S14 EP15 BONUS | Join Jaimie in this Holiday Bonus Episode as she guests on 'Lost Spaces' with K Anderson! Jaimie shares her experience growing up in San Francisco surrounded by queer culture but struggling to recognize her own queerness. She discusses the male-dominated gay world she witnessed in the 80s and 90s and the lack of representation of gay women. Jaimie reflects on her journey of self-discovery, including experimenting with women and eventually embracing her identity as a lesbian. She also discusses the challenges of coming out to her parents and the stereotypes surrounding "U-Haul lesbians." Throughout her story, Jaimie emphasizes the importance of embracing one's differences and shedding the need for perfectionism. Dive into this special episode with a personal touch from Jaimie. ?️‍?Thanks to California Cryobank (code QUEERFAM),  Our Shelves (code QUEERFAM) and our Patreon supporters. ?️‍?Interested in advertising? Check out our packages here. ?️‍?Key Takeaways:?️‍? Growing up in a queer-friendly environment does not guarantee immediate self-recognition of one's own queerness. Representation and exposure to diverse queer experiences are crucial in understanding and accepting one's own sexuality. Coming out can be a complex and ongoing process, with individuals gradually embracing and fully owning their identities. The queer community can provide support and a sense of belonging during the process of self-discovery. Losing perfection means letting go of the need to control others' perception of you. ?️‍?Quotes:?️‍? "I think everybody has a little bit of gay in them and they just haven't found it yet." - Jaimie Kelton "I knew there was community. I knew I would not be alone if I decided to come out.” - Jaimie Kelton “I feel like I touched my toe real slowly into this gay water." - Jaimie Kelton ?️‍?Resources mentioned in the episode: Listen to Lost Spaces ?️‍?If you like the episode, make sure to leave us a review and support The Queer Family Podcast on Patreon for as low as $2/month! ?️‍?We want to hear from you! Call us: 646-470-1840 thequeerfamilypodcast.com / thequeerfamilypodcast@gmail.com IG/Twitter/FB/TikTok/YouTube: @thequeerfamilypodcast ?️‍?Watch Video Episodes right now on YouTube ?️‍?Order the #ITOCT book based on this podcast on Amazon, IndieBound, Audible. ?️‍?Edited by Jerson Barajas. Theme song: Tiffany Topol\ Logo art: Daneen Stevenato. ?️‍?Buy our merch here. ?️‍?For a full transcript of this episode and more info about the host visit our website