Your Partner Has Breast Cancer: 21 Ways to Keep Sane as a Support Person on Your Journey from Victim to Survivor
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You just found out that your partner has breast cancer.
You’re feeling panic because you will be expected to be her main support partner, her caregiver, during her recovery period and you don’t think you can do it.
Good.
Panic is step one. It means you care.
But now it’s time to move to step two, your action plan, so that when you arrive at step three, after the initial recovery period, you will be feeling closer to her and to yourself than you’ve ever felt in your life.
I did it. You can, too.
During my journey, I found a lot of material on how I could help my wife but nothing on how I could keep sane while I was helping her. This book is what I needed then; I am confident, my brothers, that it is exactly what you need now.
You can’t help your partner if you aren’t helping yourself.
But, my sisters, it is you who likely will have to invest in this book (as if you have nothing else to think about) because your partner is probably denying he needs the help. It’s a smooth read, it’s uplifting, and the steps are easy to implement. Help him to help you.
Join me on the path from victim to survivor.
“All I can say is wow! I found this booklet helpful, informative, moving, and clearly a labor of love.”—Dr. Helen Pass, Director, Division of Breast Surgery, and Co-Director of Women’s Breast Center, Stamford Hospital, Stamford, CT
Ken Wachsberger
Ken Wachsberger, The Book Coach, is a prolific author on an eclectic range of topics going back to his work on the underground press of the Vietnam era. He has been helping others to write better, through teaching and personal book coaching and editing, for over forty years, His latest release, "You've Got the Time: How to Write and Publish That Book in You," is receiving rave reviews from emerging and veteran authors. https://kenthebookcoach.com
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Your Partner Has Breast Cancer - Ken Wachsberger
YOUR PARTNER HAS BREAST CANCER
2nd edition
21 Ways to Keep Sane as a Support Person on Your Journey from Victim to Survivor
by
Ken Wachsberger
Smashwords Edition
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Your Partner Has Breast Cancer, 2nd edition
Copyright May 12, 2013 by Ken Wachsberger
ISBN 978-0-945531-05-0
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Author photo by Carrie Wachsberger
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What others are saying about
YOUR PARTNER HAS BREAST CANCER:
Ken has in a thoughtful and caring way shared effective ways that worked for him as he was a great husband and father supporting his wife and children in his family’s battle against breast cancer. I am confident that these ways will have a powerful impact in helping all support people, but especially guys who may be struggling, to be loving partners as they battle breast cancer in their families.
—Marc Heyison, President/Founder, Men Against Breast Cancer
All I can say is wow! I found this book helpful, informative, moving, and clearly a labor of love.
—Dr. Helen Pass, Director, Division of Breast Surgery, and Co-Director of Women’s Breast Center, Stamford Hospital, Stamford, CT
The story is masterfully told, the advice lovingly conveyed…. [a] tremendous help to people whose lives have been turned upside down, especially support people, whose journeys through diagnosis and treatment of cancer can be lonely and confusing.
—Cantor Ann Zibelman Rose, Facilitator of Temple Beth Emeth Caring Community, Ann Arbor, Michigan
… should give every caregiver hope
—Diana Dyer, MS, RD, author of A Dietician’s Cancer Story
Ken’s book is a much-needed and welcome addition to the cancer literature. His advice is simple, clear, and compassionate.
—Eileen Coan, Medical Librarian, The Gathering Place, Beachwood, Ohio
Recommended for public libraries and especially for libraries with strong consumer health collections.
—Sarah Watstein, Director, Academic User Services, Virginia Commonwealth University
WOWIE WOW WOW! As a human being who has gone through my own medical challenges, I loved it. I found the advice to be very sound and very helpful. Your personal story really engages me in a deep way…. And I connect with you so easily and on a very personal level.
—Kristi Davis, Founder, Creative Spirit Healing
DEDICATION
The perceived breast cancer victim is the person who goes into surgery, and with good reason.
But the support person, the caregiver, is the silent victim, the one who takes over the perceived victim’s chores, answers questions for well-wishers, assumes double-income responsibility and becomes both parents if they are in a formal couple relationship, and is always the pillar of strength, even when he or she doesn’t feel like a pillar of strength.
This book is dedicated to the silent victims—especially husbands, who form by far the largest bloc of support persons and yet are the most inept at asking for help. I know because I was one of them. When I needed help for myself, I found a lot of material on how I could help my spouse but nothing on how I could help myself while I was helping her. This book is what I needed then; I am confident it is exactly what you need now.
You can’t help your partner if you aren’t helping yourself.
But, my sisters, it is you who likely will have to invest in this book (as if you have nothing else to think about) because your partner is probably denying he needs the help. It’s a smooth read, it’s uplifting, and the steps are easy to implement. Help him to help you.
Join me on the path from victim to survivor.
YOUR PARTNER HAS BREAST CANCER
2nd edition
21 Ways to Keep Sane as a Support Person on Your Journey from Victim to Survivor
TABLE OF CONTENTS
DEDICATION
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
A WORD FROM THE AUTHOR
PANIC IS STEP ONE. TIME FOR STEP TWO.
SOME MOTHER’S DAY THIS IS!
21 WAYS