Please Fix My Marriage

By Celesta Thiessen

Are you married? Are you unhappy? It is not God’s will for you to have a bad marriage. God wants you to have a great marriage! Jesus came so we could have life to the full. And Jesus offers that to you in your marriage.
Please Fix My Marriage is a short book for people in marriages where the love is ebbing or has vanished completely. ‘Falling out of love’ is not an acceptable reason for divorce, yet fifty plus years in a loveless marriage would be extremely lonely and miserable. The powerful, biblical truths conveyed in this book, along with the corresponding practical tasks, will show you how you can have life to the full in Christ and how you can bring love back into your marriage.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Celesta Thiessen
• Release date: Oct 30, 2012
• ISBN: 9781301173488

Celesta Thiessen

I live in Steinbach, Manitoba, Canada with my husband and two young daughters. We're homeschoolers and entrepreneurs. My husband and I make iOS apps and I write stories. Being a writer is magical - spinning nothing into stories - stories that can light the way to a different world.You can connect with me on Faceboook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorCelesta

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Please Fix My Marriage

Celesta Thiessen

Copyright 2012 Celesta Thiessen

All Bible verses come from the New International Version.

THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

This book is dedicated to Jesus. Thank you for saving me and for fixing my marriage.

Although Leo and I have come from misery to happiness in our marriage, we are not perfect. So, if you happen to see us out in public one day and we are looking a little grumpy…life’s a journey. We’re still working things out on a daily basis.

Preface

Please Fix My Marriage has been written to those who profess the Christian faith. If you don’t follow Jesus, I’m not sure you will find this book helpful. Jesus is absolutely everything to me. He has brought me from darkness to light. If you’re willing to consider Jesus as the answer, then, by all means, go ahead and read. Jesus wants to save you too, if you’ll give Him the chance.

This book is meant to be read from beginning to end. When fixing a marriage, it is important to do the first things first. There’s no point in trying to build on a crumbling foundation. It’s the fullness of Christ’s love in you that’s going to help you do this. First I had to let Jesus fix me before he was able to fix my marriage.

There are practical tasks listed at the ends of the chapters. You should plan on doing all of the practical tasks as you come to them. This book cannot fix your marriage. A book is only words on pages. Only you can fix your marriage as you actively work with God, first to remove the things that have poisoned the union and then to restore the love you once had.

Chapter 1 – My Story

Like everyone in this broken, dark world, I grew up with my share of hurts and heartaches. When I was a little girl, my reactions to these small traumas were sadness and fear. By the time I was in my teen years, anger had become a dominant emotion in my life. But I tried to suppress the anger because I was a Christian and I wanted to follow Jesus. It was typical for me to cry in frustration, anger, and emotional pain for hours alone in my room, at least several times a week. Why did you let the kids at school bully me like that? Why is there fighting and yelling at home? Why do I have to grow up feeling afraid? Why don’t you help me? But I loved Jesus anyway. Like Peter, who stuck with Jesus even when he told everyone that they had to eat his flesh and drink his blood (John 6:53-57), I was determined to stay with Jesus, even though I was upset and bewildered, because I knew he was the only way to have eternal life.

I desperately needed to escape my pain and fear and start over. What can save me? Everyone in our culture knows ‘the answer’. True love. And so I was driven to find a boyfriend.

When I was seventeen, I thought I had arrived. I found a Christian guy who agreed to date me. I never asked God if I should date him. After all, I had pined for him for a whole year before he even knew my name. At first, I was giddy with happiness. We were together for almost two years. But he never solved any of my problems. Instead, my issues grew. After high school, I selected the wrong vocation for myself and heaped unnecessary stress on my life. In addition to this, the boyfriend I had chosen routinely ignored me in public. Once he got very angry at me, screamed at me, and kicked me. And he refused to marry me. He said maybe he would one day but not anytime soon. I was devastated. Is this true love? By the time I was turning nineteen, my life had plunged into a deep and dark depression. I broke up with the guy. He wasn’t going to save me.

And so began the search for the next guy, Mr. Right, who would take me away from all my problems. Again, I never considered praying about my choices. As