23 min listen
The Blame – Shame Trap
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Length:
27 minutes
Released:
Jun 28, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode
Description
Do you ever feel like you are dancing with your spouse... and not a fun dance??
Most of the time, couples get into habits. They both know the steps, and they just keep going through them, 1-2-3, 1-2-3, 1-2-3....
No, the dances aren't particularly helpful. And yes, we keep dancing them, anyway!
One dance that many couples fall into is the Anger-Blame-Shame 3-step. And that particular dance? It keeps on repeating. Except that the anger grows. So does the blaming.
And so does the feeling of shame! "Why can't I/we figure this out?", they wonder.
And then, they dance it again.
How can you stop the dance? How can you find better steps? Better ways of moving through life?
That is the topic of this podcast episode (listen below). I tell you about those dance steps and why we do them... along with how to make a shift.
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Anger and Resentment (Yours)
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Stepping Up
The Save The Marriage System
Most of the time, couples get into habits. They both know the steps, and they just keep going through them, 1-2-3, 1-2-3, 1-2-3....
No, the dances aren't particularly helpful. And yes, we keep dancing them, anyway!
One dance that many couples fall into is the Anger-Blame-Shame 3-step. And that particular dance? It keeps on repeating. Except that the anger grows. So does the blaming.
And so does the feeling of shame! "Why can't I/we figure this out?", they wonder.
And then, they dance it again.
How can you stop the dance? How can you find better steps? Better ways of moving through life?
That is the topic of this podcast episode (listen below). I tell you about those dance steps and why we do them... along with how to make a shift.
RELATED RESOURCES
Show Up
Anger and Resentment (Yours)
Anger and Resentment (Your Spouse's)
Stepping Up
The Save The Marriage System
Released:
Jun 28, 2023
Format:
Podcast episode
Titles in the series (100)
Staying Stuck in the Negative – What DO you DO?: [Have a question about saving your marriage? Ask it by emailing me HERE.] Several listeners asked why a spouse only remembers the negative, or only dwells on the negative. Why don't they remember the good times or see the good things? by The Save The Marriage Podcast