Your Child is Your Parent

By Manoj Lekhi

The most important part of the book is that which discusses the transformation of the parent and the family. What particularly strikes me are the explanations about how one’s child is one’s parent, or mentor, or Guru, and how so:
- The child’s behaviour mirrors the atmosphere at home and the parent’s way of being.
- Outer transformation, i.e., the behaviour modification of the child, comes from the inner transformation of the parents and the family. This inner transformation comes from the parents wanting to be role models for the desired behaviour of the child.
What also makes a dent are some of the methods of inner transformation as suggested here, which include:
- Methods of distancing oneself from emotions such as anger.
- Methods of forgiving oneself and others, e.g., by talking while the child is sleeping. This comes about through effortless truthfulness of the parent.
- Methods for opening oneself to learning to be joyful without any reason or condition, while playing with the child—things such as acting as if crazy, dancing with joy etc. which one can do only with a child.

I am grateful for this insight into joyful effortless super parenting. I am grateful for the reminder as to what a gift the child is to us. It is no more only about educating the super child, as in Glenn Doman’s work; it is about experiencing the immense gratitude for allowing us to be parents to these little gods, without whom we could not have stepped out of our serious destructive dispositions to become playful loveable angels on earth.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Manoj Lekhi
• Release date: Feb 22, 2013
• ISBN: 9788192537948

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LIFE POSITIVE Oct 2012

Coming from a longstanding disciple of Rishi Prabhakar, the founder of Siddha Samadhi Yoga, Your Child Is Your Parent by Manoj Lekhi is brimming with simplicity that is at once wise and profound, yet very commonsensical.

Built on the basic premise that parenting is more about consciousness and less about being a biological parent, Lekhi sums it up by saying, You can be a parent without really giving birth to a child.

The fundamental core of parenting, he asserts, is about being aware, at each step, of what you want, and how to reach your goal.

Even planning a child involves careful and studied thinking about why you want to bring a soul into the world, and how best you can be an involved, compassionate and proactive guide to your child’s innate potential and personality. You have to be clear about the kind of life you will give to that child, he states.

More than the kind of lifestyle and facilities that you can afford, Lekhi is referring to the values, awareness, spiritual evolvement and involvement that you as a parent bring to your responsibilities as a parent.

For that, you have to assess your own strengths and shortcomings, and work on those willingly to be able to offer a meditative upbringing to your child, What you want your child to ‘be’ in life, is more important that what he will ‘do’ or `have’, he says. Lekhi manages to encapsulate spiritual wisdom, psychological tenets and practical guidelines in a way that is easy to understand, relate to, and most importantly, put into practice.

The book has dedicated chapters to some of the most common problems or ‘challenges’ that plague parents: self- esteem, anger management, memory development and left and right brain thinking.

A happy parent leads to a happy child. A parent who is reflective, calm and positive can, by his or her own example, mould and nurture these very qualities in the child. The child thus provides an opportunity for the parents themselves to look at their own life patterns, behaviour and thinking and change these to cultivate their own growth, as well as that of their child. Thus parenting essentially is about creating a culture of positive change in the family unit, where each one, parent or child, is constantly learning and imbibing values, perceptions and behaviour from each other.

Self-esteem is what the child thinks of himself. When we shout, hit, glare or cause fear, self-esteem slumps. Love, compassion and calmness increase the self-esteem of the child. So once again, you change, and your child will change.

This book is to be absorbed and assimilated into your being. To see how beautifully and seamlessly its wisdom seeps into your life, as a parent and as a person.

Sharmila Bhosale

LIFE POSITIVE (Oct 2012)

Your Child Is Your Parent!

Manoj J. Lekhi

(Applying the teachings of Guruji Rishi Prabhakar)

A Rishi Vachan Trust Publication

First Edition: July 2012

Second Edition: August 2012

Third Edition: October 2012

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Edited by: Bhaavin Shah

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Acknowledgements

I have been tremendously inspired by my master, Guruji Shri Rishi Prabhakarji. It is he who has empowered me to enjoy the space and the freedom to express myself and who continues to encourage me to go beyond myself.

This book is testimony to the confidence my master has instilled in me. I could never have imagined that one day I would be writing a book. He instilled in me the confidence and, more important, the freedom to express myself.

I am deeply indebted to my mother and my father for having given me a strong foundation by way of beautiful samskaras right from my childhood. It is only because of their love for me and trust in me that I enjoy the complete freedom to explore, to fall, to fail and to try out all that I wish to, as well as to learn from each and every failure and experience. I also wish to thank all of my family, my sister, my brothers and sisters-in-law for supporting me throughout my life in my quest for inner growth and development.

I am grateful to my wife, Nina, for her generous love and support and for sharing with me the last 23 years, encouraging and helping me in my journey towards discovering my true inner self. She is a fabulous mother besides being a great entrepreneur, making bags under the brand name, Baggit.

I am indebted to my daughter, Vedoci, my in-house guru, who has been the reason for every one of my experiences that I have written about. She has been continuously throwing up new challenges, thus inspiring me every moment to delve into and understand parenthood better.

I would also like to thank Mr Glenn Doman, whose books I read when my wife, Nina, was pregnant. He gave me the inspiration and courage needed to implement various experiments.

