■ It you believe a certain amount of useful, guided learning is appropriate during the play session, play with the same objects as your child,is inviting it. For example, “You seem to be enjoying building bricks. I like the way you try new things.” ■ The focus for your toddler is on the process, the discovery, and not the end result. It's a journey. Allow him to travel and try new routes. ■ Frustration is an inevitable part of your child's growing self-assertion. He sees what things will and won't do through a process of repeated attempts. He is learning. Describe his feelings and actions in words. When frustration reduces efficiency, then step in. Work with him on the parts where adult assistance is required, such as where he needs adult strength or safety from heat. Otherwise break the task down into smaller manageable steps. ■ Frustration with others can arise when he feels “bullied”. Give him choices. Use humour, and manage your own frustration. He's limited in that he can't see things from another perspective, so he will need your assistance when others frustrate him. Allowing too much frustration will damage self-esteem and hinder learning.
