S14 EP12 | Dr. Lulu, a Nigerian-born pediatrician and advocate, shares her personal journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a queer person. Growing up in a homophobic and religious society, she struggled with internalized homophobia and rejected her own child when they showed signs of being feminine. However, after her child revealed themselves as transgender, Dr. Lulu had a change of heart and became an advocate for LGBTQIA+ youth. She emphasizes the importance of unlearning societal norms and accepting and affirming our children for who they truly are. Dr. Lulu also discusses her new gender-affirming family coaching practice and the importance of supporting siblings in the transition process. ?️‍?Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. ?️‍?Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. ?️‍?About The Guest(s)?️‍? Dr. Lulu is a pediatrician, advocate, and speaker. She is Nigerian-born and has a passion for supporting LGBTQIA+ youth and their families. Dr. Lulu has recently opened a gender-affirming family coaching practice where she helps parents and families navigate the process of gender affirmation. ?️‍?Key Takeaways:?️‍? Self-awareness is crucial in understanding our reactions and beliefs about gender. Exploring the underlying emotions and beliefs behind our reactions can lead to personal growth and understanding. Gender affirmation goes beyond hormones and surgery and includes respecting a person's chosen name, pronouns, and clothing. Supporting and affirming LGBTQIA+ children requires unlearning societal norms and taking responsibility for our own biases. ?️‍?Quotes:?️‍? "The truth will set you free. Spend enough time getting curious and asking yourself why you felt this way." - Dr. Lulu "Embarrassment is an emotion that can reveal deeper beliefs and patterns in our lives." - Dr. Lulu "Gender affirmation starts at a young age and includes respecting a person's chosen name and pronouns." - Dr. Lulu "Parents must let go of the belief that they did something wrong and accept their child's gender identity." - Dr. Lulu ?️‍?Resources: The Trevor Project Lifeline 1-888-488-7386 It Gets Better: Watch Videos of Support The National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1800-273-TALK (8255) The GLGT National Help Center: 1-888-THE_GLNH (888-843-4564) Youth Talkline: 1-800-245-PRIDE (800-246-7743) ?️‍?If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! ?️‍?We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast ?️‍?Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube ?️‍?Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. ?️‍?Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. ?️‍?Buy our merch here. ?️‍?For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website