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From Housework To Sex, Here's How Relationship Contracts Can Help Couples

Relationship contracts might not sound romantic, but all relationships are contractual, Writer Mandy Len Catron says this is a tool for couples to express their needs and work together.

Lovesick. Lovestruck. Heartbroken. Crazy in love.

So often, our language around romantic love makes it feel like it's out to get us: we're captive passengers on a high-speed train to an unknown destination; jolly patients of the same contagious, all-consuming malady; victims of some inescapable, omnipotent force.

But love today should be an active choice — something you grow and build together with a partner, instead of something that just happens to you. At least, that's what writer Mandy Len Catron found when she started researching the subject for her book, How To Fall in Love With Anyone.

Catron is also the author of the highly-circulated and much-celebrated piece, as well it's slightly more maligned little brother, "."

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