Sex therapist Shamyra Howard joins Jess to talk about how to have happier relationships — with yourself, family, friends and partner(s). She talks about how to apologize effectively and why your partner doesn’t want you to be sorry — they want you to be better. Shamyra also offers strategies to:

Manage jealousy and overcome insecurities
Validate your partner and differentiate between validation and affirmation
Understand differences as opposed to simply accepting them

Check out Shamyra's Sexuality Superhero feature here.

See some more of Shamyra's pearls of wisdom below...







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You know what's sexy? Vulnerability is a word we use often but what does it mean for relationships and why does it matter? Relationships are all about feeling safe enough to take emotional risks knowing that this person has the ability to hurt you, but relying on your own ability to trust yourself to show up. This happens best with an emotionally responsive partner. When you respond to your partner's emotional vulnerability with emotional security that creates connection. That's Intimacy. That's Sexy. #mondaynightraw

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Stop faking orgasms! #mondaynightraw Faking orgasms contribute to the orgasm gap that we are working to end. Taking ownership of your sexual pleasure is sexy! Let's do it!

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Potential is great, but. That's it!! Most people have potential, but what they do with it counts most! Monday Night Raw

A post shared by Shamyra (@sexologistshamyra) on Aug 26, 2019 at 7:49pm PDT




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This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.

How to Deal With Insecurities, Neediness and Apologies

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