I extend my thanks to Shri Raviji and his wife, Gayatri Ma, who had the courage to implement the ISP principles when no one dared to do so. I also wish to thank them for all the great insights they gave me when my daughter Vedoci was born and which they continue to do even today.

I would also like to thank Darshan Desai, the cofounder of ISP (see Sec.VII, Chap.1, ‘From Pregnancy to Age Six — The Infant SSY programme’) and active ISP trainer from Mumbai, for the tremendous amount of research work he has done to keep ISP upgraded with the latest in the field for last twelve years.

I would like to thank all the ISP teachers from Mumbai and Shailesh, Shamla Ma, Amit and Manoj in particular for being with me in this venture of spreading the ISP knowledge right from its inception; my sincere thanks goes out to the ISP teachers from our Pune centre (Sameer, Megha, Sanjay and Sunil) as well.

I am thankful to all those involved in the setting up of the MET Rishikul Vidyalaya (MRV) school — Shri Karveji, Ajay Deshpande, Mallika, Lata, Meenaji and everybody else, including the housekeeping staff — for constantly giving me inputs on positive parenting. Also, I must extend my thanks to all the parents of MRV who approached me with numerous questions and discussed the challenges they encountered during the upbringing of their children on a day-to-day basis. All this enabled and motivated me to delve into the current areas of research.

I would also like to take this opportunity to thank Mr. Nilesh Nimkar from Gram Mangal who helped us add a new dimension in the field of teaching art to our ISP students and students of our Gurukulams.

I also thank all the ISP parents who have shared their experiences in this book.

My gratitude goes out to all the SSY teachers, especially, Avanishji, Mohanji and Laxmima, who have supported and encouraged me to write this book.

I also wish to thank:

- Priya, Sunayana, Priti and Amit Savoor, Julie and Madhu Ma for literary help like compiling, correcting, transcribing and re-writing of the work;

- Jigna, Kusum and Rashmi for initial co-ordination;

- Shreya and Shyam for all the line drawings;

- Nana from Aurangabad for giving me great insights through his undaunted experiments;

- Jitendra and Sameer Naik for their inputs in the chapter, ‘Planning’;

- Kommal and Rupali for the cover page design;

- Kavita for managing the logistics of the sale of this book;

- Reji for the meticulous proof-reading that she has done;

- Rajen for his wonderful formatting, lay-out and pre-press work.

I would also like to thank Bhaavin for his exhaustive editing of the book and the important task of co-ordinating entire publishing operations and distribution of this book.

I also extend my thanks to Arundhati Ma for inspiring me to take ISP to a professional level.

I wish to express my sincere gratitude to Shri Malhotraji for initiating me to compile and format my findings into a book, which could be made available to millions of parents around the world.

Finally, once again, I would like to initiate this book with my pranaams to my master, Guruji Shri Rishi Prabhakarji.

Dedication

Foreword

by Guruji Rishi Prabhakar

I would like to categorically state that this book is a rare gem. It is the result of 23 years of sadhana of my dear disciple Amrut Vivek (Manoj Lekhi). No great work of art can manifest itself without a minimum of 24 years of inner and outer sadhana.

This book is the culmination of our interest in super performance by little toddlers, which was sparked by Dr Glenn Doman. The concept of ‘super performance’ included some great and remarkable feats: reading Shakespeare at three, playing Mozart at two and a half, speaking several languages by three etc.

Sincere thanks to Dr Doman for his contribution to child learning. The world of children has become so miraculously joyful because of his studies and insights.

This book, however, is a giant leap beyond Dr Glenn Doman’s work on super learning technology for children.

The most important part of the book is that which discusses the transformation of the parent and the family. What particularly strikes me are the explanations about how one’s child is one’s parent, or mentor, or Guru, and how so:

- The child’s behaviour mirrors the atmosphere at home and the parent’s way of being.

- Outer transformation, i.e., the behaviour modification of the child, comes from the inner transformation of the parents and the family. This inner transformation comes from the parents wanting to be role models for the desired behaviour of the child.

What also makes a dent are some of the methods of inner transformation as suggested here, which include:

- Methods of distancing oneself from emotions such as anger.

- Methods of forgiving oneself and others, e.g., by talking while the child is sleeping. This comes about through effortless truthfulness of the parent.

- Methods for opening oneself to learning to be joyful without any reason or condition, while playing with the child—things such as acting as if crazy, dancing with joy etc. which one can do only with a child.

I am grateful for this insight into joyful effortless super parenting. I am grateful for the reminder as to what a gift the child is to us. It is no more only about educating the super child, as in Glenn Doman’s work; it is about experiencing the immense gratitude for allowing us to be parents to these little gods, without whom we could not have stepped out of our serious destructive dispositions to become playful loveable angels on earth.

We are born on this planet to create and enjoy and take a step forward in the process of evolution. Evolution, itself, is but a joyful process of creation of something more beautiful and more intelligent than before.

A boy meets a girl to evolve to the next level of sharing the joy together through marriage. A child is the next progressive step in the ladder. The child has more evolutionary qualities than the parents.

By learning from the child, we,