Grier and her wife Alana created their family through surrogacy after fertility treatments wreaked havoc on Grier’s mental health and it became clear that carrying a child in either one of their wombs was not an option. She discusses the challenges and shame that can come with not being able to conceive and the importance of breaking down taboos surrounding different ways of creating a family. The conversation also touches on the non-biological connection in queer families, the decision to use an anonymous sperm donor, and the complexities of navigating societal expectations and assumptions. This conversation emphasizes the importance of normalizing different paths to parenthood and supporting individuals in making the best choices for their own well-being. ?️‍?Thanks to ⁠Pregnant Together⁠, My Donor Story, ⁠⁠⁠Our Shelves⁠⁠⁠ (code QUEERFAM) and our ⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠ supporters.?️‍?Interested in advertising? Check out our packages ⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠?️‍?Key Takeaways:?️‍? Breaking down taboos surrounding different ways of creating a family is importantThe non-biological connection in queer families can be a complex and nuanced topicChoosing an anonymous sperm donor can alleviate concerns about emotional attachmentNavigating societal expectations and assumptions can be challenging for queer parents Surrogacy can be a valid and empowering choice for individuals who do not want to carry their own child.Mental health should be prioritized when making decisions about family planning.It is important to normalize and support different paths to parenthood.Open and honest conversations about difficult topics can provide support and validation for others going through similar experiences.?️‍?Quotes:?️‍?“She didn't want to carry. It was as simple as that.” Grier"I wanted to be the best mother possible. And for me to do that I needed to spend the next year getting my mental health back." Grier"Talk about hard things with your friends.” Grier?️‍?About The Guest(s)?️‍?Grier, formerly a model agent, opens up about her struggles with mental health, the pressures of societal norms, and the complex decision to pursue surrogacy. She and her wife Alana navigated the challenging waters of creating a family as a queer couple, ultimately choosing a path that ensured their well-being and the love they could share with their child.?️‍?Resources mentioned in the episode: Queer midwife Mara Goodman's virtual community: Pregnant TogetherGrowing Generations: www.growinggenerations.comKim Brown's interview episode: “Finding A Surrogate” from season 2 of the former "If These Ovaries Could Talk" podcast, now known as the Queer Family Podcast.?️‍?If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on⁠⁠⁠ Patreon ⁠⁠⁠for as low as $2/month!?️‍?We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 ⁠⁠⁠thequeerfamilypodcast.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠/⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠/⁠⁠⁠FB⁠⁠⁠/⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠/⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠: @thequeerfamilypodcast?️‍?Watch Video Episodes right now on ⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ and on ⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠?️‍?Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on ⁠⁠⁠Amazon⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠IndieBound⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Audible⁠⁠⁠.?️‍?Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: ⁠⁠⁠Tiffany Topol⁠⁠⁠\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato.?️‍?Buy our merch ⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠?️‍?For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our ⁠⁠⁠websiteAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy