affected their past relationships.
Punctuated throughout with poems and moving meditations, the thoughtful, interactive approach of this book offers the time and space we all need to heal when our hearts are broken.
Sarah La Saulle
Sarah La Saulle, PhD, is a marriage and family therapist.
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Written as a guide and workbook - helps you purge feelings and allow for reflection in the different stages of healing. A great book to keep you busy when you need it most and assist you in moving forward.
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Healing A Broken Heart - Sarah La Saulle
Healing a Broken Heart
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Copyright © 2003 by Sarah La Saulle, Ph.D., and Sharon Kagan, M.F.A., M.A.
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La Saulle, Sarah, 1953-
Healing a broken heart : a guided journal through the four seasons of relationship recovery / Sarah La Saulle and Sharon Kagan.
p. cm.
1. Man-woman relationships—Miscellanea. 2. Separation (Psychology)—Miscellanea. 3. Grief—Miscellanea. 4. Diaries—Authorship. I. Kagan, Sharon, 1953- II. Title.
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—SARAH LA SAULLE
To my mother, Honey, and my daughter, Brooke—two truly authentic people who share the gift of exquisite empathy.
—SHARON KAGAN
To my husband, Terry, a man with an enormous capacity to love. For all the meals he cooked while Sarah and I worked at the computer. And, more important, for being completely devoted to healing his broken heart.
Acknowledgments
THIS BOOK WAS BORN out of the wisdom and courage of many people—those who had the strength to heal their broken hearts and those who saw the value the book would have for others on this path. They are teachers, guides, and healers one and all.
First, we would like to thank our agent, Leslie Daniels, at Joy Harris Literary Agency, for believing in our proposal. Her wholehearted acceptance of our work has continuously encouraged us throughout this lengthy process. She is a perceptive, wise, and gentle person and we are very lucky to have been guided by her. Also, a special thank you to Rhoda Huffey for making this vital introduction.
It is very gratifying that our editor, Lisa Considine, understood and wanted our project for Simon & Schuster. She has fortified us with strong suggestions, important editing, and a necessary comprehension of the depth of this topic. We knew that she was the perfect editor for our book since there was an immediate alignment and grasp of our vision.
It has been an honor and a privilege to know our many patients and students who have valiantly worked at grieving, healing, and taking the risk to love again.
Originally this material was developed as part of a course that Sarah taught at the Esalen Institute. Thanks to Nancy Lunney for selecting this idea for her amazing schedule of classes. The group that assembled for five days worked long and hard on these questions, grieved together, and supported one another. Their work confirmed our belief that this was an approach that others would value.
There have been those gifted people who with their vision, wisdom, strength, and compassion have helped us heal our broken hearts. They are Susan Flynn, Myra Pomerantz, Breck Costin, David Shepard, and Iris Dragin Blum.
Our family and friends are too numerous to list here, although we have the urge to do so. Their generous confidence and ongoing support has been invaluable. We sincerely hope that each of you knows you are in our hearts with gratitude and love.
—S.L. and S.K.
A very warm thank you to Terry Holzgreen for giving Sharon and me the space to accomplish this task, for feeding me extraordinary meals, and for his unqualified approbation.
It is difficult to fully express my thankfulness for Sharon Kagan’s participation in my life. My definition of a perfect partner is someone who understands what you are thinking even before you say it, someone who is able to think creatively in all kinds of circumstances, and whose contribution to the task is as relentless as your own, someone who never complains when the hard work becomes overwhelming, but instead finds the humor in it, and, finally, someone whose compatibility with you is so effortless that you no longer can separate your efforts from theirs—Sharon has all of these great qualities, and our commitment to each other has been unparalleled.
—S.L.
Thanks to Terry, a remarkable man; a gifted writer, artist, and woodworker; the king of jiggle therapy; my honey, my lover, my heart, who always wondered why Sarah and I started working on this book right after he and I got engaged.
Sarah, thank you for asking me to work with you on this and every other hair-brained-idea-for-a-book
that you’ll ever have. Can you believe it? It’s actually a book. As you know, that’s something I never considered a feasible outcome. You’ve been the perfect partner, always able to work on the parts I was unable to face, crediting me with fixing your writing when all I ever did was type it into the computer. You trusted me implicitly, never losing sight of the importance of the work and yet didn’t take the little