I Do... Again: The Renewable Marriage

By Lee Shulman

We want relationships that work. This book will help. Instead of looking at what's wrong, this book looks at what's good, because surely there was a lot of good when your relationship began. Relationships can work and "good" can be built into "better." Sharing their personal stories, the authors give the success tools they created. You're a person with relationships. This book is for you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Worthy Shorts
• Release date: Dec 18, 2009
• ISBN: 9781935340591

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I Do … Again - The Renewable Marriage

The 30-Day Renewable Contract Keeping Marriages Alive, Romantic, and Successful

By Lee M. Shulman, Ph.D., Joyce Shulman, Ph.D., and Gerald Wil Rafferty, Ph.D.

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Copyright © 2009 by Lee M. Shulman, Ph.D., Joyce Shulman, Ph.D., Gerald Wil Rafferty, Ph.D.

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Dedications

We dedicate this book to each other, and to our families, our clients, and our teachers in life.

Lee and Joyce

I dedicate this little book to all who struggle in your personal relationships. I hope this is a useful tool for you.

Gerald

Contents

Welcome

Relationships

Love Works

A New View of the Love Relationship

Start with "What's Right—Not What's Wrong

Relationships Are for Two

Vive la Difference

Who this Book Is For

A Field Guide. not for Major Repairs

What the Book Is Not

Let's Begin with Our Stories

The Heat of New Love

What We Did

How We Started

Wrong!

Our Stories:

----Joyce

----Lee

Our Fears

Eight Assumptions about Relationships

Recognizable Attributes with Relationships

Thirteen Attributes of Successful and Unsuccessful Relationships

Seventeen Foundations for our Relationship

Creating the 30-Day Renewal Format

Frequency

Your Personal Schedule

Setting Up for a Renewal Session

Session Content

Start with the Hard Stuff

Finish with the Sweet Stuff

Building All Sides of a Foundation

The Promises

A Transcript from One of Our Actual Sessions

Samples for You to Work With

Our Sincere Wish to You

Sample 30-Day Renewable Contract

Contract Renewal Instructions

The Ten Steps to the Renewal Process

About the Authors

Author Publishing Credits and appearances

Author Contact Information

Welcome

Welcome to our conversation. We're not sitting in the same room with you. That's true. Nevertheless, through the pages of this little book, we — you and us — will engage in a conversation. We'll be presenting our thoughts, through the words on the page. And you will be the other side of the conversation, through the same pages.

This is a book about relationships. It presents a program that is easy to use and will help make your relationships more successful. We focus here on the marriage relationship. However, the program, with only minor adjustments will work with any relationship, including long-term friendships and business relationships.

We'll take you through the process of exactly how we saw the need for something new and special to help us make our new marriage successful. Then we'll take you through — step-by-step — how we went about creating it.

Relationships

People want and need relationships. We, quite literally, cannot live without them. We enter into, and continue, relationships every day — we have marriages, love relationships, business relationships, friendships, social interactions.

The most personally demanding and simultaneously the most rewarding relationship is marriage, or a long-term love relationship.

Love Works

Love relationships can work. And this is the first book to offer concrete guidelines and proven, effective techniques for making them work. This is not a Pollyanna book that offers syrupy band-aids to quick-fix some of the most heartbreaking misery people are likely to endure in their search for happiness.

Our program goes beyond the view that males and females are, by their nature and always will be, antagonists.